xtremeherman Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Well I have been looking for advice for a little bit now and I just don't know... I have been going out with my girlfriend for over a year and it has been good. I quit a job that I liked to moved back home and be with her. I have a good job up here too but that's not really what I am worried about. We started going out when I live in another state and went about 6 months without being near each other. We lasted through it and when I first moved back I thought it was good. Now it seems like I really am just here for her and not for myself. I love her and we have even talked about marriage often and I care for her alot. Yet sometime I just want to be myself or do things by myself. Since I've been back all I do is go to work and after to her house. If she has something to do I just go to my apartment and chill but when I have something to do she flips out saying that I don't want to be with her. I can't have a single day go by without seeing her and it drives me nuts sometimes. If I say I am coming over and I am not there within 10 minutes she calls and complains that I am too slow. On holidays we have to do her families things first then comes mine. She says I spend more time with her family so they should come before mine. She still lives at home with her parents so I have to see them everyday too and sometimes they drive me nuts. When I try to talk with her about stuff she just flips and tells me that I don't love her and don't want to be with her. I'll be 21 soon and she'll be 20 at the end of the year, so I know we are still young but I have been thinking about breaking up with her and starting over but I just don't know. Any advice??
amaysngrace Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 I don't think it's healthy that she doesn't let you do things by yourself. You are suppose to have free time away from her. And she should do the same. This way you're two whole people in a relationship. You shouldn't have to give up parts of yourself for her or any girl. It's going to hurt your head if you do that. It sounds like she's either insecure in herself or clingy. And if you give up your free time to her you will start harboring resentment towards her. It sounds like you maybe already have. Listen to your gut. It rarely steers you wrong.
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