amiatrouble Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 is there any better way to get over somebody asap? by any chance that can have them back in future... so afraid that NC will leads to a total NC that i can have him back. how you going through this misarable period, care to share?
Zaira Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 The main factor in getting over someone for me is time... and keeping myself busy with other things. I think the more you think about getting back with someone, the more time it's going to take you to get over them. Every time I thought about my ex I just forcefully pushed it back out of my mind and concentrated on something else. To cure my depressive state I used to clean & exercise. I even took up a new hobby - studying
Motor35 Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Well said That is what everyone keeps telling me too. It is hard to remember when all you can do is sit around and commiserate. Try giving yourself a grieving period. Say, two weeks. Then after that, you have to go out with friends, find a hobby or do something you have always wanted to do. Do something for YOU. You deserve to treat yourself. Hugs!
jusified Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Agree with all the other post. You know you are just over it when you do all the above, then meet a great girl that you love and can't stop thinking about. By then when some one talks to you about the ex or she shows up you be like "who are you??"
kandi r Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Well can I tell you the mistake I made trying to get my ex back. Besides all the ups and downs we had I still wanted things to work. I begged and begged. I called and called. I cried and cried. I pleaded I tried to express how sorry I was. I revolved all of myself around this person. I could not picture myself without this person. It got so bad his family called to tell me to let it go and I can do better. He also changed his home number and told me to move on. Now some people are different. But I feel if you love someone and u truely want to spend ur life with them express it. I had a problem with letting go. Until he changed all his numbers and even has someone else answer his work phone. I stopped. Not a good idea what I did. Dont u do that. I am now dealing with the FACT it is over. I suggest like everyone else on here get to being busy. I am now enrolled in a college course. I love it. Beileve me even counseling helps. I know how much u miss this person. U want this person to grow old with and you would more than likely die for this person. This is exactly how i felt hun. I learned when someone wants to go let them go. after all the pain and drama with my ex i learned through time It was me who was hanging on and that was delaying my healing process. You ever head that saying if you love someone let them go if they come back they are urs if not it was not mean to be. It is tough babe. It is painfully tough when you fall head over heals in love with someone. But I had it rough hun so rough i almost lost my job and I am trying to get out of being depressed. You can do because I am doing it. YOUR NEW LOVE will come. NOT now but one day you will find love again. take care and god bless you.
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