steenerz Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Went on an amazing date Friday night...talked/laughed a lot..he seemed interested, b/c he asked when I'd be in his part of town next, and to call him when I am (plus gave me a kiss on the cheek!)...I got tickets to a sporting event and it happens to be one of his favorite teams...I called him tonight asking him if he'd be interested in going (the game is next Wed), and I left it on his voicemail. When can I expect a call? I've been in a long-term relationship, but never really dated, so I don't really know... I hope I hear from him soon. I really like him.
paris38 Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Guy should be calling YOU. He asked when YOU'D be in HIS part of town? umm, I don't think so. If the guy is really into you, he is asking you on a date and will travel to YOUR part of town. You should not be asking him out at at this point....tickets to his favorite sporting team? That is a great gift for him...after about 6 months of exclusive dating. He might still call....but he might be setting back waiting for you to call, in which case this is a guy you don't want anyway. I hope you're prepared to deal with that. However, he didn't say he'd call. He wanted YOU to call him when you'd be in his part of town? What is that about? He should be calling YOU if he's interested. He's putting the ball in your court right off and that is not right if he is really interested. The Rules and He's Just Not That Into You would be great resources for you as a young woman dating, particularly the second one which is written from a guy who will tell you the guy will 'step it up' to be with you, you hardly have to make any effort, just be yourself, if a guy wants to date you.
Author steenerz Posted January 9, 2007 Author Posted January 9, 2007 I guess I should have been more clear. He asked me when I'd be inhis part of town because that is where I'm from, and I go there almost every weekend to visit my mom and friends. This past date, he came down to see ME (but stayed with a friend). I asked him when we were leaving, if he would like to go to a game, and he said, yes, definitely.
paris38 Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 But you were too anxious in that you initiated the next date by asking him if he wanted to go to a game. Big no-no.
paris38 Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 you're going to appear to available and anxious by not letting the guy initiate the next date....if he was really into you during your date, he would initiate a next meeting, and he would probably call at least the day or night after the date...at the latest he should be calling you tonight. BUT - you may not have given him the chance to initiate the date...oh well, if he calls, great, if not OK. AT THIS POINT THE BALL IS IN HIS COURT, PLEASE DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN UNTIL HE CALLS YOU, OR DON'T EMAIL.....If you do get a next date, after that, let him initiate, let him pursue for a while. Let him see you as a prize and pursue you. Also, get the book The Rules and/or He's Just Not That Into You. I beg you, if you want a happy dating life. it really sounds as if you haven't dated in a while, it's showing. BUT it is NOT hard to undo, maybe not with this guy but with the next.
Author steenerz Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 anyone else have advice or opinions? Most of my friends don't think it is wrong what I did. One even said to call him so I wouldn't be playing any mind games by having to make him wait.
paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You had this great date on Friday. Has he called you? You left him a voicemail message already to go to a game. If he's polite he'll return your call to give you an answer at least. Ball's in his court, because if you keep calling him after you already left a voicemail that's just bugging him at that point (IMHO.)
LilMiss Intimidation Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I don't think you made the wrong choice by calling him for a second date before he called you. You simply asked him if he wanted to go with you. I don't think you should call him again though. Let him call you. If he's interested he won't make you wait and he'll return your call. If you were to call him again, THEN that would make you seem desperate or smothering. Afterall, you just started dating you DON'T want to overload him with "I called you and I never heard back from you" convos. Just wait it out. If you don't hear from him, move on. He wasn't worth your time to begin with. Good luck!
ls3360 Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I don't think you made the wrong choice by calling him for a second date before he called you. You simply asked him if he wanted to go with you. I don't think you should call him again though. Let him call you. Although I think between dates one and two the guy should normally make the first call, I think that's subtle. You had the tickets, so you made the call. That's reasonable. Bottom line: I think LMI has the right idea.
stupid_girl Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I hope the reason she isn't responding is because she's on a date with the guy. I don't know how to play "i'm interested, but I'm not THAT interested." Games SUCK!
Author steenerz Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 OHHH, how I was wish I was on a date with that boy! Still haven't heard form him...he has until Saturday (he works for a really big company, has a really high position, etc.) night...then I'm going with someone else. I KNOW not to call him again. Duh. I just have really amazing tickets. And he said himself he wanted to go. Bah. If he is as gentleman-ly as he was to me, he SHOULD call at least to say he can't go...
Author steenerz Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 Argh, I am just puzzled. He specifically told me, to call HIM, when I would be in the area, and he said he wanted to go to a game, when I asked him during the date! I even asked him if he was sure he would want to go. I could tell he was enthusiastic. I hope he is working 80 hrs this week like he said he does on occasion.... I think I am going to call him tomorrow, one last time, just to make sure he didn't just skip up on my message. I know that I'm too lazy to check my voicemail, sometimes, and I'm probably half as busy as he is. If no response...he's missing out on a great NBA game (what guy turns down a professional sports game anyway? ), and a make-out session. Boohahaha.
ls3360 Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 If no response...he's missing out on a great NBA game (what guy turns down a professional sports game anyway? ), and a make-out session. Boohahaha. 'funny :-) Best of luck. I hope it works out.
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