higherground5 Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 So I recently went out to dinner and then to a bar with my girlfriend and we are having a good time. We've been dating for 5 months now, and we go out like 1-2 times per week, maybe more. So as everything was going well, I'm sitting down with her at a table, and we start to become a little quiet...which I guess is natural because you see so much of eachother. As I'm sitting there I start noticing my gf glancing over my right hand shoulder. As I turned around, I noticed two guys standing there talking, one looked to be facing out and engaged in conversation. So we keep talking and then I noticed she kept on glancing over there. So at this point I'm not sure if she was just talking and looking past my shoulder as some people do, or if she was trying to make eye contact with this guy. After about 10 minutes, she tells me she wants another beer. So as I get up to get another beer, she was there by herself. I peaked over my shoulder when I left and that guy was kind of staring at me when I was walking away. When I returned, she was there hanging out, and we started talking normally again. This dude eventually went down the hall back to the other side of the bar, and about 5 minutes later she blatantly turned around to look down the hall. Then she made a comment about how this guy went up to an arguing couple and introduced himself, and she thought it was "funny". I'm not sure if this was the guy she was potentially giving glimpses to. Now was my girl flirting? I know she mentioned something about how "I'm so observant" because I have a tendency to look at people constantly when they walk by. So A) she was flirting with him B) if she was, was she purposely doing it to piss me off because I look at other people when they walk by C) could this all be up in my head? I guess I'm trying to figure out if it is naturally tendency for girls or guys to check out other people when they are around. Thoughts? Forbin
Touche Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Yeah, I have a thought. Keep questioning her like that and you'll drive her away. Now, stop it! Don't look for problems where there aren't any. Is she loyal to you? Has she ever actually cheated on you? Chill, dude.
Author higherground5 Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Yeah, I have a thought. Keep questioning her like that and you'll drive her away. Now, stop it! Don't look for problems where there aren't any. Is she loyal to you? Has she ever actually cheated on you? Chill, dude. I haven't questioned her at all about that...this is why I'm asking this audience! Yeah, she is loyal to me...and I don't believe she has cheated one me at all. I'm just curious if this is normal "human nature" behavior. Forbin
Touche Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I know you didn't question her DIRECTLY, but she will eventually pick up on this distrust without you saying a word. Yes, it's normal to observe other people when you're out. Doesn't mean a thing.
PandorasBox Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Ask yourself this question...which do you feel would drive you more mad, being in a relationship with someone you don't trust and have lots of suspiciouns of? Or being alone until you get over these insecurity issues? I have read lots of your other posts hun, and you have done nothing but have constant doubts of her. You will drive yourself nuts and I have a feeling that she could be as good as gold to you, and reassure you over and over shes doing nothing, and you would still wonder. Its just not a good way to live.
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