Strength to get over it.

[OD3]

About 2 months ago my Ex and I split up. She cheated on me and basically left me for this guy she worked with. Straight away, didnt even wait for me to move out.

 

It destroyed me, as I loved her more than anything. We were together for 2 years.

 

Since then we spoke occationally and decided we were going to try be friends. This didnt work because I still loved her, and her being with this other guy / sleeping with him just hurt me all the time.

 

Since then, we have decided not to speak anymore. As it just wouldnt work out.

 

I went on a "sexual rampage" of pain afterwards, pretty much sleeping with somewhere in the region of about 12 woman in about 1 and a half months. I was so numb, it was as if i didnt even have sex with them. It didnt help me feel better at all.

 

So i have since stopped looking for sex with woman and just tried to be happy on my own, but its been 2 months now and it still is hard. I keep thinking about her with him and it gives me nightmares everynight. I cant even escape the pain in my sleep.

 

Im just fed up of feeling this way now. I am a good looking guy and people really like me. I was very good to her and I treated her like gold and It wasnt my fault she cheated on me. I know all this, but Im sick of waiting to feel better. Im just fed of up the pain now and I want to move on and forget about her.

 

I have a lot of good friends and they help me. They have said that for 2 months I have come along so well and been so strong, and I do feel better, but it still hurts a lot. I never knew it was possible for a woman to destroy you so badly.

 

I have met some lovely girls, more beautiful than her, nicer than her, but I have a block on my heart preventing me from feeling anything. I cant move on until this block is removed.

 

What do i need to do? And if someone says "Time heals all wounds" I will douse this forum in petrol, lock you all inside, and set it on fire.

 

Thanks.

 

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[Passionate Lover]

Well. Same thing happend to me a few months ago and i'm dealing with it and slowly opening my heart to other women, in my opinion you need to just Sticking with ur freinds, begin to get back to normal, maybe hang with ur family get some more social realitions in your life if u havnt already, then try and going on dates BUT DON'T SLEEP WITH THEM make it more of a social date/dates talking BUT DONT TALK about what has happend to you with ur ex that will make things harder for you and the person ur dating to, Hang with ur mates get some support from family and even maybe ppl you don't know that well, just keep your self occupied, you should talk to ur ex and maybe that will help solve ur feelings a little its worth a try

 

 

Good luck

[resi71]

the sleeping around is not make feeling better.bring up more quilt.my girl was for me in bed everything what i can emaging.i did trust her,still do after 5 weeks.just do not try to think about sex with her what you had before,it breaks you down.stick arout with friend for while,they do not let you down

[sunangel]

In my opinion it would be good for you to see a professional about this. Therapy can really heal you on the inside not "time"! A situation like yours can really destroy a person and make them insecure. That's what's happening to you, but have faith that it will change, you just need to be positive and start thinking of YOUR future and cut all ties to this female. She doesn't deserve you not even as a friend. Don't give her the pleasure of even seeing you again. Trust me she's not the one. And when you do find that girl who will treat you good and appreciate you than all the pain will subside......... Take care and keep your head up!