Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 3) Block all forms of communication with him. Phones, emails, IM services. If blocking him from your home phone isnt possible, dont answer the home phone. tell everyone who may need to contact you to do it by cell phone, and if needed get a new cell phone number. Takes 10 minutes.
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 That e-mail is so on the money, he is going to go ballistic. I am afraid he might do something dangerous because he has to choose between me and his wife finding out. he definately does not like to feel threatened. i have seen this side of him twice before and it is really scary.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Okay, I misunderstood, I didn't realize that her marriage was rocky. FF remember, MM knows how to manipulate you to get what he wants. Don't be fooled by any charm or puppydog eyes...He is poison to you. You gotta look at it that way. He will only bring pain and damage to you. Sorry to say this FF Right now she isnt strong enough to deal with the issues that this will raise.
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 3) Block all forms of communication with him. Phones, emails, IM services. If blocking him from your home phone isnt possible, dont answer the home phone. tell everyone who may need to contact you to do it by cell phone, and if needed get a new cell phone number. Takes 10 minutes. He will just try to find me at school or when i am with the kids outside.
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 3) Block all forms of communication with him. Phones, emails, IM services. If blocking him from your home phone isnt possible, dont answer the home phone. tell everyone who may need to contact you to do it by cell phone, and if needed get a new cell phone number. Takes 10 minutes. Get call display, or just let your machine pick up and you can listen to the messages afterwards and return calls that aren't from him.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Get call display, or just let your machine pick up and you can listen to the messages afterwards and return calls that aren't from him. actually an answering machine or voicemail from him will still allow him to get to her. She will still have to listen to his voice, and will be able to hear emotion in it. We want no emotional contact with him at all.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 That e-mail is so on the money, he is going to go ballistic. I am afraid he might do something dangerous because he has to choose between me and his wife finding out. he definately does not like to feel threatened. i have seen this side of him twice before and it is really scary. That right there should be reason enough for you to stick to this.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 He will just try to find me at school or when i am with the kids outside. We will address this also. Already thought of this issue
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 So far, do you think you can do this??
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Yes-obviously I cannot listen to any of his voicemails he leaves and erase them beforehand-correct
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Yes-obviously I cannot listen to any of his voicemails he leaves and erase them beforehand-correct EXACTLY!! YOU CAN NOT HEAR HIS VOICE!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Okay so lets handle the next issue because he will be home tomorrow - should I send the e-mail when he is at work or home. He works Wed.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 I myself, I would send it tonight then be gone as much as possible till Wednesday. this is going to take some changes on your part to pull this off.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 4) Change your routine. He right now has the ability to " ambush " you because he knows when you do things, CHANGE THEM!! Instead of playing with the kids outside go to the park. Go to a friends and let the kids play outside there 5) For a while see if you can work something out for someone else to pick your children up from school. Its a potential contact activity
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 okay he knows my schedule so I will try to mix it up.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 okay he knows my schedule so I will try to mix it up. What this TRY Bulls*it???
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 sorry I am going to do it. I have done it before not a problem. You know where the problems starts because of my past threads. I have done the steps you mentioned before except for that e-mail.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 The email shouldnt be that big of a deal. You NEED to stick to this no matter if he gets an email or not.
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 The e-mail is no big deal it is after a week of rearranging my schedule like last time I simply gave up and went to a place he may or may not be well he was there and purposely went there everyday because he knew i would eventually show up. So this time I will not to do that. I will stay away as long as it takes .
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 BH-i have to go to sleep.Any last thoughts on how to handle tomorrow?
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 That is exactly what you need to do
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I really appreciate all your help. I need all the strength i have to get through tomorrow. One day at a time. Thanks again
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