bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 1) Inform him that contact is not to be made under any circumstances. Do not do this face to face or over the phone. He knows your buttons. Do it in writing, either email or letter. If that wont work do it third person. Can you do this??
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Yes, but remeber I did that once before and he came over ready to bust my door open. Believe me I am not making excuses just stating facts to prior e-mails about nc
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 So you don't answer the door if he comes over. If he tries to bust open the door, you call 911. No sheeyt. You have to be firm and TELL him goodbye and NEVER to contact you again. And you have to mean it, follow through with it, no matter what.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Yes, but remeber I did that once before and he came over ready to bust my door open. Believe me I am not making excuses just stating facts to prior e-mails about nc Then inform him that any contact will result in a restraining order. He shows up trying to bust your door down call the police. You have to show him you mean business
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Im being serious. Without that the rest of it means NOTHING.
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Your other alternative is tell your husband the truth. Tell him EVERYTHING and let him decide if he wants to give you a chance to fix the marriage. This WILL end your affair with the MM. Just an option you have. I'm sure not one you want to consider, but it WILL put a stop 100% to the affair and the MM won't bother you again.
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Maybe I'm naive here, but how is she going to call the cops and get a restraining order without H finding out? She'll have to have some reason to present to H ...
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Im being serious. Without that the rest of it means NOTHING. I can do it!!
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Maybe I'm naive here' date=' but how is she going to call the cops and get a restraining order without H finding out? She'll have to have some reason to present to H ...[/quote'].. H That is true because my H has no clue and mm and h are friends. he is going to be like why did you call the cops on him?
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Maybe I'm naive here' date=' but how is she going to call the cops and get a restraining order without H finding out? She'll have to have some reason to present to H ...[/quote'] We can work on that if the need arises. Please trust me here a bit people.
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Okay after I write him the e-mail which you want to be very specific right. Just do not contact me under any circumstance.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 So your sure you can do that? He has to know you mean business this time.
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Okay after I write him the e-mail which you want to be very specific right. Just do not contact me under any circumstance. Want me to write a generic email and PM it to you and you can add in names?
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 that would be great should I do it when he is working or when he is home.
oyster Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Your other alternative is tell your husband the truth. Tell him EVERYTHING and let him decide if he wants to give you a chance to fix the marriage. This WILL end your affair with the MM. Just an option you have. I'm sure not one you want to consider, but it WILL put a stop 100% to the affair and the MM won't bother you again. I am slow here, how would this end the affair if she tells her husband everything?
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 I am slow here, how would this end the affair if she tells her husband everything? Already addressed oyster. Next step will expose my train of thought on that issue
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 2) Find someone you can trust and tell them whats going on. Normally I would say your husband but right now I myself dont think that would work. I am concerned that any deep discussions with husband RIGHT NOW will just push FF back towards MM. We all know how emoptionally charged this topic can be.
forbidden fruit Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 My Best friend has been supporting me through this whole thing. She cannot stand my mm has met him and stands behind whatever I do.
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I am slow here, how would this end the affair if she tells her husband everything? Because in all honesty, she loves her husband and he will make her choose. MOST affairs that get busted like this, the person cheating stays with their spouse. Plus, her husband could tell the MM's wife, exposing the affair to her. Two pairs of eyes watching ... (if you want to know more about this, do a search on DazednConfused, his thread is Wife made stupid mistake, in the infidelity section, afew years ago.)
Author bonehead Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 Because in all honesty, she loves her husband and he will make her choose. MOST affairs that get busted like this, the person cheating stays with their spouse. Plus, her husband could tell the MM's wife, exposing the affair to her. Two pairs of eyes watching ... (if you want to know more about this, do a search on DazednConfused, his thread is Wife made stupid mistake, in the infidelity section, afew years ago.) But she has already stated her marriage is rocky. I want to avoid this for now. We need to protect her from MM before we put her in a situation that my push her towards MM
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Okay, I misunderstood, I didn't realize that her marriage was rocky. FF remember, MM knows how to manipulate you to get what he wants. Don't be fooled by any charm or puppydog eyes...He is poison to you. You gotta look at it that way. He will only bring pain and damage to you.
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