JamieB Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 How do you break up with people these days? Do you plan it or do you just go with the flow? Just curious.
bab Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 You should have the guts to do it in person, no matter what.
Zaira Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 In my opinion, only the gutless don't do it in person. In saying that though, I guess if it's a LDR then you really have no other choice. Still e-mail should be the very LAST method you use to break up with someone. That's just low and cowardly.
Author JamieB Posted January 8, 2007 Author Posted January 8, 2007 I admittedly did my last break-up via e-mail. I did it because I knew the guy would totally flip out, which he did. Actually I tried to break up with him in person, then over the phone, but he just kept being pathetic and I felt sorry for him. That's when I went to e-mail. He was pissed but he got the message I guess.
Zaira Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I admittedly did my last break-up via e-mail. I did it because I knew the guy would totally flip out, which he did. Actually I tried to break up with him in person, then over the phone, but he just kept being pathetic and I felt sorry for him. That's when I went to e-mail. He was pissed but he got the message I guess.That's a bit different. He obviously didn't get the message the first OR second time!!
Pyro Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I admittedly did my last break-up via e-mail. I did it because I knew the guy would totally flip out, which he did. Actually I tried to break up with him in person, then over the phone, but he just kept being pathetic and I felt sorry for him. That's when I went to e-mail. He was pissed but he got the message I guess. Nevermind.......................
D-Lish Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 It's good to do it in person if you can. Unless you have a fear for your safety. My ex broke up with me over the phone after a year of being together- it totally robbed me of closure and threw me for an emotional loop. I spent months afterward being resentful of the method of how he dumped me. It was cowardly, and it was disrespectful of him to do that to me. So, if you guys have a bit of history with one another, and you're not worried about your safety, it would be the right thing to do to do it in person. D
Porn_Guy Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 i usually just split without any explanation. works for me, less hassle and mess. no nasty fights or accusations.
Pyro Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 That's a bit different. He obviously didn't get the message the first OR second time!! This is true. First and foremost, try and communicate with the person, but if they refuse to listen or like D said, your life may be in danger, than plan B would be phone or e-mail.
Fun2BMe Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I don't understand what the point of doing it in person is. If you're at the stage to break up and are certain that's what you want, then you don't really care to be with the person anymore. So why put yourself in a situation that could get heated and even dangerous. You're not responsible to chear the person up who you're breaking up with, not that that would be possible. Unless you want them to suffer more by trying to talk you out of it, or if you still have feelings and want to see them again even if it is for such a terrible occassion, I think the best way to handle it is through email. Email is also preferable than the phone because you will have a chance to edit and write exactly what you want to say, whereas on the phone you will likely get interrupted and not be able to express what you want, which won't help either of you at such an emotional time.
sunangel Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I think the person deserves for you to break up face to face.... it's also good cause they can see your expressions and realize that your serious about this. Would you like for someone to break up with you in an e-mail etc. ? I don't think so..... Treat others how you want to be treated! Good Luck
Lostandfound Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Face to face definitely. Although my ex did it by text, and then we spoke, and she did it again a few minutes later by phone, and the wanted to meet a few weeks later to try again, and we agreed to, and then nothing. So I have experienced it all except for face to face honesty
Author JamieB Posted January 9, 2007 Author Posted January 9, 2007 I'm not breaking up with anyone. I was just curious how most people do it these days, given our technological advances.
Cub Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 I've taken it in email form and given it in email form. Same for person to person and phone. I think it just depends on the situation, though I'd say that if you have any respect for the person, to their face is the best way to do it.
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