Going Too fast?

[DreamCutter]

Hi Guys,

 

Just joined recently, so hopefully I'm not breaking any rules by adding my thread on here. I'll try to be as brief as possible when discribing my problem.

 

My girlfriend and I have been going steady for the last 7 months, but I'm quite sure she is rushing into things for the wrong reasons and I feel pressured into making decisions. Firstly I'm 20 years old, she is 24. We met each other at work and also still work there and live together. We are basically with each other 24 hours a day.

 

Before dating me she'd previously been in a 4 and a half year relationship. She is my first girlfriend and I did not really have much previous knowledge of girls and how to act in serious relationships. From the start of our relationships she tried to basically turn me into her ex boyfriend. where ever I would take her I'd always get the comment "Well, I used to do this a lot with (The Ex)". Also thing started happening rather quickly. She introduced me to her parents within a week of us dating, which really felt strange at the time. I didn't want to refuse, as I didn't want to lose her, but on the same token I didn't really want to meet them... it just felt too quick.

 

We also moved in together after around 2 months, which again was a bit quick. We live with 4 other people and also a baby. 2 of the people in the house are her brothers, one who doesn't pay rent... who she also gives money to. When he gets the money he returns to treating her like dirt. I've had to bite my tongue on so many occasions. She even called me by her ex's name twice.

 

She was also talking about getting married within 3 months of us being together. Now I'm concerned, I don't want things to go too fast and I don't want to tell her straight out that we are taking things too fast. I've tried it before and all I got was a shouting at and a threat to leave me. She's quite a fiesty girl and also has emotional problems.

 

Not saying I'm perfect at all, because I'm not. Does anyone think that it's going too quick and if so, what should I do about it?

 

Thank you kindy,

 

Andy

[Poboy]

too many wild situations in there man ... and you are going too fast. you need to self check your priorities and stuff and conclude whats best for yourself , now & future.

[Zaira]

You need to be able to express your feelings about the relationship, and she needs to pay attention to them. If she can't do that, then your relationship is completely doomed.

 

Either get how you're feeling through to her, or maybe consider moving on.

 

Wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too fast!