Loquacious Miss L. Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 I am new to this forum as a subscriber and have a question that I may already know the answer to....but still it's nice to hear things from an outsiders' perspective. I am a 28 year old teacher. Single, sometimes I do the whole online gig to see what's out there. A few weeks ago, a person I met on a dating site and I started chatting on the telephone. We seemed to have a lot in common, down to beliefs, dreams, desires, etc. He made me laugh and truth be told I was kind of hoping we could meet. So after our fourth conversation I casually suggested, "Hey, wanna meet sometime? It would be great to meet you and hang out." Later he IM'd me and asked me if I am on a timetable. I said whenever we could hang out that would be great. He then said, "If you want me to ask you to hang out, then let me ask," which is a strange response. But then later in the conversation he said, "What took us so long to find each other?" and "You're starting to inspire me," and all of that jazz. I guess the point is, that since then I've gotten a random text or two from him but then....nothing. I am annoyed because I don't know what his deal is. I am disappointed because he seemed to have a lot of potential from what I could gather. I guess I'm just venting because I don't understand what happened. Any opinions?
kymberann Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 I don't know Loquacious, I am just trying to figure this all out myself! I hope he is not leading you on!
Author Loquacious Miss L. Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 Annoying, isn't it? I hope for a day where there's no "figuring out" to be done. I've moved on from thinking there's gonna be anything but I hate getting my hopes up just to be let down....oh well, a lesson learned, I suppose!
kymberann Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 Yep, R's should not be this difficult! There should be no guessing of other's intentions. I think I am learning when an R makes you feel befuddled and you walk away scratching your head, it 's time to bail! Let's just be grateful we didn't get in deeper than we already have! Best
jidgey16 Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 i don't get why guys do this...they lead you on thinking that they really like you and use all these great words to get you hooked...then suddenly DONE! i dont understand this...
Pink Amulet Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Welcome Miss L! Well you seem pretty wonderful so he must have some good excuse not to want to meet up with you- and I am sure they have nothing to do with you! He is probably not who he says he is. Many people do the online dating thing for attention because they can't get it from attractive women in the real world. His evasive nature is probably his was of establishing power over someone who usually would not give him a second glance. ...or not but regardless I say give this one a miss.
jerbear Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 For being loquacious this is a pretty short post! My hunch is that he lead you on and was trying to get you more hooked or better you the perptual chatting till friends type. I'll mark this down as a near miss and take it as a loss.
Pyro Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I am new to this forum as a subscriber and have a question that I may already know the answer to....but still it's nice to hear things from an outsiders' perspective. I am a 28 year old teacher. Single, sometimes I do the whole online gig to see what's out there. A few weeks ago, a person I met on a dating site and I started chatting on the telephone. We seemed to have a lot in common, down to beliefs, dreams, desires, etc. He made me laugh and truth be told I was kind of hoping we could meet. So after our fourth conversation I casually suggested, "Hey, wanna meet sometime? It would be great to meet you and hang out." Later he IM'd me and asked me if I am on a timetable. I said whenever we could hang out that would be great. He then said, "If you want me to ask you to hang out, then let me ask," which is a strange response. But then later in the conversation he said, "What took us so long to find each other?" and "You're starting to inspire me," and all of that jazz. I guess the point is, that since then I've gotten a random text or two from him but then....nothing. I am annoyed because I don't know what his deal is. I am disappointed because he seemed to have a lot of potential from what I could gather. I guess I'm just venting because I don't understand what happened. Any opinions? Thats a little odd on his part. Like everyone else, forget about him and move on.
Curmudgeon Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 "If you want me to ask you to hang out, then let me ask," Sounds like one of several possibilities. He's not who or what he's portrayed himself to be and really doesn't want to meet. He has control issues or it's possibly an "I'm the man" issue with him which means he's insecure. Of course, he could just be lonely yet is fulfilled by online near romances and wants and needs nothing more, or fears anything more. I wouldn't spend a whole lot of time on him.
loquaciousl Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Thank you guys for your advice....movin on, movin on. It sucks being disappointed, but better for me to know now than later after I expend more energy. And to the person that said I wasn't very loquacious, well, good point. But sometimes things can be said simply. At least that was the case here. Wait until I really get started though;)!
magichands Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I wouldn't spend a whole lot of time on him. He's the mane man. Solid, as usual. It sucks being disappointed, Maybe he thinks you are going to spank him. Some buttocks are ultrasensitive. I was confused by the loquacious thing... I was guessing that a loquat is a plum tree, and so thinking you are sweet and fruity. But always stoned.
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