What do you think of this situation? Should i try for this?

[justagirl1121]

I've been told that it would be a good idea to be friends, but perhaps keep it as just that. I'm looking for some advice.

 

I don't have good luck AT all with this stuff. When I do have an opportunity, the moment I make any sort of voice of interest or to make plans, I get the cold shoulder. Seriously. I feel like maybe I don't show any affection, but the moment I do, they blow me off. So, it makes me think about it too much and afraid to say or do things.

 

Again though, I have a problem:

 

I met this guy through work. We worked at the same place for like 6 months. Now he has moved like 80 miles away. I'm not comfortable with dating people from work, but while my mind was occupied elsewhere, I knew he liked me, just by the things he'd say and stuff. I liked him as a friend, but I wasn't thinking about him in any other way. The whole working together thing just kind of kills the mood for me I guess. But all the well, he was a sweet kid and a lot of times I was just like, "now why can't the person I'm hanging out with be so sweet like that?" So, I knew I liked that. The compliments that I looked nice or the random text once or twice to hang out (unfortunately, I really was already doing something), or something about "pretty girls who are unspoken for me me nervous" and the comment to everyone about "everyone likes....(me)" ...we talked on the phone once or twice and went out to eat while he was on his lunch break and I was done for the day.

 

There felt like this initial vibe or something. When he first started, he'd sit in the front cubical of the transition section and I'd pass him a couple times a day to go to the restroom or breakroom. It always felt like somehow we always had this eye contact. Like how you're looking and u lock eyes for a second, then look away real quick. So from that moment, it kind of felt like there was a connection. Then we sat within earshot for a few weeks, and that was how that all came about.

 

At one point I was sort of seeing someone for like 2 months, but that went down the tubes. He kind of knew that I was, so now I feel like that could be something he thinks I'm still currently involved in, even though I'm not...and might feel I'm a lost cause.

 

Thing is, he moved like 2 weeks ago, so I really only knew he was going to move about 1-2 weeks prior to THAT. But my feelings towards him started to change. He wore a hat at work one of the last days he was there and he was being goofy and i was like that's so cute. he's got a great personality, he's funny, has one of those ways with words and stuff, and is just the sweetest kid ever. My initial turn off was that I am more attracted to tall guys (i'm like 5'6-5'7 myself) and those are aren't real slender. If anything, height works. I am fairly thin, I guess I just like to have something to hold and feel secure. He's not so tall. But I think he's like 5'8 or so...so he is taller; super slender. I guess that's not bothering me so much though. I'm a bit confused by my sudden change of feelings. Maybe it's kinda been there all along, I don't know for sure.

 

I feel as though I might have turned him into thinking I was not interested in him at all, though I never like said "no" to anything that he commented on like the "we should hang out sometime" comments. I said sure, but neither of us really made any great effort. A lot of it did have to do with he worked late, i worked early. He worked half the weekend, I had all the weekend off.

 

Thing is, I'm not sure how to proceed. I guess I can only start by trying to up the phone contact, let him know I'm not dating anyone, and give him an idea somehow that I have some interest? I'm gonna call him tonite to see how his move was, his first week of the new job, his new years, and so on...I guess I'm even nervous about that! I guess it feels weird, that suddenly he moves and I'm really interested. Any tips on how I could handle things?