Confused at 28 Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 So here is the situation... I met a girl in a bar (that was giving ME the eye) - this is the first time i've met a girl like this - we got on straight away, as it happens I can not see her very often right now... but I got in touch with her a week later, and we decided to go for a meal together - we got on really well, she seemed very keen, we couldn't stop chatting all night, and before we knew it we had been told off by the waiter 2 times for taking too long to order / leave(i know snotty waitor!!!) - we went onto a club, and left around 2am....I had already told her I am not into one night stands, and so she knew i was not expecting anything...so this led to just a kiss on the first night -perfect just what i am looking for in a girl. We said we would see each other again before i had to go away (3 days later) but the next day she said she had too much work - she is on a demanding degree.. but she said next time i'm back we would spend the day together - which we did, as it happens she met my parents (unheard of before on a second date for me) - she had no probs with this, and it was just as if we met friends - she loved them too. So again we didnt stop chatting all night and ended up kissing 2 times ( not that it was the most important thing )-for once instead of thinking more about sex it was the "buzz" just being with her, and she made me feel she felt the same-the way she looked at me when i was talking! she went away for new year, and I suggested we went to the cinema/ restaurant when she returned, but I was not going to wait for her to choose a day - so she replied with - the night she returned from her 4 day trip we will go on the 3rd date.... she then texted me the morning of the 3rd date - said her flight was delayed/she will miss her train home, and basically couldnt make it - she was sorry..and again to tell me when i'm next around. I can not work this out - she seems so keen when we are together, kisses me with passion, is enthrauled with our conversation, seems to be the perfect match....but then when i'm not with her - she never calls me, if she texts me it has to begin with a reply to a text i've sent her (even if there was no question), and a 50% hit ratio on the dates makes me wonder what she is upto....is it just one of those things (2 times), is she playing hard to get -wanting me to chase her (does this come from her psycology degree??), someone said maybe she has a boyfriend she is trying to get rid of or is she just like that??? I'm 28-confident, good looking enough not to be out of my league with her,and seem to be matched on most levels. I fall in love too easily (which she knows),i don't date a lot of girls (total 6 proper relationships since 17), and generaly tend to stay with them a while. she is 23(but sems to be the same mental age as me-grown up), she has a phsycology degree, she is classy, cool-layed back, and not at all slutty, very inteligent, pretty, has real manners.....its not hard to see why i'm attrected, and why i don't want to let this one get away. Please please help me with your thoughts...Its a really hard situation - i cant stop thinking about her-we seem to connect unlike i've ever had before, and can not figure out whats going on.
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