How to make the break

[Guest]

I have tried so many times to seperate from my wife. I have filed for divorce twice and both times she has guilted me into stopping it.

 

Hadnt lived with her in over a year, 2 months ago she got evicted and moved into my house while I was at work. Told me it was just for a week. I cant do this anymore. I have lost 20 pounds in two months, always feel sick ot my stomach.

 

I need help

[LegalEyz]

Why are you looking to divorce??? And what is it that she does to keep you from going through? I kinda feel I am in the same situation. Everytime I make my decision to move on, the guilt of leaving him alone comes over and I crawl back into my corner and life goes on. Are you legally separated???

[riobikini]

Guest, when a relationship begins to cause a serious decline in your health due to *whatever*, it's time to get completely serious and get a plan together.

 

Stop floundering around like a fish in a half-wet mudhole.

 

Get to work reconstructing your life (the destruction of it has obviously already ventured far past the point of no return, at least, for you).

 

The eviction fact tells us that there are financial concerns involving her personal upkeep.

 

Unless she brought children (yours?) along with her, I see no reason for her showing up to your door.

 

The fact she chose *you* to run and go live with (entered your home w/o your permission, no less) tells us that she looks at you as a provider whom she really doesn't owe the respect and courtesy to in consulting with first, before handing off to you any financial obligation she might be incurring with her presence (or might have brought along with her for you to "take care of").

 

And just think about that for a moment.

 

If -like LegalEyz is getting at- you are not legally separated under terms you both have agreed to, you may wind up with much more than a stomach ache in regards to providing for all her material upkeep.

 

And it looks like she's *counting* on that.

 

See a lawyer.

 

-Rio