pricillia Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 What does it mean when you bring up the MM's Marriage, he cries? streaming down the cheeks tears....
freakygal78 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Obviously that he has some bad feelings / negative emotions about it - I guess it would depend on what context this happened in? Could also mean guilt or a plethora of things. Clearly he is not in a happy situation.
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 He knows someone is going to get really hurt......And soon. Or he's feeling REALLY guilty about everything - Which will result (again) in someone getting hurt. Why? Did this happen to you?
frannie Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 What does it mean when you bring up the MM's Marriage, he cries? streaming down the cheeks tears.... Context..?
Author pricillia Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 Well ok I should explain..... I have backed off, and things have been going alright, he used to always always accuse me of wanting someone else, when I pulled away fully and he got in contact with me again he was so upset that he did cry and said that he was still so in love with me. Since then he has not really brought up another person like he used to. Keep in mind that I am not interested in someone else, and if I was I would not be with MM. He has though on a few occasions said that I should be faithfull... I know the irony, so lets not get into that, just trying to figure out why the whole tears thing. Last night there was a Company party he worked and did not go and I work in the same building but not for the same company, I just mentioned the party and said oh I know everyone is probably across the street I wonder who is there, he immediately flew off the handle and accuse me of having a crush on someone else..... I honestly thought that I was having a conversation with him but he took it another way. He said that how could someone he cares about so much ( me ) be thinking and wonderng what is going on with other people that it freaked him out thinking that I have a crush on someone else... I think that I have brought it up one other time I told him that this whole thing is hard for me that he goes home to another every night. He then proceded to cry, he lost it! I told him that he should stop accusing and trust because one day a person could be there and the next they could be gone. He lost it even further and said good I hope that I die ( meaning himself) he said that it would be easier then everything would be easier, and everything would be done.
quankanne Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 while it's entirely possible that he feels remorse about not being faithful to his wife, methinks his tears are more of a case of "poor pitiful me" – shed in the hopes that his misery will appeal to your nurturing side. Especially combined with the comment about wishing he'd be dead so that things would be easier. they're about manipulation, IMO ...
frannie Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 I think that I have brought it up one other time I told him that this whole thing is hard for me that he goes home to another every night. He then proceded to cry, he lost it! I told him that he should stop accusing and trust because one day a person could be there and the next they could be gone. He lost it even further and said good I hope that I die ( meaning himself) he said that it would be easier then everything would be easier, and everything would be done. Hmm... sounds like he's acting like a big kid? (sorry!) You said the situation was hard for you... and he cries..? Emotional manipulation..? Do you normally back off if he gets upset..? Take away the wife (metaphorically) and is this a great relationship for you..?
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 while it's entirely possible that he feels remorse about not being faithful to his wife, methinks his tears are more of a case of "poor pitiful me" – shed in the hopes that his misery will appeal to your nurturing side. Especially combined with the comment about wishing he'd be dead so that things would be easier. they're about manipulation, IMO ... Oh definately. He is pouring it on in such a big way. He is sad, having withdrawal symptoms...This has nothing to do on whether or not he loves/cares about you, he does...This is his EGO and his self worth reacting. He knows he can't control you and he's pulling out ALL the stops, trying to get you to react and back-down so things can go back to the way he wants 'em to. I bet it hurts seeing him like that, but don't let him fool you.
Author pricillia Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 Oh definately. He is pouring it on in such a big way. He is sad, having withdrawal symptoms...This has nothing to do on whether or not he loves/cares about you, he does...This is his EGO and his self worth reacting. He knows he can't control you and he's pulling out ALL the stops, trying to get you to react and back-down so things can go back to the way he wants 'em to. I bet it hurts seeing him like that, but don't let him fool you. Yes it does hurt seeing him like that and right now I have mixed feelings... is said having withdrawl symtoms??? explain, I value your perspective...
Author pricillia Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 Hmm... sounds like he's acting like a big kid? (sorry!) You said the situation was hard for you... and he cries..? Emotional manipulation..? Do you normally back off if he gets upset..? Take away the wife (metaphorically) and is this a great relationship for you..? If he gets upset it is like a storm hit the coast and you better take cover because once he has something in his mind you just have to let it pass... now there is a good side to this man or I would not have fallen for him.... It could be manipulation??? not sure what is brewing in his head...
frannie Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 If he gets upset it is like a storm hit the coast and you better take cover because once he has something in his mind you just have to let it pass... now there is a good side to this man or I would not have fallen for him.... It could be manipulation??? not sure what is brewing in his head... Well I don't know... I don't like overly-emotional men, so I wouldn't be comfortable with this... sounds like he uses his 'upset' to get other people in line. But that's just an impression from your words, maybe. When you ask about 'what is brewing'... I think... maybe you're letting your hopes cloud your judgement on what looks like something much simpler. Two or three people have said it looks like manipulation... what would you like to be brewing..? Hope I'm not upsetting you, because I can see you're having a bad time with this.
Author pricillia Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 no Frannie you are not upsetting me, yes I believe it could be manipulation... it was very intense to say the least...
freakygal78 Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 I have been victim to men's attempts to manipulate me so many times! Suggest change or improvement and they'll stop at nothing to keep the status quo - at least he has not attempted suicide yet! Regardless of the fact that he is married he sounds very controlling and I would hear warning bells going off after witnessing such behaviour.
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 I have been victim to men's attempts to manipulate me so many times! Suggest change or improvement and they'll stop at nothing to keep the status quo - at least he has not attempted suicide yet! Regardless of the fact that he is married he sounds very controlling and I would hear warning bells going off after witnessing such behaviour. Yes after that I was up all night thinking about this..
Touche Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 He sounds like a big baby to me...waa waa..boo hoo. Go find a REAL man (a single one too while you're at it.)
Art_Critic Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 He sounds like a big baby to me...waa waa..boo hoo. Go find a REAL man (a single one too while you're at it.) Agreed... what a manipulative baby.. pricillia.. You were already on your way to begining the healing with pulling away but you allowed the contact .. Why ?
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 He sounds like a big baby to me...waa waa..boo hoo. Go find a REAL man (a single one too while you're at it.) enough of that!!! I don't mind an opinion but I think that you are being crude
Touche Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 enough of that!!! I don't mind an opinion but I think that you are being crude Crude? Or honest, Pricillia. I'm not trying to upset you. I just have a very direct way about me. Sorry I upset you. But hey, he IS a big baby. Who wouldn't agree with that?
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 Crude? Or honest, Pricillia. I'm not trying to upset you. I just have a very direct way about me. Sorry I upset you. But hey, he IS a big baby. Who wouldn't agree with that? crude because he is a real man and he does have a good side.
Touche Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 crude because he is a real man and he does have a good side. No, not crude because you're asking for feedback on his BAD side now aren't you? You didn't ask about some good deed he did...you asked about his pouting/crying behavior. And I responded. So if he's so good and has such a great side, then why were you trying to break it off with him anyway?
Art_Critic Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 crude because he is a real man and he does have a good side. All people have a good side.. Scott Peterson had a good side too.. or the BTK killer.. they both were married and had kids and nice families.. So having a good side is not a factor in whether or not you should continue the affair..
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 All people have a good side.. Scott Peterson had a good side too.. or the BTK killer.. they both were married and had kids and nice families.. So having a good side is not a factor in whether or not you should continue the affair.. good point, AC.... I can see both sides of things. Just call me sensitive but debates often spill on to other threads....
Touche Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 All people have a good side.. Scott Peterson had a good side too.. . :lmao: But anyway, having a good side doesn't cancel out a REALLY bad side (or a baby side) does it?
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 :lmao: But anyway, having a good side doesn't cancel out a REALLY bad side (or a baby side) does it? No it doesn't so you have a baby side too or a really bad side....
Author pricillia Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 :lmao: But anyway, having a good side doesn't cancel out a REALLY bad side (or a baby side) does it? No it doesn't so you have a baby side too or a really bad side.... and with that said I am done replying to your ummm advice on this subject
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