redlynne Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 RMD, I agree & understand the anger ,but to actully do it ? What you did you directed to him ,not her . You didnt involve her family ,or from that post her really . It can be fixed & i hope it works out for all parties . It it just take work & maturity from all parties involved . OP i hope you discuss this with your family and it works out goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 whats really sick is the current OW of my Xmm is 23 years old he is 31( will be 32 next month )& last i spoke to him he said her mom loves him!(i never introduced him to family but unlike her i dont still live at home) I was like does she know you are M yes . And she(Ow) knew he was M and that he cheated on W and OW and he said she laughed thought it was sooo funny & became involved with him . Its wrong to cheat or be involved in cheating its not all black & white but some stuff is just enough to make you scream what drugs do we need to get you on for some morals ? :laugh: I must have missed this the first read. This is so funny. OK you were screwing him? You knew he was married? Now because she knew about you even though you knew about wife she needs drugs for morals?? Oh that's classic so classic denial. Hey MAYBE she was soooo IN LOVE with him that she didn't care he was married. Sound familiar? Oh or that he cheats. Obviously you knew he was a cheater and he was married but you had morals right? Ohh oh oh wait and you knew it was wrong and didn't tell family. She was comfortable enough and to tell mom and mom likes him. Hmmm ok so who is lacking in morals the one who believes it is wrong but does it anyway and hides it from her family and friends or someone who has no problem with it? Link to post Share on other sites
redlynne Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 :laugh: I must have missed this the first read. This is so funny. OK you were screwing him? You knew he was married? Now because she knew about you even though you knew about wife she needs drugs for morals?? Oh that's classic so classic denial. Hey MAYBE she was soooo IN LOVE with him that she didn't care he was married. Sound familiar? Oh or that he cheats. Obviously you knew he was a cheater and he was married but you had morals right? Ohh oh oh wait and you knew it was wrong and didn't tell family. She was comfortable enough and to tell mom and mom likes him. Hmmm ok so who is lacking in morals the one who believes it is wrong but does it anyway and hides it from her family and friends or someone who has no problem with it? Yes i did & do have morals thank you for being concerned but its really not nessasary:rolleyes: And did i state any comment to my morals ?no i did not. I know what i was doing wasnt right ,& im not going to explain myself to you. I dont respect any parent who would assist in a A with a MM under her roof and not have a problem with the situation. Yes an A is not something i would share with mum "just not that comfortable". We all know its wrong please. Thats just how i feel & you disagree . My day is ruined ! Thanks for sharing:D Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 As far as I'm concerned, the MM is still married. Seperation is a relative term. -- My husband and I failed reconcilliation FOUR times before we finally got it. We seperated, we divorced, and we still reconcilled. Divorce doesnt mean anything. It's a piece of worthless paper. A real divorce happens here in your heart, and let me tell you that it's really hard to divorce your heart. So separation is still married, well I agree with that. But if you've got a separation agreement and everyone knows what the point of that is, it's not the same as being married. I'm in the UK, and here unless there are other grounds brought, you have to be legally separarated for two years before the divorce is granted. Separation is very much a particular state, legally recognised. However yes, you're still married. As for 'divorce is just a piece of paper'. Perhaps it is in your mind, but legally that's just nonsense. May as well say 'marriage is just a piece of paper' too. Although I agree with you that it's what is in the heart that matters. Never thought I'd be hearing a BS say that though. So are you and Romeo still divorced, or did you remarry? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anotherow1 Posted January 14, 2007 Author Share Posted January 14, 2007 sorry i havent replied, i dont have a computer at home. So i may be a few days late in the reply... I read all the threads and i have to say to all those you positivley supported me, or at least gave me some encouraging words, i appreciate that and your being here. to those of you who were just trying to rub my mistakes in my face and make me feel ****, i do not thank you for your input. (and you know who you were). I find it funny that the bs's come in here and B!tch at us ow's to get out their frustration. fine whatever you need to do to make yourslef feel better. but you dont see me or others going to your bs forums at b!tching at you for being bad wives and not pleasing your husbands in a way that we could! so, in closing thank you again to those that know how horrible it feels to be the OW and would not want to make another OW feel like ****. I know you know the pain, and i guess some xOW forget that. I am pretty disappointed in myself, for i never thought i would be in this situation however, here i am. I dont know if i will be returning to this page b/c i have so much going on in my life at the moment i dont really feel like reading pages of you women fight about this and that. I hope all of you find the things in life that you are looking for, obviously we are all here b/c we have pain in our life and in our hearts b/c of an A. Maybe thats why there is so much fighting, maybe everyone is taking it out on everyone on here, either way. I wish you all well, hopefully i dont get stabbed at an intersection!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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