WonderWater Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 For all of us "Others", I think there is a point when you find yourself doing something so crazy to hide the A that you realize what type of person you have turned into.... I am looking at one of those. Since my MM and I are in a very strange place (see my previous post), he wanted to get together today and talk some more. The meeting location was going to be my house. (Yes, I know what a bad idea this was and exactly where it would have headed) Well, I never call my MM or try to contact him outside of our workplace, as he does not also. That includes calling his cell or sending email to his home accounts. I honestly don't have a clue how he and his wife interact over those things. But, with my husband and I, he would answer my cell phone for me and we used the same computer, so he saw my email quite often. Last night, my husband tells me that he is going to be spending the morning and the afternoon at the house doing some things. I had planned on my house being empty since it is his weekend with our daughter. I could not get out of it, as he would have gotten too suspicious. (He knows about the A, but thinks it is over). I have been trying to reach my MM by private-messaging him through this game website that I know he has an account on and frequents every night, except last night it seems... I have not yet received an acknowledgement of my cancellation. So, I am nervous as hell. My next step is to convince my husband to run errands with me this morning to help load a heavy piece of furniture into my car. Then I can keep him away from the house for a few hours and hope that if my MM shows up, he will get the point. Yeah, this is too ridiculous anymore.
scaredinlove Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 For all of us "Others", I think there is a point when you find yourself doing something so crazy to hide the A that you realize what type of person you have turned into.... I am looking at one of those. Since my MM and I are in a very strange place (see my previous post), he wanted to get together today and talk some more. The meeting location was going to be my house. (Yes, I know what a bad idea this was and exactly where it would have headed) Well, I never call my MM or try to contact him outside of our workplace, as he does not also. That includes calling his cell or sending email to his home accounts. I honestly don't have a clue how he and his wife interact over those things. But, with my husband and I, he would answer my cell phone for me and we used the same computer, so he saw my email quite often. Last night, my husband tells me that he is going to be spending the morning and the afternoon at the house doing some things. I had planned on my house being empty since it is his weekend with our daughter. I could not get out of it, as he would have gotten too suspicious. (He knows about the A, but thinks it is over). I have been trying to reach my MM by private-messaging him through this game website that I know he has an account on and frequents every night, except last night it seems... I have not yet received an acknowledgement of my cancellation. So, I am nervous as hell. My next step is to convince my husband to run errands with me this morning to help load a heavy piece of furniture into my car. Then I can keep him away from the house for a few hours and hope that if my MM shows up, he will get the point. Yeah, this is too ridiculous anymore. It reminds me of a time when my affair was at full blown. MM said he was showing up at my work since I was by myself and my H showed up there few minutes earlier. I called MM in his cell pretending I was talking to a custumer and my h was there looking at my face waiting me to finish the conversation.MM was like ,what is wrong wth you? but he finally got the message and didnt stop over.It was pretty scary.... Good luck for you....
herenow Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 Forgive me if this sounds unorthodox, but how about being honest with your husband?
seibert253 Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Your sins shall find you out. God has a sense of humor, but he is also just. He always gives you just enough rope to hang yourself.
Zaira Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Doesn't this shake you up enough to realise that you're doing the wrong thing, and it might be time to stop it? Apart from saying that, because I'm sure you've heard all the moral bashing before, I'm sure if your A did turn up at your house you could make some innocent excuse based on work. I mean at the end of the day, you are either going to get caught out and be forced to tell the truth, or you'll find yourself lying more and more to get away with it.
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