stanchain Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Ok Ok Ok Ok... now gunny and everybody else tell me how stupid I am.... But I messed up kinda. I just moved out of our place and we have to do the walk through. So I called, well sent her a message today giving her the land ladies number so that My ex could do the walk through with the land lady. I didnt talk to my ex or anything but because her name is on the lease I felt it was only right to do that. Ok that is the first thing. Second thing is that the last couple days have been pretty hard for some odd reason. I mean last week was a breeze, went out met women actually had a lot of fun. But for some reason I have not been able to get my ex out of my mind. I do not know if it is because I am going out and kicking it with other women.. or what. but I have had like 3 dreams with her in it the last 3 -4 nights. What gives. So part of me calling today was because... well i missed her, and the other part is because the land lady was going to be doing the walk through. Oh by the way about 3 hours after I left the message her cousin called me out of nowhere. Hadnt talked to her cousin in like 3-4 weeks and she called out of the blue. Found that a little odd. And last but not least. My date last night went really well. Didnt think about my ex at all really. The girl I went with is really nice, has a lot going for her. But once the date was over... it felt a little odd... why I am not really sure. I think it was because she and I were talking and she was saying how i seem like a really good guy this and that, and it just made me think how can this woman see it and such.. but my ex cant. now legs, gunny, I am not going to start calling my ex and all that bad stuff... today has just ben one of those bad days.
Cub Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 I mean, as long as you only called because of the house it's not that big of a deal. It's actually probably better that way. You have enough respect for her to contact her for important matters, but you're not openly showing any desire for her or weakness in the breakup. That's what is important. It's natural to miss her. When you go on NC your ex isn't gonna be the only one to feel the affects. It works both ways. The trick is to keep moving despite how you feel. You're still in the beginning stages of getting over her and you're going to relapse sometimes, but if you stay strong and avoid talking to her about more than the most essential, the process will go twenty times faster.
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