dunnowat2du Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 well me and my girlfriend are broken up. she still wants me back i believe, and i think i want her back. but heres my problem. i cant stop thinking about her, and i want to give her another chance. but than again i dont want to. i love her soooo much. why do i feel this way?? i think maybe im scared of getting hurt again. afraid if i go back she will hurt me again, and put me through a bunch of problems. has anyone else expierenced those kinds of feelings? as in you want you ex back, and still love them, but than again dont for some odd reason? thanks!!
freckles73 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 How long has it been since you broke up? Did you initiate the break-up, or did she? Whether or not you should get back together or not depends on what the circumstances were for the break-up. If there was cheating, I'm not sure I would advocate getting back together, but if there was something more circumstantial in nature that can be worked on and resolved, it may be worth a shot.
Author dunnowat2du Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 she broke up with me 5 days ago, because she didnt feel it anymore apparently, but now she regrets the decision, and says she does want me. and that she wishes she never dumped me. but of course theres another problem, when i say lets get back together she says i dont know. i say why, and she says it would be so awkward. she is a really stubborn girl by the way!
MaxFlirt Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 Well, it sounds like an case of your head and your heart disagreeing. Chances are you really dont' want her back - deep down. However your heart is hurting and does want her back. I'll give you a story from when I was younger- Dated this girl for a couple of months. I could tell she was falling for me. Truth be told I was starting for fall for her too. I didn't want that. I wanted to be single, date around, etc. so I broke it off. She was upset but understood. That's what killed me. She understood. I was OK with it until she started dating some other guy. Then all of a sudden, I went into getting her back mode. I told a good friend about the situation and she told me flat out - you don't really want to be back with her (not wanring me, just informing me of my real feelings). I ignored it. We did get back together after 2 or so months. We dated for 3 years. It was a rocky relationship. Sometimes I look back on it and think to myself that I should have let her go back then. It's not like the 3 years were wasted, but I really should have gone with my initial gut of the break-up. I just wasn't mature enough to deal with her moving on. It was complete selfishness really.
timo Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 hey dude this gurl is not stable she is young n wanna play sometimes she feels she wanna u but other times she doesnt want u just leave her n dun talkn c wuts goin 2 happen dun talk about ur relationship till she does dun talk with her leave her to decide cause if u chose to stay with her she will b mean good luck timo
Author dunnowat2du Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 thanks guys, also about this girl: she has had a very tough childhood, she has been emotinally hurt. she has been seeing a theripist for it, and the lady told her the reason she picks fights with me is because it is a reflection of the past. apparently once she starts fighting she cannot see the consequences until she has done, whatever she has done. i feel that it is good we broke up now, not because i dont want to be with her, but because if she didnt break up with me, she would have never seen what she is missing. i have a strong feeling we will get back together, and even though you say my heart wants one thing and my head wants another, but now im starting to feel that they both want the same, which is her. now that i know what i know, which is she cant really control her fights, and cannot really function proporley in a relationship, i seem to love her more, and want to be there for her more. there is no doubt she has treated me bad at times, but i still love the good times more than anything in life. i know that she is getting help, and it will take time, but eventually she will start getting better.
Author dunnowat2du Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 well i took her back, we r still having some problems, she says we dont get along, but we pretty much so0lved it today. i know have a new problem. she asked if its all right if she can go with her ex boyfriend to his school dance "twirp" just as friends. i trust her, but i dont trust him!!!!
Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 then u take the weight off, balance it, and u see it is easier than more rewarding than the superfish But there are challenges in being connected with a "soul mate". My partner and I can intuitively sense the other person's thoughts and feelings. There is nowhere to hide. Our relationship is deeper and more intense than any we have previously experienced, which can feel overwhelming at times. It is easier to be in a more superficial relationship.
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