TYASAFAHICSI Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 OK, here is the Cliff Notes version. Met a girl online. Had an afternoon date (lunch and a walk around town), quick kiss goodbye and a promise to get together again. Few phone calls and so forth. Divulged that there was a bad tragedy in her life about a year ago that would effect anyone, but she is dealing. One call when she was drunk talked about wanting to sleep together and all that. Now, she wants me to come to her place tomorrow and suggested I bring my dog because I will probably not want to go home that night (alluding that TYASAFAHICSI is getting some poontang). But, she is nice enough, but she also seems insecure, like always asking if I thought she was cute, was I checking her out when we met, etc. Almost to the point of being irritating. Needs lots of reassurance. The drunk call was almost childish -- do you think I am cute heee hee, etc. Now this woman is close to 45 so she is not a child. I am not sure I want to go there tomorrow (OMG is TYASAFAHICSI actually turning down poontang??) I do enjoy the thrill of the chase and I am just not feelig too comfortable here. She brought up safe sex and said she is tested and clean and does not like to practice it. Has not been with a guy for three or four months, etc. Twice divorced. Now I don't like to practice it either, but it is almost a necessity these days and with this being too soon I would prefer to use a condom! I like the chase. I don't mind waiting. I am not sure I want to jump in bed with her. ANy thoughts from LoveShack land?
IpAncA Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 OK, here is the Cliff Notes version. Met a girl online. Had an afternoon date (lunch and a walk around town), quick kiss goodbye and a promise to get together again. Few phone calls and so forth. Divulged that there was a bad tragedy in her life about a year ago that would effect anyone, but she is dealing. One call when she was drunk talked about wanting to sleep together and all that. Now, she wants me to come to her place tomorrow and suggested I bring my dog because I will probably not want to go home that night (alluding that TYASAFAHICSI is getting some poontang). But, she is nice enough, but she also seems insecure, like always asking if I thought she was cute, was I checking her out when we met, etc. Almost to the point of being irritating. Needs lots of reassurance. The drunk call was almost childish -- do you think I am cute heee hee, etc. Now this woman is close to 45 so she is not a child. I am not sure I want to go there tomorrow (OMG is TYASAFAHICSI actually turning down poontang??) I do enjoy the thrill of the chase and I am just not feelig too comfortable here. She brought up safe sex and said she is tested and clean and does not like to practice it. Has not been with a guy for three or four months, etc. Twice divorced. Now I don't like to practice it either, but it is almost a necessity these days and with this being too soon I would prefer to use a condom! I like the chase. I don't mind waiting. I am not sure I want to jump in bed with her. ANy thoughts from LoveShack land? Sorry I know it's not funny but I can't help but laught at this. If your unsure then don't go over but you know she was drunk so that maybe why she did that. Is she always like that or was this a one time thing?
Art_Critic Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 I say bang her and come back to LS to tell us about it.. All jokes aside.. You might want to put a little more time into this one before sleeping with her.. You have already alluded to the fact that there is more to this iceberg under the surface.. One date and then talk about sleeping with you.. She is trying to get you involved before you find out more about her.. So my advice is to wait on the sex for a couple or few more dates..ask more personal questions of her during this time.. I mean if she will allow you to sleep with her then dig about her divorces.. alcohol use. etc etc Just my 2 pennies.. for what they are worth... What ever happened to the guy/girl girl ?
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Take it slowly...You already are seeing red flags, and there are some things about this woman which has made you stop and think. Last thing I wanna read from you is she boiled your dog overnight. You don't really know this woman at all.
IpAncA Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 What ever happened to the guy/girl girl ? Yeah I was wondering that too.
luvtoto Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 She's 45?! By then, she should know then if she's attractive or not. She shouldn't need to ask you. When I date, I never ask the guy what he thinks of me.
Art_Critic Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 When I date, I never ask the guy what he thinks of me. Same here.. When I date a girl I never ask her what she thinks of me.. I'm afraid she might tell me and that might ruin the sex...
luvtoto Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Same here.. When I date a girl I never ask her what she thinks of me.. I'm afraid she might tell me and that might ruin the sex... Exactly! Those people are just fishing for compliments. Can't stand people like that. I think that's immature and unattractive.
Island Girl Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Her insecurity is something to be concerned about. She has 2 failed marriages and could just be carrying some baggage from those. She could have suffered from low self-esteem her whole life. Who knows. Whatever the reason, she is one that should be handled carefully emotionally and physically (the speed of jumping into bed with her AND by all means wear a condom). My brother has dated crazies in the past. Not bad people but they've carried some pretty bad problems and have tended to spread them to the people they get involved with. So just heed the 'caution tape'.
luvtoto Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 If I were Tanr;jre.. (wha?)..ok, if I were the OP (haha), I would pull back a bit. Definitely not sleep with her. I would cancel the date and wait to see how she reacts. I would think that there would be some kind of reaction.
Island Girl Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 I wouldn't cancel the date. It seems a bit unfair and short-sighted. But then again I'd want to study her in person and see where her conversational skills are and what she chooses to talk about on a date. If it is more of the same (constant reassurances) I'd end it.
Author TYASAFAHICSI Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 Thanks guys. As for the other girl I was dating--it got physical and then she began to feel a bit odd about having sex as a woman and sort of freaked ot a bit. I guess it was just a side effect of what she went through and somethign that she needs to internalize herself. This one just has me puzzled and a little on edge. Thanks for the advice
Porn_Guy Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 ANy thoughts from LoveShack land? yes, run...don't walk
amaysngrace Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 She brought up safe sex and said she is tested and clean and does not like to practice it. Has not been with a guy for three or four months, etc. I've been seeing my BF for over three or four months now. We know we're both clean (outwardly) but even we won't go there. It doesn't matter if it's the day after my period so I know I'm safe from pregnancy. What matters is that without a bloodtest how could either one of us be sure we're safe from the other and how could we possibly be sure we won't get pregnant? Too many risks to go without protection IMO.
amaysngrace Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 she began to feel a bit odd about having sex as a woman So did she strap one on?
Author TYASAFAHICSI Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 So did she strap one on? Not terribly funny.
amaysngrace Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Not terribly funny. I know...I'm lacking these days. Anyway why are you on websites trying to find someone special again? I hate to say it but you sound like a weirdo magnet.
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