luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Hey guys, would you ever approach an attractive, single woman in public place as a way of meeting her? If you have, what made her approachable to you? Did she give off some kind of an "I'm approachable" sign to you? What are these signs?
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Smile at me and make decent eye contact. That's all I need to approach her.
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 Smile at me and make decent eye contact. That's all I need to approach her. So, if a woman blushes and looks away, is that a bad sign to a man? I do that all the time!
IWalkAlone Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 The strongest "I'm approachable" sign is brief eye contact and a smile. Add a wave and if the guy doesn't approach you, he's either married or a loser. (If he does approach you after a wave, he may STILL be married or a loser, but you'll just have to screen them out. ) Next would be to have a happy look on your face and have you face up, staying looking around the room, not like you're looking for someone to arrive (a boyfriend), but that you're aware & involved with what is happening in the room. "Do NOT approach me!" signs would be keeping your head & eyes down, not looking around the room or at anyone else, looking like you're irritated or angry at something.
Art_Critic Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 For me it depends on the public place.. I would speak with someone at the gas pumps of a gas station but not in a mall shopping.. Someone waiting on tires being put on her car is more approachable to me that say someone at Starbucks.. At the tire place everyone wants to shoot the crap and at Starbucks they might be working or reading and not want to be bothered. and as far as approaching a girl if she has shot me the sign.. I will approach a girl anyplace if the sign was shot to me that the door was open. Sometimes all it takes is a HI !!
Porn_Guy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily.
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 For me it depends on the public place.. I would speak with someone at the gas pumps of a gas station but not in a mall shopping.. Yea, I don't like to be bothered when I am shopping either. Haha! Someone waiting on tires being put on her car is more approachable to me that say someone at Starbucks.. I am seriously getting new tires put on my car in a month! I usually just drop my car off. Haha! and as far as approaching a girl if she has shot me the sign.. I will approach a girl anyplace if the sign was shot to me that the door was open. Shot you what? A look? A wink...?? How did that woman know you were single? Sometimes all it takes is a HI !! I just assume that any good looking guy is already married. I would hate to say 'HI' to a married guy. I would feel stupid then.
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily. I don't want the guy to think I am a hooker!
Porn_Guy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I don't want the guy to think I am a hooker! well its still a good way to get them to approach, I say.... and you can provide the sex for free so you really wouldn't be classified as a lady of ill repute the "slutty look" works, trust me...
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 the "slutty look" works, trust me... Well, maybe in a bar! I am talking about at my son's basketball games or at the grocery store. But, trust me...I can DO the slutty look when it's appropriate.
Art_Critic Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Shot you what? A look? A wink...?? How did that woman know you were single? I just assume that any good looking guy is already married. I would hate to say 'HI' to a married guy. I would feel stupid then. Not a wink.. Just a nice warm smile and a Hi.. When I was married there were women that would smile or hit on me thinking I was single and I just smiled back.. I never once thought anything bad about them.. If they are married don't feel stupid.. they will just move on.. ( hopefully )
ls3360 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily. Funny :-) But just in case someone thought you were serious, I'll clarify that some guys will run away as fast as they can if the gal is dressed up like a hooker. J.
Porn_Guy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Well, maybe in a bar! I am talking about at my son's basketball games or at the grocery store. But, trust me...I can DO the slutty look when it's appropriate. ha ha ha....when youre trolling for men everywhere is appropriate no matter where I am my eyes are on sexiest woman in the place
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 ha ha ha....when youre trolling for men everywhere is appropriate no matter where I am my eyes are on sexiest woman in the place Seriously...is this Alpha?? You are just looking for a hookup though, right?
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 So, if a woman blushes and looks away, is that a bad sign to a man? I do that all the time! If she does not smile or make eye contact and looks away I read that as "I don't want to be approached." You'll have to learn to overcome those insecurities and smile at men and make eye contact. Takes a little practice to get good, but what doesn't?
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 Funny :-) But just in case someone thought you were serious, I'll clarify that some guys will run away as fast as they can if the gal is dressed up like a hooker. J. I agree!! I would feel the same way about a guy that looked at me like that. I would label him as a 'guy slut'...or 'porn guy'! haha!
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Funny :-) But just in case someone thought you were serious, I'll clarify that some guys will run away as fast as they can if the gal is dressed up like a hooker. J. Yep, total turn off to me. I totally dig classy women but I also like women comfy in jeans and a tee shirt. Naturally good looking, girl next door types. Dress like a hooker/slut and I'm not even remotely interested....
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 Yep, total turn off to me. I totally dig classy women but I also like women comfy in jeans and a tee shirt. Naturally good looking, girl next door types. Dress like a hooker/slut and I'm not even remotely interested.... Ya know the saying, you are what you attract. If I dress slutty, I will attract slutty. Not my style.
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Ya know the saying, you are what you attract. If I dress slutty, I will attract slutty. Not my style. Kind of like women posting T&A shots on a profile. Well, what they did they expect to attract but the pervs? Give me Eva Longoria over Paris Hilton any day of the week.
2sunny Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I remember a few years ago I ran out on a whim to the pharmacy to get something for my son - no shoes - sundress - no ring - This guy comes up to me and says - you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen! I was looking around like - are you talking to ME???? He said - yes - you... I am sure I blushed - but my response at the time was - you are so sweet and kind - but I am married... he said - your husband is a lucky man... I should have said - ya - and he is a cheater too... I just smiled and touched his arm and said he was a very sweet man! Damn - the opportunities I lost along the way by being a faithful wife...
Author luvtoto Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 I remember a few years ago I ran out on a whim to the pharmacy to get something for my son - no shoes - sundress - no ring - This guy comes up to me and says - you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen! I was looking around like - are you talking to ME???? He said - yes - you... I am sure I blushed - but my response at the time was - you are so sweet and kind - but I am married... he said - your husband is a lucky man... I should have said - ya - and he is a cheater too... I just smiled and touched his arm and said he was a very sweet man! Damn - the opportunities I lost along the way by being a faithful wife... So...was he hot? The guy that hit on you? Just curious.. Usually old farts say that stuff to me. ~ So, I guess it doesn't make a person look bad for hitting on a married person. If anything, it makes them feel good about themselves. Cool. I learned something.
2sunny Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 he was very attractive - but i was married - and totally caught off guard by his approaching me... i made him feel that i was grateful - but taken....
ls3360 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Hey guys, would you ever approach an attractive, single woman in public place as a way of meeting her? Very rarely. Occasionally I'll accost a (pretty or not) nearby gal just to be friendly or do something kind or chivalrous, but in my case, not to establish a friendship. (I'm thinking "shopping mall" as I answer this.) Whether she's single or not doesn't come in to play because I have no way of knowing. This has nothing to do with being attracted or not attracted. I usually just don't have expectations that a chance brief meeting could turn in to something. (At least not before reading this thread :-)) You mentioned "pretty". It is possible that if she's pretty my adrenaline might be a bit higher and my ability to generate smalltalk might also be a little impaired. I'm at a loss right now to think of an example though so I can't really say more about that. J.
Guest Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 obviously if u didn't flirt with him and it was him making the moves he thought u were single...do u wear a ring? did u talk about hubby? i would approach an old friend or ex but not to HIT ON them if they are with someone - what kinda of man would she think i am? i think its like people in affairs - they don't realize how that impacts everything and everyone they get it - some before its too late and can repair others just ask u to wait it out - until POOF no-one is around i must say tho if u need a friend to take you to some sessions about this stuff i would love to support because it seems like u can't enjoy the relationship you are in, maybe that's why u bounce around - YOU NEED TO LEARN TO TRUST, ENJOY THE MOMENT, REPAIR THE PAST DAMAGE AND SELF WORTH AND THE FIRST STEP is doing that with someone that wants to help [you run away from those - so until u do that - you stay at ground zero] let me know if i can help just over on bank street IGO cafe watching some porn with my gf
Rooster_DAR Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 If she does not smile or make eye contact and looks away I read that as "I don't want to be approached." You'll have to learn to overcome those insecurities and smile at men and make eye contact. Takes a little practice to get good, but what doesn't? I agree 100 percent here. You have to be able to look at someone in the eyes and smile as you pass buy. Smiling at someone does several things, but mainly it shows you're confident and that you are possibly interested. Cheers!
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