Genji Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I was friends with this girl before dating. Anyways that's how I can spot all these readable moves that i'm going to write about. This girl started playing hard to get and it was very noticable. When we were friends there was a flow and chemistry, then when we started dating she started acting distant and hot/cold aka playing games. Basically putting on a front all of a sudden. Acting hot one minute, acting cold the next. Agreeing to dates and flaking out last minute with an obvious excuse, only happend once but I'm reading these as signs of disinterest. I got unreturned phone calls, if it happens once ok, happens another 2-3 times I don't think anyone with a backbone is going to put up with it. Basically anything that was a readable game move was a redflag for me, that's how I took it. Acting hot one minute, then acting cold the next. Not returning phone calls in a decent amount of time to make herself look more scarce. Picking up the phone and sounding very happy, then the next time she picks up it's like she didn't even want to hear from me. Also all of a sudden trying to make me jealous on purpose. Everytime she was busy, she would counter offer other days she was free. I took this later as she was stringing me along, happend twice. I was friends with this girl first and she was awesome and after some dating she did a 180 on me acting hot/cold. Our dates were great, constant eye contact, touching, flirting, her contributing to the conversation, basically anything that would not put up red flags. After some thinking I can understand why some girls play games, it's to protect themselves from being hurt? I'm not sure. That's how I see it. I walked away from the situation because I know some girls are too nice to say they aren't interested. I just cut her off, she did call me a while later but i'm thinking she did that to be nice. I was not available when she called, I didn't call her back... Am I wrong in this situation to walk away? I took her actions and acted accordingly. She didn't seem interested or willing to invest in the relationship. So I'm going to walk away. I had a situation like this in the past and I basically chased the girl down when she showed no signs of interest and that was a hard learned lesson. I did not do anything stupid to throw her off. She's not replying to me anymore, I think she's upset with me cutting her off? But why? I wish I could talk to her and be more open with what i'm typing here but I cant. This girl is a great person and was an awesome friend, i'm beat up over this situation because of our friendship. The older you get the harder it is to find friends like this.
ls3360 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I walked away from the situation because I know some girls are too nice to say they aren't interested. I just cut her off, she did call me a while later but i'm thinking she did that to be nice. I was not available when she called, I didn't call her back... Am I wrong in this situation to walk away? ... I had a situation like this in the past and I basically chased the girl down when she showed no signs of interest and that was a hard learned lesson. I did not do anything stupid to throw her off. She's not replying to me anymore, I think she's upset with me cutting her off? But why? I wish I could talk to her and be more open with what i'm typing here but I cant. This girl is a great person and was an awesome friend, i'm beat up over this situation because of our friendship. The older you get the harder it is to find friends like this. Your message seems mixed here. You say you want to talk with her, but you didn't return a phone call? You're unhappy about her not returning phone calls, but you did the same? Your lesson about chasing the other gal was good, but now it sounds like you're scarred and playing variations of the same gal she's playing. How about just talking to her? You say she's a great gal. Just talk with her!
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