Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 This morning out of the blue I receive a phone call from a friend of mine, who works for the company I used to work for and the one my ex currently works for, the conversation was just catching up on old times, and then the subject of my ex came up. I basically said that I have moved on, had a few messages from her over the holidays, but nothing major, and basicaly then changed the subject. Then an hour later another friend phoned, basically asking a bit more about the ex and what my feelings are, again I changed the subject, after giving the same answer. Then this evening another one called me, but this time it was one who is closer to her than me, and I get the same How are you, etc, then the same questions again. Now I have ben back in the UK, and can count on the fingers of one hand the calls I have had from these people, but 3 in one day, sounds awafully strange to me. One of them is the one I am positive when I was working with them was the "spy" feeding her information, and now I am in the UK she has no one to keep her informed. I think the next few days could be quite interesting.
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 It seems very interesting! It just shows what happens, when you have the guts to move on with your life.Now she is wondering hardcore what you are up to, and at the same time getting your friends to fish for information.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 And Lorr, Im loving every minute of it. I wish it was not a game, but it seems like it to me. By the way did you get my email/msn addy!!
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 Just recieved a text message from my ex, "wishing me a good Dia de Reyes, Kings Day, , and wishing that the Kings Magicians bring me a sackful of love and happiness, affection and good health. Kisses" Now how do i respond , if i do, to that bearing in mind all the goings on of yesterday Advice would be appreciated
jusified Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 How do you feel about this girl?? Do you want to be with her again after the break up?? If not there isn't any reason to write back, or if you want to be nice then just right "thx for the message, have a good Kings day too". Thats it. If due to some reason you want to get back with the ex then just write anything back that starts a convo. She will just be glad to hear something from you.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 How do you feel about this girl?? Do you want to be with her again after the break up?? I still love her and miss her very much, and yes I do want to get back with her, albeit she now lives in a different country. But only an hour and a bit on a plane I really dont know how to respond, she knows my feelings for her, and she told me before that for the moment we are friends, Before when i have told her how i feel, she disappears for a bit I dont want to full steaming into this, but i dont want her to think i dont care anymore. I do not want to nause this one up now.
MaxFlirt Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I tend to think by responding you're setting yourself up for some sort of disappointment. I say don't respond, but if you do, keep it simple - such as "Thanks for the note - you too".
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 If due to some reason you want to get back with the ex then just write anything back that starts a convo. Well, this is what happened I replied by saying Thanks for your beautiful message. And left it at that. She replied, saying that she meant it, (i didnt believe for a minute that she didnt). Obviously she was wanting to start a conversation, so I replied and wished her the same, and that she recieved sack loads of whatever she wanted too. Now this is where the whole situation seems to have gathered light. She replied saying Thank you and added that she has been in her house since New Year, and cannot leave, and is unable to send me anything. I asked her what she meant, and she replied she has been having withdrawal feelings about me, and that she misses me. And has felt unable to leave the house. I believe she is coming around but am not, going to go steaming in. She knows my feelings for her, but I sense that this may move forward and very soon. I have waited nearly 4 months for this, I can wait a little bit longer until the time is right.
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Wow! LostandFound It does sound like she's coming around, but if anything give her time and space, and eventually whatever happens will happen. A Funny thing happened to me 40 mins ago. I'm heading home from doing my shopping, and I get a text message from my ex, inviting me to watch some DVD'S that he got today, and if I would be interested.(When we were together we were such movie buffs).I texted him back to say that it sounds good, but I am extremely busy, and I will let him know when I'm free. What are they like eh?
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 WOW, what a day its been, I have not heard anything more. I believe in the tone of her texts, remember I knew her really well, that she is begining to feel sorry for herself. I am leaving well alone for now, she knows where to come now. Hey Lorr, im pleased, but your right with the reaction, the idea is to let them know your around, but reel them in like playing a big fish I wish you well honey, and keep my fingers crossed for you, and for me
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Hey LostandFound, wish you well too. The ex has just sent me another text 2 mins ago saying that he would like to call me in 20 mins, if its ok with me. The plot thickens. I can only assume that loneliness and guilt must be setting in for him, after the holidays...
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 MMMNN Did you not do the dumping in this one though, And of course it is up to you whether you really want to get back with him of course.
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Yes I did dump him, but only because I did not like how the relationship was going, especially with him being secretive, and other things. I treated him with nothing but respect and went out of my way for him, and he always said that no woman has ever treated him so good before. Since doing NC, I feel better than ever, I am happy,and I feel positive about the future, and to be honest I don't want him back.I always knew that he would contact me, and sitting here now I think its kind of sad that they only realise when its too late.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 yes, your right, but tell him you dont want to get back together, and do it quick, I know how i feel right now. Its important howver much of a git he has been, that you are honest with him, and dont crush him. You can both move on then. I learn a lot from your situation, buyt you have to tell him ther is no hope if there isnt. The silence usually does do the trick I know, but really to be honest silence can be because you dont know what you want. You do know what you want and you should tell him.
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 You are totally right! He just contacted me, and would like to see me on Sunday which I've agreed to. The conversation went well, and it was civil. If at any time he brings up the relationship, then I have to tell him once again, that there is no chance of us getting back together. I am a very friendly and laid back person by nature, and the last thing I want is for him to get his hopes up and getting the wrong end of the stick.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 I am sure you are Lorr, but surely he wants to meet you with one thing in mind. I mean lets be honest, well i always am, my ex contacts me, or i contact her and want to meet, it is for one thing usually to try and renew what we had. Do you expect him to bring up the relationship?? If so, why are you meeting him. Whatever happens I am sure you know what you are doing and you have people on here that can help you, As i write I am thinking what would happen if I said to my ex, can we meet, I know what she would be thinking immediately
Guest Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Your so right LF he doesn't want to meet to exchange recepies does he!!
lorr Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Thanks for replying. I see where you are coming from, and all I ask is for you to trust me on this one.I will definetly let you know what happens on sunday.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 I trust you Lorr, I look forward to hearing how it goes, on here or on email if you like
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