dunnowat2du Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 hi everyone!! ok heres my story: my girlfriend of seven months has just dumped me, she wrote me a letter that made her look pretty shallow and immature. than she dumped me. but than later that night she calls my phone crying. it basically says that we could get back maybe in a week, or a month, or during the summer. or maybe never. she cryed throughout the whole voicemail. i didnt call back or anything. an hour later she texts back if i listened to the voicemail. i texted back 40 min later just saying basically yes, saying maybe sometime i would take her back but not for anytime soon and that its good we are apart, and than we can figure out our problems and than be a good couple some day, i asked if she understand she said: "I totally understand" anyway than get this, she says if were both not seeing anyone, and are on good terms if i wanted to go to a school dance with her!! i said yes at first, but than said let me think. i havent talked to her since last night, i have ignored about all 10 of her texts. i am going to keep ignoring her.....if i want her back is this the best way to go about it?? ignore her until maybe she realizes what she had? any suggestions on what to do? it sounds dumb but i want this girl back someday, but for now she is having some family trouble she is dealing with and she says it doesnt affect our relationship but i think it does. she also asked if she could still talk to me about family problems, and if we could still be friends, and even though she wants to be friends she said she doesnt necesarily want this break-up to be permanant. i am really confused!! thanks for the help!!
Lostandfound Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 MMNNN Difficult one, usually when your in love and your having family or other problems, then love would conquer all. So I doubt its that, I know I have been there. The crying on the phone may be guilt, her knowing how much she means to you, and she is breaking it off. But she could be actually having a bad time with it too. Its not always plain sailing for the dumpee or the dumped. The whole thing about not ruling out getting back together, will reveal iself in the fullness of time, I would suggest a period of silence fom you and see what happens. When my ex broke off with me, i did not contact her and then received contact a few days later which I ignored, she kept on and on until she showed signs of real agitation. But when i eventually contacted her, i reminded her that it was her who broke our relationship so how did she expect me to be. She used the same reason with me, of having problems and not able to continue. The problem is the longer your apart, it could go either way. Out of sight out of mind, Or Absence makes the heart grow fonder. All of this could be a smokescreen however, and the true reason for the break up could yet or never be revealed. I wish you well
Author dunnowat2du Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 this girl is 16, will be 17 in about 5 months. anyway, so last night she called me saying a guy is gonna ask her out. i said so r u going to, she said i dont think so. i said why, she said she cant. than i said just forget about us, were over, forget about me. she cried and said i cant! i said go out with someone that makes you happy, and doesnt hurt you. she just cried. i said i dont think i can take u back. she cried and said why! i said that ill think about it but i told her that she doesnt want me anymore, she cried and said three times "I do." than today she told me she couldnt go out with anyone because of me. im guessing that means she cant stop thinking about me, cause thats the same reason i wont. she has been crying mostly all day. she gave me her journal, and it had a passage from last night. it was four pages long explaining how much she did love me. then it went into i should have never dumped him. apparently she also liked another guy, but doesnt anymore, but he told her that she could do better, even though all her friends say i am the best boyfriend she has ever had, and that she should never leave me. well she did. the guy said that her biggest flaw was her fear of rejection and to be alone. which she agreed with, but he told her she could go with any guy. she believed him. at the end of the journal it says, "i think i still love him." but she also says that she feels she will find me again in the future, but she says that she wants to "test her boundaries" im guessing meaning she want other guys now, but wants to be with me in the future, because im the guy who has never hurt her, or broke her heart. i am so confused!! if anyone can help, i would apprchiate that!
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