Mezzi Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Hi everyone, I had my first boyfriend last year who was an older man and had some problems which I tried as best to detail in this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t99919/ I had been dating this man since March and my birthday came and went and he didn’t even bother to tell me Happy Birthday or buy me anything. Anyhow, our relationship deteriorated after that and although I told him I forgave him this guy didn’t even get me anything afterwards or anything and blew off our date the weekend of my birthday. Even, though I hadn’t slept with him I still felt used and very depressed. Well, I came around and really forgave him only to find out that he begun to attend college parties when I asked him about it he told me that he doesn’t even talk to women there he goes to hang out with his guy friends who attend the party as well. I had difficulty believing that and was peeved and asked him to stop attending; which he refused to do. I had to be hospitalized last year in early December and was constantly ill and my “boyfriend” paid little attention to me. (I got sick a total of three time between October and December and I mean really sick I got medical leave from school and work and he probably called me twice. I was sick for weeks and could barely speak and he called twice.) I got into an argument with a guy at school and he didn’t even offer to stay with me, he opted to go to the party instead. Well in late November he asked me to meet him somewhere and I was there an hour early, we were supposed to meet at 8:00 pm however, I reached at 7:00 pm it was either reach at 7:00pm or not go at all. I called and told him I was waiting for him at 7:00pm he told me he would be there at 8:00pm. I waited, for the hour in a rather cold environment and I was still recovering from being ill. At 7:50 pm he calls and says “Are you going home?” so shocked I reply “No, im waiting on you” He told me he would be there shortly and then called me back twice to ask me where I was I responded in a very annoyed tone as we had met there twice before. At 8:15 when he still hadn’t shown up I called him and told him angrily never to ask me to wait on him again. We didn’t speak for three weeks after that, we started speaking again and he told me that although he loves me, I am too accusatory and get upset too easily. He took me out to a restaurant the week before Christmas and I haven’t heard from him since. On our way to the restaurant I asked him if he could give him the money so that he could import a car for me (as he owns a car mart), he told me no as he doesn’t mix business and pleasure. To me this was an upsetting response which just even further confirms that this guy is a userer. Now, I don’t know what to say this man says things but his actions tell another story. The only thing I am truly happy about is that I didn’t sleep with him. I am still very sad and not only did the stress of the whole situation as well as the day to day stress in my life caused me to get really sick and I had to go to the hospital it caused me to see my period twice in November. I don’t know if its because this is my first boyfriend and im young, but I am having a very hard time letting go and getting him off my mind. Its not that I cant get other guys as I am fairly attractive and appear in commercials but im just not interested. Anyhow, ill move on as I know it wasnt a healthy relationship, just feeling very sad despite everything and seeking some comments/advice and a little support if possible. Thanks in advance for the replies.
Author Mezzi Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 Jesus, not even one reply Im feeling a little better now though, not as sad.
paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Yeah, this guy seems like a bummer. First love really hurts. He doesn't seem like he cares enough....I hope you do try to move on. If you don't contact him for a while he may change his mind but in this case I think he hasn't really treated you very well in the first place and is not worth getting back.
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