ddd Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Hi guys - maybe you can offer some insight - I just recently started dating a wonderful guy who I find very attractive, manly, etc - the other day, things got steamy and I suddenly noticed that he shaves his underarm hair (he is very hairy all over and I get the feeling that he has a bit of a problem with that as he kept asking me if I minded his hairiness - I don't, although I would prefer slightly less hair on his chest, but I am not at all concerned with this). I was however surprised to see that he shaves underarm and this struck me as a not very masculine thing to do (apologies if I am being a bit old fashioned). I would, in fact like him to have hair under his arms...Do you guys find this odd/effeminate? Thank you.
amaysngrace Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I think it's weird. I've known guys to trim their hair there but never shave. You should tell him to shave his chest while he's at it.
JackJack Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 When I first read your posts title, I was going to say, maybe he was into body building. Alot of body builders especialy in competitions will shave, but they usually shave more than just armpit hair. So since he is hairy everywhere else, but the pits, I'm not sure what to tell ya. Maybe he is way to hairy there? Or sweats alot? Ask him and see.
TheDC Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 perhaps he has so much hair in his pits that it looks like he has two people in headlocks and it just looks better shaved.
Author ddd Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Well, he used to be a professional swimmer but that was a while ago. He mentioned that he just feels a lot "cleaner and more hygenic" without the armpit hair and that's the reason he does it. I don't know - I find it quite off putting and am just worried that this is a sign of something else...He does trim his chest hair although this isn't noticeable as it is only trimmed, but the armpits thing is worrying me. Anyone lese has any thoughts/experiences?
princessa Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Personally I would actually encourage that hahahah. But I'm thinking maybe a logical explanation for this would be that deodorant adheres more to a hairless armpit than to a hairy one, so maybe he's just doing that because he's self-conscious about odors. Also I can understand how it makes him feel cleaner, he's obviously a bit self-consicous about his hairy body, judging from how he asked you if you minded that he was that way. Also I don't think just trimming armpits works, because small hairs are very irritating and itch a lot, so better just to shave it off alltogether. Also maybe he's had an ex like myself who hates body hair so perhaps he's just gotten used to the trimming/shaving routine
guin_girl Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Actually, I have run into a lot of guys who shave under their arms as well as other areas... maybe it's more common in FL because of the heat and humidity. One of the guys I asked said he did it because the deodorant lasted longer and it was just more comfortable. But all of the guys were pretty hairy all over otherwise as well... sure didn't change their masculinity in my eyes...
Author ddd Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Thanks Proncessa and Guin Gilr - I hate myself for even raising this as he is such a lovely guy and very masculine in all other aspects. I guess because he is so manly, I wasn't really expecting the armpit thing. But I am quite old fashioned. He did say that he finds it a lot more hgyenic and that's why he does it. He is, overall, an incredibly clean and tidy person. I think he is very self conscous about his body hair - he asked me a number of times if I minded...Should I tell him that I don't mind his hair and that I would prefer if he didn't shave underarm?
bab Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Should I tell him that I don't mind his hair and that I would prefer if he didn't shave underarm? No. It's just odd for you right now, but that's just because it isn't "normal". If you still want to say something you can tell him that he doesn't "have to" but I wouldn't tell him that you prefer that he not shave. Then what would you do if he didn't shave them and it turned out that they were way way out of control, or that he has a BO problem when he has them? Then you'd be in a very very strange and uncomfortable position.
princessa Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Why do you mind so much about him shaving his underarm?? Let the dude be! But do tell him that you love hair Also I doubt that he'll be able to go back to being hairy.. It's like shaving down-there.. once you start doing it for a while you can't go back to being hairy.. simply cause it itches like a bi*ch
oyster Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I am a man and I shave my underarms. yes my ex-girlfriend said it was weird and she asked her girlfriends too. deodorant is easier to stick on but mainly because I sweat a lot and it is more hygienic.
Art_Critic Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 He has got to doing it for hygiene reasons . maybe his armpits are real hairy and they get messed up with deodorant. or his armpit odor gets out of control. I shave/trim my Mr Wiggles area and started doing it because a girl I dated wanted it trimmed/shaved and after I no longer dated her I kept doing it because it makes sense and feels good..
Author ddd Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 I know Princessa - I should just let him be - that made me laugh! I guess I should be happy that I found a wonderful (and extra clean) guy! Bab, you made good points - I already told him that he doesn't have to shave, but he said it just feels better for him (cleaner)...so I'll just let it be and try to get used to the idea...
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