PandorasBox Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I look back over my life, maybe during the past 2 years or so, and see that I have changed. I used to think it was some of my friends that had changed, but came to the conclusion it was me. Changed in a good way, or at least I think so. Little older now, and hopefully a little wiser. I have learned things that maybe I didn't see before. I feel that I'm learning and growing from the experiences in my life. The problem that bothers me is, I see myself growing, changing, learning, moving forward, but yet I see frriends who are not doing this. Maybe I think because I have, they should too? I hate feeling that way. I'm in no way implying that I'm better than them just because I feel I'm growing, and moving forward in my life. I just don't feel i'm on the same wave length as some of them. No, I'm not saying I'm higher than them or mightier, I just feel I'm at a different place in my life right now. Sometimes friends will ask my advice on something, I'll tell them (only when they ask though) and its like they become instantly pissy with me. I'm not sure why they act this way. To my knowledge I don't come across this way. They act like they are shunning me. I even had one friend say to me before when I mentioned going to a different resturant than we normally go to, in which I included them, one said "yeah well, you eat at that resturant because you think you are better than us anyway." WTF? Ok then. Maybe the "changebug" hasn't bitten them yet and the are upset because I'm moving forward? I'm the one that has changed, but yet I haven't shunned them,but yet they treat me pretty bad. I feel rejected and shunned because I'm trying to make positive changes in my life. Here it is, I feel I'm doing pretty good in my life right now, learning, growing etc, but why do I feel I'm catching hell for it from some of my friends?
blind_otter Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I feel you. I think it's that we hope that everyone will start to make positive changes in their life, and when they don't, or don't to a perceivable degree to us at least, it's disappointing. Sometimes friends grow apart and it's sad when this happens. Anyways I'm subscribing to see what advice you get.
JackJack Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Just taking a guess here, but maybe its jealousy on their part. Maybe they are not truly mad at you, but pissed at themselves, because they see you moving forward with your life in a positive way, and they feel they are still stuck in the same rut as always. Maybe they feel you are leaving them behind. Even though you may not come across that way as you say, maybe they preceive it that way and will no matter what you do/say. Until they experience what it is you are experiencing, then they wont know anyway.
BannaBee57 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Wow, are we living parallel lives or what? This same thing has been happening to me with a couple of my friends. I feel like I'm growing into an adult and branching out into new things and they are just staying the same. I think they resent me for it. I don't spend as much time with them as before and I'm pretty sure they've been talking about me when I'm not around. I don't know what to do about it either, but I know I'm sick of the drama that it's causing in my life. My mom thinks they are jealous of me... I think at some point you just outgrow some friendships and you have to move on to new horizons.
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