Guest Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 My BF and I have been together 9 months. In the beginning he tried to seperate his life with me from his life with his friends. From the first meeting his friends (male and female) and I did not get along. They all went to highschool together and were a tight knit group who did not like anyone else joining their little clique. Initally I think he blamed me because I am a naturally outgoing person and on the occassions that I am around his friends I feel uncomfortable in my own skin (not a feeling that I am used to) However, he soon came to realize that his "friends" are not nice people and we rarely if ever see them anymore. These inital problems that we had have made me insucure - although I know that he loves me there is still a part of me that wonders if I am good enough for him. I have never been so openly disliked by people in my entire life. Logically I realize that they are mean and cruel people who are more concerned with keeping their group together than with his happiness.But I can see that these events are having a spill over effect on the rest of our relationship. I have never thought of myself as weak before but I don't understand how the opinions of these poeple (who my BF has willingly and easily given up on) can bother me. There are times and occassions when I can't help but be around them and I have never felt more miserable. Try as I might I can't control the feelings thatI experience. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to put this all in perspective? If I know that they are insignificant then why can't I just get over it?? By the way I should say that these are not teenagers - they are all adults aged 25-28.
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