freakygal78 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Hi, I just need to clear something up here, a couple of you are saying this MM I am speaking of is my "personal trainer" - ok, he IS NOT a personal trainer AT ALL - OF ANY SORT - he is a dr., my dr., and that is how we met - well, actually, we met through my H. Ok, so he is NOT a personal trainer!!!! When we met, we found out we belonged to the same gym, he then switched gyms, told me he had switched gyms, and practically begged me to join the gym he switched to! So, just wanting to make this clear - that he is not a physical trainer!!!! Yes I realised that was just saying that staff at gyms can be flirty (in that industry) not that he was a PT per se. Although if he is a dr there and not training with you, it begs the question of why you needed to change gyms - was it so he could continue to provide you with services in the new gym? Something seems to be missing here... As for altered reality - I don't think you should be making judgmental slurs here regarding my perception of reality when I was just trying to be honest POM - we have all made mistakes - the main thing is we try to learn from them. The point I was trying to make is that some ppl flirt to make you feel good - great! Gay hairdressers flirt, personal trainers flirt, the man in the fruit shop flirts - you KNOW they don't want to take you home (hopefully!). You can usually tell these apart from the ones who flirt with intention (are overly attentive or overtly sexual in tone) as was in my case with double entendres, eye contact and music emailed to me etc. Hmm...not such a wholesome pastime for a married man methinks huh? Either way the onus was on me to ignore it or act upon it. Foolishly I acted upon it - as for him denying all this - he prolly went into damage control mode so he wouldn't have his a** sued for sexual harrassment - I guess another consideration JJRN if you have a professional r'ship with him as your dr - this may be crossing the boundaries (I know this is obvious and you prolly don't care) but he is putting himself in a vulnerable position by his interaction with you. Wonder if he realises?
Author jjrn Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 Hi, I did not intend for my reply to be sny! I am so sorry! I was just wanting to let "you" know that he was not my personal trainer, that's all. Yes, he is my Dr., and I am sure he KNOWS he has crossed a MAJOR line here, and have wondered if maybe that is why he has not "made a major move". I want to thank you for your time - your input and stuff - I have wondered myself why he really wanted me to switch gyms with him.....why it was so important to him, especially when "our" old gym was literally two minutes from his house - this "new" gym is like 15 minutes down a long street of stop lights - just struck me as odd in a way. One of my male friends has told me he wants to maintain and build this "bond" with me, and "befriend" me, and sooner or later, when the time is right - make his move, ya know - physical. I think he is right, and listening to all of you here, I know I must move on. Like I said once before, my gut is telling me this is not just "innocent flirting", because, if it was, why act odd around my H, odd when his W is around, and beg me to go to his gym, telling me how glad he was that I was there, making a point to ask about my kid, but NOT my H, (when he knows my H), "suggesting" this very romantic hotel - that "I" should go look at one of the rooms (not my H and I), and telling me how much he enjoys seeing me, not to mention, his major blushing, and the intensity when we look into each other's eyes - something is "there", and I need to be smart enough to move on. If I don't, I realize I am stupid! Again, sorry If I came off as sny - I didn't mean to! Thanks again! jjrn
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