starryeyez Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I met this guy a few months ago. We never hung out or anything only talked he seemed interested in me and he sounded sweet. He would call to see if i wanted to do somthing with him but it was alwayz bad timing until a few days ago we went out partying every night for 3 nights with him and i slept at his house all of those nights. We didnt do much more than kiss and cuddling. He is such a good and sweet guy infact hes really close to being my perfect guy except for one thing when hes single hes a player. Hes a good looking guy so he has no problem getting girls and when hes drunk he can be very flirtacious. Infact i didnt even know he was talking to someone until a party me and him were at and she happend to be there. I have a very good judge of character and i can tell when two people should and shouldnt be together and i just didnt get a good vibe from her. Over the next 2 days he told me a little about what was going on and i honestly dont see why hes talking to her. Usually i would never do this but i continued to kiss him and cuddle with him every night. I couldnt help but think maybe after a while hed see that he deserves better then her. I really have no clue how he feels about me, we talked about it but of course we had both been drinking. I really want him to like me but im scared that ill fall for him and get my heart broken again. Should i take the risk? I mean who knows maybe i could get him to really like me and we would go out and things will be great or should i forget about it, hes already talking to someone and who knows if hell really be faithful?
Island Girl Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 If he is a player - and usually, even if he's not - you are setting yourself up to not be respected by being a knowing second. He is already 'playing' her. He is 'playing' you. And, no, I wouldn't expect that a good solid relationship will come from this. Trust will be hard to come by. It could happen but highly doubtful. Something strikes me - you say you can tell when people should and shouldn't be together. This is an audacious statement. I have seen the strangest of couples (two people you would never think would go together) happy and outlasting those who seem perfectly matched. You just never know what one person sees or is attracted to in another. He is already cheating on her so this may not be a match made in heaven, I would just caution you about making those kinds of presumptions. There often is no predicting who will be in love forever and who won't.
frannie Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Should i take the risk? I mean who knows maybe i could get him to really like me and we would go out and things will be great or should i forget about it, hes already talking to someone and who knows if hell really be faithful? I think you should forget it. You say yourself he's a player, and he's already got a girlfriend or whatever she is to him AND you. What can the attraction be? You talk about knowing whether they're right for each other, and that you could 'get him to really like you'..? These don't sound like good words to be using where relationships are concerned. 'winning' him over from another girl who you don't think is suitable for him..? What's the point? Save your time and energy and possible broken heart...
kymberann Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 If you are already questioning whether he would be faithful or not and you two aren't really a couple, then I woild suggest bowing out! Best
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