starryeyez Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 So theres this guy i met a couple months ago n lets say hes my definition of perfect. We were talking for a while and spent everyday together, if we hadnt seen each other that day we would talk on the phone for hours till 5 in the morning. He used to tell me that the best time to get a phone call from someone was late at nite at like 3am because at 3am most people have nothing to do but think so that meant they were thinking of you, those became my favorite phone calls. We became best friends i couldnt have asked to have met a better person then him he was everything i ever wanted, needed, and had ever hoped for, he was my prince charming. But life wasnt perfect, there would be days where he would say how perfect we would be together and how i was the perfect girl but then other days he would tell me he doesnt have feelings for me and cant create them and needed to see who else was out there. We became friends with benefits and the worst part of it all was i had fallen for him. After 2 months of all that for some reason it all just stoped and we didnt speak for a few months. I did everything i could to stay busy so i wouldnt think about him and would loose those feelings for him and i had thought that it worked but suddenly a few weeks ago he started talking to me again. We went out to dinner and i could feel all past feelings for him jolting back into my body. Now all i can think about is having him back into my life. How do i get him back?!
Island Girl Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 If he started talking to you and you went out to dinner with him - aren't you already headed in that direction? Getting him back would start with dating and talking again and you said that is happening so I guess I am really confused.
phyrespryte Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Are you sure you want him back? He sounds wishy washy. And what happened to him for the two months? He died and was then resurrected?
Sand&Water Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 RE: The Reality: The relationship went too fast -way way too fast. Literally, in 2 months both of you progressed at a rate a married couple wouldn't even dream of -let alone engage in over the course of a healthy period. The way you entered into, and trained through the relationship was a catastrophe. The damage is done, at least in my opinion. I believe you should cease contact. Move on to better things and men. IF he persists to re-connect with you -then you may respond accordingly but this time around proceed at a reasonable pace -actually a slow pace is best. You should lay off the pedestal -or the gibberish for a few weeks. You and him will have to re-acquaint yourselves with the early glows of romance. Good Luck. Regards, Sand&Water
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 TAKE IT SLOWLY..If you rush things, he is going to run the other way. Be happy he is back in your life, maybe not as much as you like, but he's still there - If he wasn't interested he wouldn't be seeing you now. Just enjoy his company when you are with him and take it from there. No pressure, no pushing...Just get to know him and have fun.
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