SouthernT Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Interesting thread....I always have guys say that I'm the marrying type but not the dating type. I can never find anybody to take things to the next level with me as far as a comitted relationship.
CaliGuy Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Maybe he just means he's not husband material? That would be my guess as well. He sounds more like a player than anything else. Just say NO to FWB. They always end up hurting someone.
Author Greenfrog Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 To be perfectly honest if you've only had sex 25 times over a period of THREE years, that IS kind of conservative. I'm not saying that justifies his behavior, but compared to the average person, yea that's pretty conservative. Most couples have sex on average 3 times a week. 25 times over 3 years while in a relationship seems like a sex deprived relationship. Most guys need it A LOT more than that. And to have had 1 sex partner at the age of 30 is VERY conservative. If that's what you believe in than great for you, but I'm saying MOST people would consider that kind of odd. Yeah but he didnt try and find out why. My ex was on Beta Blockers and I wasnt going to leave him just because of that. One thing I am not is sexually disloyal. Plus I had surgery that left me out of commission for a while. And my ex was a guilt ridden Catholic. I have a very high sex drive and women bloom later than men. I know Im going to be a sex bunny until Im an ole granny. His loss.
Author Greenfrog Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 To be perfectly honest if you've only had sex 25 times over a period of THREE years, that IS kind of conservative. I'm not saying that justifies his behavior, but compared to the average person, yea that's pretty conservative. Most couples have sex on average 3 times a week. 25 times over 3 years while in a relationship seems like a sex deprived relationship. Most guys need it A LOT more than that. And to have had 1 sex partner at the age of 30 is VERY conservative. If that's what you believe in than great for you, but I'm saying MOST people would consider that kind of odd. TMI but........ My exBF got around 950 plus bjs. And he returned the favor just as much.
typical Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Greenfrog, If you will look back on that whole chat, you have said some pretty valuable things that could prove to be an asset to someone who is trying to get to know you for you: Trying hard to desperately convince, seeking approval: **** i dont know why you think im so conservative. all my friends are creatives. and im the black sheep of my family because i wont conform complimenting in attempt to get him to mirror you, with a touch of timid wildness that was forced: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:45:41 PM): you really are smart meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:46:15 PM): youre frustrating meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:46:33 PM): and dont judges books by their covers baby. reasoning, but still seeking acceptance: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:46:49 PM): you have to talk and observe people to know how wild or boring they are. and then here, in a desperate attempt to shun his conservative view of you: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:47:02 PM): you need to be spanked This one is baiting: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:48:34 PM): im still insulted you think im some boring conservatve girl ::rolls eyes:: so boring you wouldnt even consider me as wifey material again, baiting: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:56:34 PM): you htink im this boring little mousy conservative wimp again, convincing, seeking approval: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:57:33 PM): dont confuse a strong will like mine with being conservative. complimenting, in an attempt to get him to mirror it back to you: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:58:04 PM): you are smart and strongwilled yourself. meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:58:08 PM): i like that All of these things say something about you. They are little clues into who you are, what you represent. He had scads of information that he could pick up and run with, but chose instead to say the same old musty rusty things he probably has been saying for at least 2 weeks now.. and probably the most telling statement of all: meGREENFROG (1/3/2007 11:58:14 PM): someone to handle me To which he could have seen immediately (had he been observant and if he really cared about anything other than getting in your panties) that you most likely have a wild streak sexually speaking kicking around somewhere inside of you that you are just dying for someone to actually tap into. If you notice, all throughout his conversation side, it was pretty much the same thing: HIM (1/3/2007 11:49:00 PM): u r too boring HIM (1/3/2007 11:49:05 PM): too conservative HIM (1/3/2007 11:49:08 PM): prove me wrong HIM (1/3/2007 11:55:44 PM): i am a few miles away HIM (1/3/2007 11:55:52 PM): invite me over times 1000. He strikes me as fake, boring, bland and weak. Lacking originality, character, immature, and manipulative in a very base, boring, childish way. and none of these things will get you very far when contemplating long term aspects of a relationship with him.
Author Greenfrog Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 YES. He cant see the real you because he doesnt want to. Understand this. He just wants sex. Thats it. He was trying to lure you into his lair with the same boring routine over and over again because thats all he has... This is what stood out to me: He completely blows over your genuine compliment, pressing you for more information on your sex life. Nothing about this whole chat thing seems mature. Its just a case of a guy picking one thing that he knows will get under your skin and rolling with it, to see if you will break down and screw him. He is not after the same things you are after, thats for sure. And no, he is not deep or profound or anything of the sort, so dont become confused. Actually, he is purposely trying to confuse you into thinking he is different but he is not. Basically it is the same package, different wrapping. Thats all. It still boils down to this: "I dont care what makes you tick as long as you screw me".... **Dont get consumed. He is way too surface for that, and you will be the one who ends up hurt. Oh gawd is this ever so true....You want PASSION. Hot wild steamy crazy mind blowing passion. This guy sounds like he is more concerned about his dick pimples and uneven scroat than he is about blowing your mind. Oh my lord, thank you ! You rock ! Very succinctly put. Thanks for putting it in perspective quite clearly. Im laughing like a nut right now. :laugh:
suchislife Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Honestly, maybe it's been a long day, but my first impression is that perhaps he's an idiot.
Guest Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I concur - he's an idiot. Typical nailed it. Just reading this guy's lame attempts to manipulate you made me roll my eyes and yawn. Come over and prove it? Hells no! Why should you bother? You might go all that way only to fall asleep listening to his tired old lines. Anyway. Ho-hum, he doesn't have an original bone in his body. So, next!
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