Meaplus3 Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 This took so much to ask! I am only posting in this forum with my question, because I have grown to know most of you. My Question is: Can I have OCD because of my abusive realtionship with H? I feel like that might be the case. Or is it just me? AP
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 What kind of abuse are you talking about between you and your husband? Any sort of trauma, emotional or physical can lead to depression, anxiety and other disorders...I assume (but don't quote me) the obsessive thoughts, or OCD can be a reaction to what is going on in your life.
Guest Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Yes u can. I think I have become a tad like this as well. So, the thing to know is that there's lots of info out there, you are not different from anyone else, and that with the right balance in life - things do get better. Make sure u have a great support group - that helps too. Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder where a person has recurrent and unwanted ideas or impulses (called obsessions) and an urge or compulsion to do something to relieve the discomfort caused by the obsession. The obsessive thoughts range from the idea of losing control, to themes surrounding religion or keeping things or parts of one's body clean all the time. Compulsions are behaviors that help reduce the anxiety surrounding the obsessions. Most people (90%) who have OCD have both obsessions and compulsions. The thoughts and behaviors a person with OCD has are senseless, repetitive, distressing, and sometimes harmful, but they are also difficult to overcome. OCD is more common than schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or panic disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Yet, it is still commonly overlooked by mental health professionals, mental health advocacy groups, and people who themselves have the problem. Many people still carry the misperception that they somehow caused themselves to have these compulsive behaviors and obsessive thoughts. Nothing could be further from the truth. OCD is likely the cause of a number of intertwined and complex factors
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 What kind of abuse are you talking about between you and your husband? Any sort of trauma, emotional or physical can lead to depression, anxiety and other disorders...I assume (but don't quote me) the obsessive thoughts, or OCD can be a reaction to what is going on in your life. Hey whichway, Emotional. Ap
JamesM Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Describe the symptoms, please. OCD usually consists of both obsessive thoughts and compulsive rituals. However, pre OCD consists of the obsessive thoughts. Obsessive thoughts can be continually worrying whether the stove is off, the door is locked, or similar thoughts. These thoughts won't seem to leave the mind until a ritual is performed. Once the ritual is performed, then the obsessive thoughts are "relieved." After this continues for awhile, then the ritual must be performed or the thoughts come back. There are so many things that can become OCD rituals. For instance, my mother could not let anything go once it was a part of our household. Selling a car was a huge deal. Garbage could not be dumped. Imagine the problems this caused. Anxiety can lead to OCD or to panic attacks. A panic attack feels like a heart attack or some physical illness. However, it usually occurs as a result of emotional trauma or overwhelming stress. Once the panic attack occurs, the person feels that he or she must avoid the place where it occurred. After continual attacks in different places, a person develops agoraphobia where he or she does not want to leave home...this is the extreme. Anxeity and stress can lead to obsessive thoughts. For instance, one can see a knife on the table and suddenly develop this irrational fear that he or she will pick up the knife and stab someone very dear to them. Or he or she may see a movie of a child being strangled, imagine how awful this is, and then what would happen if he or she did it to her own child. Then a ritual begins where he or she no longer watches mystery/crime shows or puts every knife out of sight. Since you have alot of stress in life currently, I am guessing that if the symptoms developed recently, they are related to the stress. Most likely you have been developing anxiety symptoms. My suggestion is to check out amazon for some good books on anxiety. Personally, I have linked such thoughts in my personal life to anger and stress that I have held inside. The positive is that it is extremely unlikely that anything would happen as a result of such thoughts, but when one experiences them, they produce some extreme fears that one is crazy. Tell your therapist of your symptoms and thoughts. You by far are not the first one to have such a problem. And I think he will have a good idea as to how you can proceed.
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Has it gotten worse since DDay? No D day. I just really hurt
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 AP, I think you're feeling the withdrawal and loss of the MM too. The guilt of what you've done to your husband too. Throw in what's going on at home too, I can see why you're feeling really badly and hurting. Maybe time to seek some therapy?? It will help you feel better...Go talk to someone about this stuff.
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Describe the symptoms, please. OCD usually consists of both obsessive thoughts and compulsive rituals. However, pre OCD consists of the obsessive thoughts. Obsessive thoughts can be continually worrying whether the stove is off, the door is locked, or similar thoughts. These thoughts won't seem to leave the mind until a ritual is performed. Once the ritual is performed, then the obsessive thoughts are "relieved." After this continues for awhile, then the ritual must be performed or the thoughts come back. There are so many things that can become OCD rituals. For instance, my mother could not let anything go once it was a part of our household. Selling a car was a huge deal. Garbage could not be dumped. Imagine the problems this caused. Anxiety can lead to OCD or to panic attacks. A panic attack feels like a heart attack or some physical illness. However, it usually occurs as a result of emotional trauma or overwhelming stress. Once the panic attack occurs, the person feels that he or she must avoid the place where it occurred. After continual attacks in different places, a person develops agoraphobia where he or she does not want to leave home...this is the extreme. Anxeity and stress can lead to obsessive thoughts. For instance, one can see a knife on the table and suddenly develop this irrational fear that he or she will pick up the knife and stab someone very dear to them. Or he or she may see a movie of a child being strangled, imagine how awful this is, and then what would happen if he or she did it to her own child. Then a ritual begins where he or she no longer watches mystery/crime shows or puts every knife out of sight. Since you have alot of stress in life currently, I am guessing that if the symptoms developed recently, they are related to the stress. Most likely you have been developing anxiety symptoms. My suggestion is to check out amazon for some good books on anxiety. Personally, I have linked such thoughts in my personal life to anger and stress that I have held inside. The positive is that it is extremely unlikely that anything would happen as a result of such thoughts, but when one experiences them, they produce some extreme fears that one is crazy. Tell your therapist of your symptoms and thoughts. You by far are not the first one to have such a problem. And I think he will have a good idea as to how you can proceed. Thanks. I think the stress might be the cause. I will consult with my therapist. Thanks again. AP
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