resi71 Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 here is our story. i met my girlfriend in dating website.we klick rightaway.she is 26 from california,i am 35 from europe and we live in minnesota.she is divorsed and have a kid , i am divorsed and have 2 kids who live in europe.we met in march.fall in love deeply.wer are both very busy,she have a kid,online school and busy job,i have evening job,allso a lot in weekends and i have 7 month puppy home.we tryed to spend much time together as we can. in summer my kids visited me for two weeks.working weekend,evenings,try to spend time with my kids,try to spend time with girlfriend.i try to make anyone happy.one day she just dump me.she was gone 2 weeks,no contact at all.i tryed but nothing.went her place,she sayd -leave me fu... alone,if you do not leave then i call cops.it was in august.after two weeks she contact with me and sayd if your kids leaving then we get back together.tey allso met before and my youngest like it her.we got back together,evrything was back to normal.a lot of times she stayd up to wait for me when i got off from work in midnight just to see me. now we had fight again,not real fight in december.two weeks before xmas.she got planeticket for me to go to california to meet all her family.i tryed contact her,no luck.send cards,letters,24 red roses to her work,nothing.xmas morning to took xmas presents to her house and left behind the door.in evening went there and knock the door.same way-Leave me fu.. alone,if you do not leave i call cops.she even change the phone number.i calld her sisters in california and sayd what happend between us.last week together she sayd do not be hard her son ,he thinks you are in family now. she is my dream girl,we did not care about age differents.i was really waiting to meet her family,then spend time in xmas,new year then next week is my bday but what i do not have is her.it is have been now month she dump me and about two weeks i saw her last time.last week together we talk about move in together ,then we are not apart any more.ihave this puppy and when i go to work i must leave him in bathroom for 10 hours,sometimes 14 hours.i was warried about puppy every day,thats why i could not stay to my girlfriend house every time for overnight. i love that girl with all my heart,she is everything for me in world.i am afraid i lost her.do i have any hope?i wish for miracle
Lostandfound Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Well the first thing I would say, is the reaosn behind what has happened here is definitely not in the post above, I am not saying it has not been revealed. Except for the puppy thing, where she may have felt you chose the puppy over her If she said that if the kids go then she will come back, then i am sure that has something to do with it, but i would not expect anyone to choose between their kids or me. If it has not been already said, somehow tell her how you feel about her, and then leave her alone tell her you give her space and time, and then see what happens. I am sure if she has feelings for you she will come running. If she does not i think you will have your answer.
Author resi71 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 thanks for answer.well my ex was here too with my kids.she sayd alot of time she loves me,she allso offer many time to me help out with puppy.it was illegal to take puppy to her appartment but we did that about 3 weeks,then renters start complain.one time she got mad at me because one day she forget her son do not have school in friday and i did not offer my help to go and see what his doing alone.i am ready to help her any time,what ever time,day or night.it just did not got my head right away to say i can help and she did not ask for it.i have been thinking to wait all january now.first february she moves new place and i am afraid then i lost her
Lostandfound Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Its all about communication, i give you an example Just before our relationship ended, my ex returned to her home city after spending the summer working with me. Whe she returned, immediately she asked me to visit her, which I did. When I arrived, she explaiend that things were not good with her youngest daughter at school, bad grades etc. She asked me if I would go to the school with her to see the Head, bearing in mind the Headteacher would not have been speaking in my native tongue. We went, and she was grateful for my support. I asked if there was anything else i can do to help. She said yes tomorrow there is, She had to go out, to collect something from her mums, and would I stay in her house and get her daughter up for school, I did and did that extra little bit and organised breakfast for her daughter and her when she returned. Although my relationship broke down, but not through lack of effective communication, it is clear that you have to communicate, and agree parameters for this, DONT BE NEEDY, but DONT BE A DOORMAT either, just be yourself, the person she fell for. To get her back if this is what you want, show you dont need her, show her you can live without her, and if she has feelings she will come running when the time is right for her. I believe a lack of EFFECTIVE communiation has caused the problem in your relationship
Author resi71 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 yeah will see what happend in this month.wish for you too good luck
Author resi71 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 last two days together-saturday:i went her place,she have uderground parking in her apartment,to work with my car just to be close to her.she was very behind with online school and had same night exam to do.i got done with car,went upstairs.i needed to go home.20 minutes away,to take puppy for walk and come back.i ask her "do you want me to come back?"i want it to be helpful and not disturb her with exam.she sayd she need to study.ok.i left.sunday:she calls and come my citi,we went to buy coat to her.these two days she was not happy.before she left i say you allways get mad at me when you talk with me.feels to me.she sayd no,i sayd yes you do.after that we text message couple times and she want to break up.i ask why?you know.please tell me.and she was gone,no contact any more.she have 3 sisters and two brothers,and mom likes some and dislikes others.well mom do not really like her.saturday morning mom was asking when we get married.girlfriend do not like that,she had very bad marriege before
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