Talking crap about friends - difference between the sexes?

[Star Gazer]

I've recently noticed a lot of guys I know talking total smack about their friends - everything from putting down their careers, their intelligence, their appearance, the women they choose to date, etc. I used to think girls were the catty b*tches - but now I think just as many men gossip and backstab in this manner as do women.

 

I have a pretty good idea of why women do this, but why do men? And why is it that if a girl finds out her friend is talking crap about her she's likely to disown that friend, but if a guy does it it's chalked up to "just being a guy"?

 

Is this just another double standard?

[JackJack]

Reminds me of some quotes about this very thing.

 

 

"Whoever gossips TO you, will gossip ABOUT you."

 

"If everyone knew what the other said about them, there would not be four friends in the world."

 

 

I'm sure men do it just as much as women. Maybe you just don't hear as much about men doing it as women do, simply because women can be more catty about it. Hard to say why people talk about others. Jealousy, resentment, insecurity etc. Personally I have never seen any reason to do that. And I know people who do this, alot. It would seem to me if they have nothing better to do than to talk about others, then they must be really bored and have a unfullfilled life. Starved for attention maybe, who knows. Its really a waste of time.

[blind_otter]

I dunno man. IME women are always more vicious when it comes to gossip. None of the guys I know/hang out with are gossipy -- but they are all blue collar type working guys, so maybe it's just the social circle.

[JackJack]

so maybe it's just the social circle.

 

That's true too. Very well could have to do with the cirlce of friends to begin with.

[Mythical]

That's very true.

My boy bad mouths a lot of his friends. I know there are a few he respects very much that he doesn't say anything about them other than being pigs etc...but he even bad mouths bro's like crazy.

If I bad mouth my friends to him even a little I feel bad.

 

Im wondering too why they do this? Want to make them selve look better lol? But I have to say the ppl he does bad motuh truely deserve the comments he makes about them. Thier 100% true. Lke about who they date...etc.