Tessa Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 Sometimes I think that my b/f and I do not have anything to talk about. We spend almost all of our time together. We talk about things as they happen, but later on, nothing, no discussion. Sometimes, I really enjoy doing nothing with him. The other day we ate dinner and then sat on the couch and watched the rain. It was nice. Should I be concerned about any of this? My parents have been together for over 20 years and I have noticed that there are times they have nothing to talk about. It all seems pretty normal, but still...
Ally Boo Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 Spend time doing things without each other, so you'll have stuff to talk about. Spending almost all of your time together is something to be concerned about in my opinion.
Tony T Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 Why is it necessary to be talking about something all the time? Do things together or just be apart and read books or watch TV. After being together constantly for a good while, people simply run out of things to talk about...they get talked out. This is perfectly normal. That's why we have a diversity of other friends and activities going in our lives. Relationships aren't meant to join to people 24/7. If you don't give your partner lots of breathing room and time to have a lot of other experiences, you relationship will go stale fast. When you get married and have children, at least you know you'll have 18 years to talk about the kids.
Bill Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 Nothing to worry about! I sometimes sit on the phone not saying anything for like 15 minutes with friends/girlfriends. I have told them, yeah, sometimes it gets quiet. It's the fact that I know the girl is on the line. Even in person silence speaks for itself!
Author Tessa Posted August 11, 2002 Author Posted August 11, 2002 Thanks everyone for your words of wisdom...It is appreciated!
yes Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 i'm personally not big on talking i think the time spent together in silence, or near silence, is important... and natural... if u love the person, just being around them if enough, there's no need for a stimulating discussion. although i do love to talk about interesting stuff, dont get me wrong. i agree with the otherst han being together 24/7 is unhealthy. friends, hobbies, what-not - get away from each other!... as to what tony said about talking bout the kids... er... and what's gonna happen after they move out?? another thing to keep in mind is ... i've heard this advice from someone: "marry somebody you enjoy talking to". i think it's true -b/c after all the fireworks and children-raising-hell and everything else ... u know - when u'r old and sitting on a porch... u'll want someone you just like being with and talking to next to you... =) just some thoughts, -yes
wunderbugg Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 Originally posted by Bill Nothing to worry about! I sometimes sit on the phone not saying anything for like 15 minutes with friends/girlfriends. A phone is for talking on, to have a conversation with another person. It doesn't sound normal to me, to be on the phone and silent for 15 minutes at a time. Might as well just hang up. Are you not talking for this lengthy period of time because your friends/girlfriends are doing all the talking? No offense, but this is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. 15 minutes? Wow.
Bill Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 sometimes I forget i'm on the phone, because I only have a cordless ear piece and this wire that hangs down clipped to my shirt. Yep, this is weird.
Author Tessa Posted August 11, 2002 Author Posted August 11, 2002 There are actually a number of times that I am on the phone with my b/f and we don't really say anything. Sometimes we are watching a TV show on the phone together. It's just nice to know that he is on the other line. Bill...I think it is pretty normal.
quankanne Posted August 11, 2002 Posted August 11, 2002 I like to get on the phone with my honey and either ask him to bark like a dog or just breathe heavy. I figure it spices up our marriage some.
Ally Boo Posted August 12, 2002 Posted August 12, 2002 LOL Who would stay on the phone that long with you Bill?
Bill Posted August 12, 2002 Posted August 12, 2002 well, I've been on the phone ALL day quite a few times with the girl I was seeing (we can't see each other anymore, because of what I mentioned in my previous posts). We both do want to see each other, but her parents don't like the idea of our age, so there's nothing I can do until 1.6 years have passed.
Ally Boo Posted August 12, 2002 Posted August 12, 2002 How many minutes and hours are we talking, Bill?
Stacy69 Posted August 19, 2002 Posted August 19, 2002 No you shouldnt worry about that it is completely normal you and your b/f just spend alot of time togather and run out of things to say when me and my boyfriend are togather for along period of time we seem to run out of things to say too...
Recommended Posts