confusedperson1 Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 I think this girl likes me but im not sure. Whenever she sees me she smiles at me and says hello and also says "hey my name". Is this a sign that she likes me?, I've been trying to hide that I like her, but I can't anymore. I want to go up and talk to her but I dont know much about her. I want to get to know her. She's in my class at school and im scared to walk her to her locker after the last class. Can anyone help me?
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Why would you want to obsess in getting information about this girl before hand? Thats where you have to go up to her and talk to her, thats how you will get to know her. It sounds like she likes you and is trying to make a friendship with you at least. Go for it! YOu never know what opertunity is awaiting
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 I forgot to mention I don't know where he locker is at. I saw her in my class today, and she looked at me twice. I'm kinda to scared to go up and talk to her after class? What should I do?
TheDC Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 I'm afraid to tell you but the only way you'll get to know her better is to go up to her and talk to her. If you guys share a class together then that's great as it give you an instant topic of conversation. At the end of class you can ask her what she thought of the subject matter or how well she thinks she is doing in the class. Just keep asking her open ended questions try to let her do most of the talking you can add in comments when you agree with her or whatever. Once you have relaxed a little then you can start asking her about other stuff like her other classes and which one she likes best and so on eventually you'll be able to ask her more personal stuff. But just keep it topical at first, stay on topics that you have in common like school. Remember you don't know anything about her, sure she is pretty but she may be as thick as two planks and you may find that you aren't really attracted to her so don't get bent all out of shape over it. Just think of her as another person like a guy friend that you are talking to not a potential GF since you aren't even at that stage. And RELAX!
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 I'm not streesing out about it, but me and her are both first load and, but I don't ride the bus. I Just don't know what to do I know how to go up and talk to her it's just like there's no time. How can this be solved?
phyrespryte Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Make time. It only seems like there's no time because you're nervous. I mean she's in your class and she says hi to you...sounds like a lot of opportunities to me.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 ok I will try thatm thanks alot people.
Trimmer Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 How old are you guys? This may help us understand your situation... Incidentally, why hide that you like her? The thing that is making you notice her is that she is apparently NOT hiding that she is interested in you, right? She smiles at you, greets you... And this has really gotten your attention. The first step in response is to try not to hide that you are interested - smile back, let yourself show that you are glad to see her, and stuff like that... The more relaxed you are, the more genuine your actions are, the better chance you have of keeping her interested to the point where you guys can actually talk.
JCD Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Think of her as one of your guy friends and nothing more then go and talk to her. She won't think lesser of you if you do so and she'll be more interested after you've talked. She won't bite and you really can't screw it up if she's into you because she will be doing lot of talking too and so you just have to listen to her. You see, the interest in you is also coming from her which is great so take that as an advantage. Once you become comfortable around her, it's going to be soo much easier talking to her and then you can start to flirt more. Then ask her on a date. If she's into you she will be glad to be with you doing anything, just spending time with you.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Trimmer, I'm 16 and she is 15. I'm kinda embarrassed because I know my friends and my sister will tease me, don't ask why. She laugh's when I make joke's in the class, I look at her know and I've written out a note, the only thing that is bothering me is what she will say when I get it back, after I give it to her. I've stopped hiding that I like her, I do smile back and we she says hey my name, I say hi her name. Do any of yall think she likes me cause I really dont know., Right now my mind is thinking about what will happen when I give her the letter. I want to be with this girl but I am still confused on what to do. The only time I see her is in my last block class. I leave the schoool by car and she leave's by bus. I really dont have much time to talk to her after the bell ring's because the buses leave like at 3:07-3:10. I don't know where he loker is at and the bell rings at 3:03. Any advice?
luvr29 Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 BODY LANGUAGE I’m sure you’ve heard that actions speak louder than words. Well, it’s true, and that’s why reading your date’s body language can be very helpful in determining whether or not she likes you. When the two of you are talking to each other, does your date ever touch your arm or leg? If yes, that is a good sign. Reaching out and making a physical connection establishes a bond between the two of you. It means that she is very interested in what you have to say, and she is glad to be there with you. With that in mind, you can show your date that you are interested in her by touching her arm when she is talking – not in an inappropriate or overbearing way, just a light touch of acknowledgment. Eye contact is also a clue as to your date’s feelings. If she makes direct eye contact with you when you are talking, glancing away only when it seems like the two of you have had your eyes locked for an awkward yet romantic period of time, then that is a very good sign. For one, it is obviously saying that she can’t take her eyes off of you, and therefore she is certainly interested in your looks, but also, she is keeping her gaze with you because she is truly taking in everything you have to say. On the other hand, if your date is constantly diverting her gaze, looking at her watch or at the floor, or just around the room when you are out on your date, it generally means that she does not feel entirely comfortable with you, and she is not feeling a strong connection or interest as of yet. It could be that she is very nervous, and she has trouble focusing her attention when she is dealing with her nerves, and in that case, you should do your best to make her feel more comfortable – make jokes, ask some questions about her, etc. You should also see if her legs are crossed with her foot pointing towards or away from you. If her foot is pointing at you, that means she likes you, and she wants to get closer to you. If her foot is pointed away, then she is not yet interested in you. The last, and most obvious, body language clue is at the end of the date. If she lets you kiss her, she likes you. If she turns for you to kiss her on the cheek, she still might like you, but she doesn’t feel ready to kiss you yet. You should pursue a second date. If she moves back when you go in for the kiss, she probably doesn’t like you – that is a harsh move. If she ducks the kiss, but gives you a hug, that could mean that she is more interested in having you as a platonic friend than as a romantic interest. CONVERSATION The talks that you and your date share together can be very beneficial in figuring out if she likes you or not. If your date talks about herself non-stop and never asks any questions about you, then she is either incredibly self-absorbed or she is not interested. If she asks you lots of questions, then she likes you, and she wants to get to know as much about you as she can. Don’t forget to return the favor. If she compliments you, then that is another sign that she likes you. If she asks about your past relationships, she likes you. However, try to avoid talking too much about ex-girlfriends except to make it clear that you are completely and verifiably single now. If she is constantly talking about or comparing you to an ex-boyfriend, that is a sign that she is still hung up on her ex, and therefore she is not very interested in pursuing a relationship with you. If you make her laugh a lot, that is another sign that she likes you. If she never laughs at your jokes, then she most likely does not like you. If the two of you have really profound and meaningful discussions, you can be pretty positive that she likes you.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 umm....Dude, me and her have never been on a date.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 Ok im 16 and she is 15 we talk occasionally in class, we dont hang out and we don't eat lunch together, because she has a different lunch block then me. She smiles, and waves hello to me in school. When she sees me at the store she says hey "my name". I have been trying to hide it but I'm not anymore, i've begun smiling and waving back at her. She looked at me twice today. She also laughs at my jokes. I am really nervous about going up and talking to her after class in the halls. I have got a piece of paper to write her a note, but I dn't know what to write. I am worried about what she will say when I get the note back when I give it to her. I dont know where her locker is at and i'm scared to walk with her to her locker after class. I really dont know much about her. Please has anyone got any advice, on what I should do and does anyone think this girls likes me?
ls3360 Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Does anyone think this girls likes me? I think the probability is high. :-) She could even be asking the same question about you. If you're scared or uncertain, rather than write her a letter, just talk more than you have and get to know her a bit better. Talk about the class you share. Talk about people you might both know. Talk about music. Let her talk a bit. Listen. If you run out of things to talk about, just say that you have to run to your next class and "see ya". :-) As someone already suggested, think of her as one of the guys if it helps.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 4, 2007 Author Posted January 4, 2007 How am I suppose to talk to her though I mean she sits on the east side of the classroom and I sit on the west side. I don't have much time to talk to her after the bell ring's.
Nezero Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 Firstly do you have to sit in the same spot each time? If you don't see close to her next time, if you have to then try this: Go up to her asking her if you can borrow some form of stationary and just talk to her then ie, what did you get up to after school? etc
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Thanks for all your help peeps but I'm just going to forget about talking to her, besides she has just recently gotten a boyfriend, so now im not going to talk to her anymore, and it's not because she has a boyfriend. It's because I don't care anymore that she likes me. I'm now just going to forget about her and let her go bye.
TheDC Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Next time don't wait so long and she can be yours.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Well thats the point I don't want her.I don't like her like that anymore, I've lost interest in her. But she still looks at me whenever she sees me. What should I do?
Guest Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 You are thinking about this too much, just talk to her. If she has a boyfriend, that doesnt mean she is not allowed to talk to any other guy. Plus, if they just started dating, your window is still open. I havent been in HS for a long time, but are they exclusive, or are you assuming that they are? If I were seeing a guy, I would not consider it exclusive until it was discussed. If a guy came up to me to talk after to class, even if I did not like him, I would completely flattered. You have nothing to lose here. TheDC gave you a load of great stuff to talk about, and you know what, if you are nervous talking to her thats ok, she will be too. That's something you have to get used too when you first talk to someone you like.
TheDC Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Well if you don't like her, and she has a BF but she's still looking at you then perhaps she just thinks you're funny looking. You could be like a car crash to her, you want to look away but can't
Green Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 you just have to TALK TO HER TOMMOROW. theres never going to be this perfect come talk to me now window of time to talk to her. So just call her name out after class dont wory about people teasing you, call her over and talk to her in the hall even though it will feel like ur intruding or what ever and Im sure it will feel uncomfortable you'll be telling your self this is a bad time to talk to her, but you have to just talk to her right after class whether theres time to talk or not. Make it short and sweet, say three open ended flirty questions like you were really wondering what type of music she listned to and that you had bet your friend techno , then after she gives u some kind of answer just ask her a follow up like have example if she says I like pop Justin Timberlake is my favorite say is bringing sexy back your favorite song then ask her to sing abit as a joke.. look what ever you do the point is stop waisting time force yourself to go have a small conversation with her, make the conversation fun and treat it casual dont make a big deal even if she acts like its all weird for u to be talking to her and then say something real casualy like you should give me your number so we could hang out some time, say it like you dont care and then what ever happens next just smile and relize its no big deal , if you get the number wait a day or 2 then call it with a plan like invite her to some party or out to a movie and pick the time and place. If she doesnt answer her phone dont leave a msg she'l probably have caller ID and call u back if she doesnt wait another day or 2 and try calling again. once you start talking to her in class you should keep doing it remember you dont have to talk to her long infact its better if you dont just small flirty conversations, the trick is to have fun when your talking to her and not get all seriouse, DONT ASK HER IF SHE LIKES YOU, DONT ASK HER IF SHE IS HAVING FUN if she goes out with you. AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL MAKE A MOVE TOMMOROW STOP GIVING URSELF EXCUSES THERE WILL BE NO PERFECT TIME TO GO UP TO HER SO GIVE URELF THE DEAD LINE OF TOMMOROW TO ATLEAST TALK TO HER BUT U SHOULD END THE SMALL CONVERSATION WITH LET ME GET UR NUMBER SO WE CAN HANG OUT SOME TIME dont give her ur number dont write her the note
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Idk peep's. I dont care what other people think of me, and I know she doesnt think I look like a car crash, haha, but NO im no goingto talk to her, im not going to intrude on her relationship. Im just going to forget about her. I don't care anymore if she likes me or not, but im not going to talk or any kind of socialization with her for that matter. Simply because I've lost interest in her and I could care less if she liked me or not.
Author confusedperson1 Posted January 19, 2007 Author Posted January 19, 2007 please disregard the past couple of message's. my friend posted that.
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