herenow Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I learned many things last year. - Never take anyone or anything for granted - I can only be happy if I'm happy with myself - Take responsibility for my choices - Vitamins do help - I can still have the body of a 20 year old if I'm willing to work at it - The game of football - Not all OW are the same! To name a few.
BenThereDunThat Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 that I still have A LOT to learnthings aren't always what they appear to beI am blessed with family and friends who love meI am worthy of being loved by a good man (not a drug addict, not a married man, but a GOOD man)/all I could come up with right now, back at work and head is swimming...
sadbuttrue Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 i guess i finally learned that there is love out there for me, but it is ultimately unavailable
kymberann Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT, There is love out there. It is just the wrong time with this particular person. When you do experience that love, the love and intimacy you had with MM won't even compare!
sadbuttrue Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT, There is love out there. It is just the wrong time with this particular person. When you do experience that love, the love and intimacy you had with MM won't even compare! thanks ka, but until i can somehow forget my love for MM, then i will never find anyone else. i feel that this love i have with MM is the best that i have ever experienced. i can not drop it on the chance that someone available will be better. i know this is not the best for me, but right now it is what i have and i can not abandon it
GreenEyedLady Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT: You're posts make me so sad for you...I hope that things get better...whatever that is...
sadbuttrue Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT: You're posts make me so sad for you...I hope that things get better...whatever that is... thanks so much gel, i am pretty sad right now because i hate that i have allowed myself to become so involved with this MM. i wish everyday that i had not fallen in love with him. at the same time i can not see myself without him either. he is so wonderful, but ultimately this will only ruin his family i fear. i wanted to say too that you are the most helpful person on here. i have never seen you write anything hateful or mean, you are always trying to help. i appreciate that.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT: Thanks for that, I do try to help... I'm really worried about you...this is taking a toll on your self-esteem, I can see it in your posts...No matter what, you need to remember that YOU are worthy of love and happiness...and also worthy of it being reciprocated...
sadbuttrue Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 SBT: Thanks for that, I do try to help... I'm really worried about you...this is taking a toll on your self-esteem, I can see it in your posts...No matter what, you need to remember that YOU are worthy of love and happiness...and also worthy of it being reciprocated... i think my self-esteem left me years ago and that may be part of the reason i find myself in this situation today. MM even tells me that i deserve better, but i only want him. i have found a connection with him that i have never had with anyone else, and although it is an extremely flawed connection(what with a wife and kids in the mix), MM still means so much to me and i am so afraid of losing him. i wish i could have found this with a single man, and i did not choose for it to happen with MM, it just did.
Meaplus3 Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 The biggest thing that I learned in 2006 is never get involved with another man when you are a MW, especially one whom is married! Should have focused my attention on H where it belong's and not MM who is simply not worth anyones time. Too much hurt for everyone is the result.
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 that my thoughts aren't coherent enough to use bullet points.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 that my thoughts aren't coherent enough to use bullet points. Too funny CGU!!!
BenThereDunThat Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 One more thing I learned, largely through LS, is that "my" exMM didn't really love me. He simply recognized my lack of love and easily filled a void. A void I hadn't even fully realized was there. I'm a lot wiser today though, so it's all good.
puddleofmud Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I learned: -that I am perfectly happy with what I have and who I am -that I am able to let go of or not be involved with that which disables my happiness/ well-being -that being happy and healthy is a choice -that grief, loss and death is a fact of life and did not and will not kill me -that I am eternally capable of genuine love and kindness and no one can take that away from me -that silence and stillness is utterly the place of imaginary greatness and visions of what may be to come -that I can be still and silent in order to seek betterment or just to enjoy the peace of stillness within myself -that I need good lotion because my skin has become so dry! -that I will never expect less than what I require of myself -that when it is summer I WILL have professional pedicures and really really cute shoes! -that I wouldn't change ONE THING other than maybe I need to hug those I love and adore more, kiss my sons more, celebrate everything about who is with me in heart MORE -that I can and have held the fort down while every **** storm possible has threatened and I have survived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BenThereDunThat Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 hat when it is summer I WILL have professional pedicures and really really cute shoes!...[/b] I love THAT quote above all others! NEVER underestimate the power of a good pedicure and a good pair of sexy, high-heel shoes.....
scaredinlove Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 I've learned that: -It is worth to tell the truth and take consequences of my actions -That my family loves me a lot more that I thought they did -That it is better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else -that a there is healing to a broken heart -That is a lot of help out there all you have to do is ask -People go crazy when they discover infidelity - That I will never lye to myself or anybody it is not worth it -That my family and friends accept me for what I am and they know me better than I thought they knew - That I can take care of myself and my kids and pay the bills -That man are strange creatures and I will never understand them -Tha even though I love MM like crazy I can live without him and be happy. And most of all if I face my problems instead of lying to myself and running from them I will solve them fastr and feel free. That my kids really thing I am a great mother. I thank my friends here and all around for being there for me when I most needed, I learned that there is love and friendship in the world. That is all that I learned. In 2007 I want to learn how to not procrastnat and leave everything to the least minute. I may take a spelling class as well.
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