Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Hello All Ok i need advice. I am 33 years old & have been working at my company for 6 years now. We just hired this new sales manager that works in Chicago. He came to the company 3 months ago & I said Hello but that was it. We started talking on email from work. He said that he wanted to take me out when he was in NJ, but i wouldn't even look at him hahaha. He said i wouldn't give him the time of day hahahah. So then emailing everyday went to talking on the phone 4-5 times a day. He has too much drama going on in chicago, kids, etc. so i know this isn't gonna go anywhere. However, he is coming to NJ for training from Jan 8 - 11. We have been talking on the phone now everyday for like 1 month. I know when he comes to NJ, he's gonna want to fool around. & trust me, I am dying to fool around with him. I won't sleep with him, cause i'll get hurt, cause i get emotionally attached when i sleep with men. So i dont sleep with anyone unless I am in a relationship with them. I was wondering, is it bad if i fool around with him when he's here for 3 days? Does that make me look easy? Not that i care what he thinks cause who knows if i will ever see him again. He is just so HOT ! Advice please!! Thanks
2sunny Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I would say don't do it! It could REALLY backfire on you... Too many other men in the world to choose from without these risks. Keep your emotions out of it and you will see it clearly.
Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 HI I think i'm gonna just have fun with him while he is here. My emotions won't get involved cause i am not sleeping with him. If i slept with him then i would get emotionally attached, but i am not sleeping with him, just everything but. haha I know we are 1000's miles away, so i am just going to have fun & not think about it! What could backfire? I'm not doing anything bad, just having a good time
norajane Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 What is fooling around if not getting close to sleeping with him? You don't this guy very well. How do you know he won't brag to others in your company that he fooled around with you when he was in town? That's how it could backfire - word could get around that you are easy and/or available for games. What if he is one day transferred to your office? Becomes your boss? Do you really want to take these risks with your job?
Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Hello Ok i see what u mean but is a woman easy if she just fools around with a man instead of sleeping with him? I would think sleeping with him would make a woman easy. I think fooling around is harmless. No there is no way that he would ever become my boss. I just transfered into a different department, so i am in the same company still, just don't work in the same department as him anymore. To be honest, if i talk to a guy at work, people start rumors that i am sleeping with them. I have been there for 6 years & so far they say i had 5 affairs, just because i am friends with guys. Working there is like being in high school. I am looking for another job as we speak anyway. Do u think fooling around makes me easy?
norajane Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 And you or he could be just as easily transferred again. YOu have no idea what will happen in the future. Except you do know that people in your company talk, and they're already talking about you. It doesn't matter whether I think you're easy for fooling around. Others will be talking about you and saying you're easy. Why give them ammunition? If he starts saying anything about you, then that will validate all the other rumors about your affairs. Isn't there anyone outside your company you could be dating?
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