maay Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 hey guys... i need men's point of views... will you tell a girl directly to stop calling you or ask her to stop contact you, or you will prefer her to backup herself..without you doing anything? this man is driving crazy! cant take it anymore!!! pleas help...
jusified Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 if you like a good advise you need to give everyone more details.
marc from MI Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 i have never had to tell a girl to STOP CALLING ME . they usually figure it out when i constantly tell them... "I'm right in the midle of something right now" "I got _________ calling on the other line" "im running late for ______ gotta go" and this one is my fav. "hey, im watchin a movie right now" it really gets the point across that A. dont wanna talk to you B. im watching a movie that i could easily push pause on but i dont care enough about what you have to say to stop it. Go away.
Author maay Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 details: me and this guy been dragging a long time..i love him, but he rejected me many times but still give me some hope sometimes by doing things like, let me met his father and had dinner with his friends... but he is just not respond to me eveytime when i text him, like if i am asking if able to make it for dinner, i am cooking, he just simply not responding to me, and always make me waitng, my point is: if you dont want to have dinner or you cant make it, you shd have at least let me know or being polite to reply my text. but he didnt. he use to answer my phone call, but it seems like he don't pick up my call anymore, everytime i call and even dont call me back after that. why is that? i cant take it anymore and text him: "why is that 8 of of 10 times you never answer my call?" he replied: "because 8 out of 10 times is too many call." then i go: "you are way to proud, and you never think that ppl need help urgently or emergency then they will call, you are just too much." then he called, but i already off my handphone, cause i am too upset knowing that he know its me who calling him and he intentionally not to answer my call. but, why is that? he used to so care abt me. what have i done wrong? when i switch on my handphone again, he left a msg: "call me now or never call me again. if you need help just ask, dont play games." i replied "i never play games. are you seriously want me to stop calling you or text you anymore?" he replied: "talk to you again" i go: " its my fault again right, you wanted me to backup myself rather than you told me to, i ruined everything again" he replied: "relax" what is this??? i just dont get it... so the answer is ask me to backup myself? or i shd still chase him like an annoyed? i had to do this to myself.. making myself so unfocus and everyday thinking of something new to get his attention back to me. there is one time, he ever text me: "if you going to send me one more msg, i will become monk or turn gay" i nearly wanted to reply that go ahead and mark your word, but i didnt. ahhhh~! i am going to go crazy! i feel that i have no dignity to be a women anymore... i gave evrything and yet still piss him off. dont know what shd do next and how... this new year is not happy.
amaysngrace Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 i had to do this to myself.. making myself so unfocus and everyday thinking of something new to get his attention back to me. Yeah you sure did do this to yourself. I think you've become so focused on trying to be what he wants that you've lost focus on if he is really what YOU want.
Author maay Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 i hate to do all these and being such an annoyed to him. i know i have been a trouble to him. shd i take my leave and be myself and left him in peace. i always very regret when i had been doing that... not asking him to be what i want, i love the way he is.. just that he stop communicating with me that makes me crazy.. and not respond to me... i just want to know why... i rather he tell me the truth, of ask me to F#$@ off.. then letting me thiking all sorts of posibilities.. any clue?
amaysngrace Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 i hate to do all these and being such an annoyed to him. i know i have been a trouble to him. i rather he tell me the truth, of ask me to F#$@ off.. then letting me thiking all sorts of posibilities.. any clue? Girlfriend he should be happy you do all these things for him. Not annoyed. You are obviously a loving, giving and thoughtful person. He is lucky to have had you. If he doesn't appreciate you then it is YOU who should be saying F#$@ off in my opinion. Give to yourself. Love yourself. Be thoughtful of yourself. You are worth it but if he is annoyed at you for just being you then he isn't worth a crap. I wouldn't give him a minute of my time if I were you.
jusified Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 He's jus not into you. Move on, someone that deserves to spend time with you. Do not waste anymore time on him.
Guest Posted January 4, 2007 Posted January 4, 2007 You need to stop calling him altogether. From now on let him do all the calling. I was often told that my problem was that I was always available, sitting by the phone and waiting. You will appear much more interesting to him if you let the answering machine pick up and are going out with your friends and constantly meeting new people. You are going to get nowhere with him if you do not show him that you have other people that you want to spend time with too. Right now, he sounds like no catch. What has he done for you? You are doing everything for him. Let him work for you or just find someone else if he doesn't try hard enough. It sounds like you are much too good for him!!!!
Author maay Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 thanks. i know i have to leave him alone and leave myself alone too... his birthday is coming, and i bought him a presnt. he not appreciate at all but said "stop buying me things!" i didnt really bought him anything.. i thought a birthday present wont be harmful, its really very disappointed everytime he saying hurtful things to me.. he said that lets have dinner this sat, but i waited for the whole day, there is no msg from regarding the dinner, when i decided to call, no answer again, whats new? i reallt hated and very tired getting all these and doing all these. I am hurting myself more, not him. he is going away on sat night, all i think is to meet him for dinner as he wont be around on his BD, but, i really really realise this time he dont appreciate me at all. he even shout at me just now over the phone, and i counldn't even dare to fight back and ask him to **** off! i text him what have i done wrong again this time, but he only replied me "relax" i nearly reply him "f$#@ you! i am tired, i really tired!" but i never send out the msg. i really very tired this time... after taking all the **** from him, i realise i have done these to hurt mysself more and worn myself more. i basically waiting for a person who don't even appreciate things i have done for him.. each time after we had a fight, i always go back to him and he pretending nothing happen. the problems always there and never solve, cos we never talk about it.. his style is avoiding, but i thought a nice good talk after that is good to improve to know each other better. i always think that i am the unhealthy one, always asking too much from him, but now... i really realise that he never wanted to share his care and give me his attention.i dont like to play games but this makes me easy and loose. i hate myself doing this to myself... i am not blaming him doing these, this is him, he is just being himself. i am not regret to love him this 4 years too, at least i gave my best and i have tried my best! getting over someone is so hard!
justagirliegirl Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 He is treating you like rubbish and you are letting him. You have to stop contacting him. Do not make dinner for him anymore. Do not buy him anything anymore. He deserves none of this at all! You are acting like he is the prize. He isn't. The more you do for him the more he will treat you badly and push him away.
paris38 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 He is just not that into you. He has told you straight out to stop calling. He is not treating you like a woman he is in love with. Yes, it's hard to let go but please do NC for a LONG time with this guy. Don't even answer his texts, calls, emails. You are acting very desperate for a man who absolutely wants nothing to do with you. I got the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and it really helped me to respect myself and was actually very liberating. There will be people on here who will say the book is garbage and doesn't cover real complexities of a relationship but it really DOES! It's really simple, a guy is into you and behaves as such, or he's not, and behaves as such (acting like your guy). Get the book, it will really help you feel better.
Author maay Posted January 7, 2007 Author Posted January 7, 2007 thanks paris38 and justagirliegirl. i know i got to get myself out in this unhealthy relationship, and i know he treated me badly and i let him did that to me. i did hate what i did from time to time, i know that i pushing him away even more by what i did, but sometimes i cant control it.. my mind is gone crazy sometimes. but i am just wondering why is he do that, that "he drove his dad to my place, invited me to his place to meet his friends. and he even said that i am somebody to him, and ask me to stops saying silly things again." if he really not into me, does all these shows that he is not into me too? forgot to mention he is divorced and does this affected him alot too.. i never been in a relationship which affected me so much...
Author maay Posted January 9, 2007 Author Posted January 9, 2007 by nay chance he willl be turing back one day in future? or shd i just give up?
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