mav100 Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 The past couple of weeks have been rather interesting for me to say the least!!! To start, I am casually dating again - going out with a few different women and trying to get back in the saddle. Taking my time though. However, I almost felt like a "player" the other day as I was out with one of the women I have been talking to and ran into another one of them when she showed up at the same bar we were at. Talk about awkward! I even had a date lined up for last night, so I wasn't alone on New Years Eve... I think I'm recovering fairly well. As far as my ex goes.... Oh boy! I was leaving work early last Wednesday to head to a promotional party for a coworker, and got a phone call from a SC phone number just as I was leaving (I was in my bosses office in fact!), so I decided to answer it (I knew it would be the ex or a family member), and it was her sister. She asked me if I had just driven by the ex's car in the parking lot where she works. I was like "WHAT???" She said she had gotten a call from her and she said the security guard in her parking lot called her and said some guy in a black car was checking her car out. I told her sister I had been working since 9:00 AM, and it certainly wasn't me. I ended up having a very interesting conversation with her sister about things that had gone on... 1. Apparently the ex told her sister she was having dreams about being with her ex (now current) BF again at least a month before I caught her with him. 2. The family CANNOT stand that guy at all, and do not agree with her decision. 3. She told my ex that all of the stuff we had argued about were basically simple everyday things that couples disagree on all the time, and she thought she was being petty over them. 4. That she knows my ex lies about quite a bit, and she has always been the "black sheep" of the family. 5. That the family feels very upset with her because of how she screwed me over. 6. That my ex talked about me the entire time she was in SC for Christmas and basically complained about me the whole time she was there. The thing she told her sister that sticks out the most was that she told her sister that I wouldn't let her watch sad movies or listen to sad music since her mother died, and I would turn off the TV or the radio if something sad was on. Her sister told me she thought that was a crock of sh*t and I told her she was correct, that I didn't do that. 7. I explained the whole boat situation with her sister, and since she knows the ex lies about everything else and I have no reason to hide anything at this point, she believes what I said and will explain the situation to her father. 8. That the family likes me, respects me, and thinks I'm a decent guy. 9. Finally, that her sister is a "whack job" right now and I am better off without her. I also told her sister about how I almost left her myself a few months before, but decided to see it through, and my intention to propose while we were in SC for Christmas - he sister was floored and told me that obviously things were maybe a little different in our relationship than my ex let on. She told me she would call my ex and let her know it wasn't me that was in her parking lot. I told her I would call her myself and get to the bottom of it. When she answered her phone at work, I told her I had just talked to her sister and asked what was going on. She said "You know", and I told her I had been at work until after this happened. She said "Tell that to the security guard and the police" and hung up. I then left a message on her cell phone telling her I was at work all day, everyone SAW me at my desk until I left for the party after this happened, and I had no idea what she was talking about. She called me back when she got out of work. Then she gave me some BS story about how it WAS my car and the security guard identified it when she told him what it looked like (I have a black Monte Carlo - there are millions of 'em out there), and that she told him what my plate was and he said that was the car. Such f**king whacky bullsh*t its not even funny - but I had to laugh knowing I was at work when this supposedly went on. We ended up, as usual, sinking into an argument about our relationship and pointing fingers. I told her that I want her to leave me alone, she then said "You need to leave me and my car alone!" I told her I was moving on, dating other people, and do not want to continue hurting over this, and she was making that very difficult. She said "Dating other people huh? You don't care about me." and I said yes, I will always hold a place in my heart for her, and I do miss her, but I need to move on, and I told her besides - she hates me anyway. She said no, she didn't hate me, but she wants me to leave her alone. I again stated the same. We talked about the things her sister told me - I asked her about the whole sad movies/music thing. She said "Don't you remember when I watched Save The Last Dance and you turned it off?" I said "Yeah - because you were at the part where the girls mother died and you were crying! It's not like I forbid you to watch anything, I just knew that you were still grieving over the loss of your mom and I was trying to help! Don't you remember me sitting next to you consoling you for 20 minutes after that?" We argued some more - I brought up the cheating that she had until that point not admitted to - and she ADMITTED IT! I told her that I stuck with her when I thought things were bad, but she obviously couldn't do the same when she got upset - and used a great quote right after. "Love is not just loving someone when things are good. Love is sticking by someone when things get tough." I told her thats what I did for her, and I couldn't believe she did what she did to me after I took the high road previously and stuck around. I then told her I again I need her to leave me alone, and that after a few months has passed if she wanted to call me she could. She responded by saying "Oh, you'll never get me back!" I wished her well, tried to hang up, and then she pestered me about some money she expects I'm going to pay her back. I told her between the wasted rent for the house, and the money I spent on the house and on her, and the fact that even her own family thinks she screwed me, consider us even. I wished her well again and hung up. I have not heard from her since, nor do I care to at this point, nor do I expect to. She really seems to believe that it was me in that parking lot. Why the hell would I drive by her car? If I was going to drive by anyway, wouldn't I be a normal stalker and drive by her house, and not by her car which is parked 4 miles away (literally) from where she works??? I'm annoyed with her psychotic episode, however, I still care about her. What really worries me at this point IS that she thinks it was me doing that drive by. I don't want her (or anybody else for that matter) thinking I'm some sort of a staker. Funny, they DO seem to come out of the woodwork when you start seeing other people.
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