Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I don't know what it is about me and airports, but here it is.... My xMM met me at an airport. We were on the same flight and he stopped me and handed me his business card and told me to keep in touch.....and from there the deceit started. Five months ago, I was at an airport getting ready to fly back to my home after visiting family. I was tired, getting the flu, and ready to get back home and into my bed. A man kept staring at me and finally approached me. He was a pilot and helped show me around the area as I was looking for some touristy stuff for my kids. He was very charming and kind and most attentive. He complimented me on my looks and personality and eventually asked if he could call me. I gave him my business card. After I handed it to him, alarms went off in my head so I asked if he was married. He admitted that he was. I asked no further details as I got all the information I needed. I thanked him for his honesty but told him that I am not interested in dating a married man and to only call me if he ever found himself free. With that, I walked away and went to my gate. He caught up with me and told me to have a great flight. Yesterday, my business phone rang. It was the pilot telling me that two months ago, he separated from his wife and the divorce papers have been filed. He called to let me know that he was now free and he would like to pursue something with me now that he met my criteria. Now, I have two lines of thinking. Kudos for him for waiting till he was free to call me. I respect that. He remembered me and waited til his life was acceptable to me before he called me.... On the other hand, the fact that he approached me while still married shows much about his character. I hold no doubt that he has cheated. Married men that don't cheat don't walk up to a woman and ask if they can call her when they are still married. On the other hand, he is free now and did not contact me at all in these past 5 months. Nada. Zilch. Nothing. He waited till he was divorcing before contacting me. Do I call him back? What do you think?
yousaveme Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Do you want to call him? (why cant I get an airport exprience like that.)
BenThereDunThat Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 hmmm. Maybe he knew the marriage was over when he approached you? What does your gut say?
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 I don't know. I am flattered that he remembered me, that is for sure. And I am impressed that he waited until he was free to call.... I think I would like to call him, but I don't want to get involved with someone who has, I would imagine, cheated. That's pretty risky. However, I do know that people can change..... What do you think?
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 BTDT, My gut is off. My radar is off. Nothing is screaming at me, but that doesn't mean much to me, because no alarms went off when I met my MM...
BenThereDunThat Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I say call him back. Yes, people can definitely change. If you're interested, just keep communication going so you can get more background. Does he live in your area? If not, that could give you more time to get to know him before an actual meeting takes place. You have good instincts. If something seems off I'm sure you'll pick up on it. /thinking I should hang out at airports more...
yousaveme Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Why dont you call him and talk for a bit. See how you feel? You dont have to agree to see him just yet..Feel him out. If you have a bad feeling thank him for thinking of you but that you just arent ready to move in that direction at the moment.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 You can always just meet him for coffee and see if there's a spark or if you wouldn't be interested in him anyway...
yousaveme Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 thinking I should hang out at airports more... Im thinking the same thing....
BenThereDunThat Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 BTDT, My gut is off. My radar is off. Nothing is screaming at me, but that doesn't mean much to me, because no alarms went off when I met my MM... True, but now you have that whole experience under your belt. I imagine you'd be a lot quicker at picking up on tell-tale signs now.
Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 if someone waited to contact u until they were divorced that would show u alot about their character. i do that with my exwife. she's dating someone now and i met the new guy in her life immediately and let him now, its kewl and they both are relaxed now. even though my marriage ended a long time ago, people still wonder about exs so u should always make sure people are on the right page. for example - the last woman i was with has a new man in her life, and i am happy that she's found someone new and if i ever bumped into them together - i would buy everyone a coffee and some fudge and reassure them both that the past is just that - the past. hope everyone has a great 2007
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 LOL. No, he lives in Michigan. I live in Arizona. But he does fly out here from time to time in his job.... Perhaps I should give him the benefit of the doubt and realize that perhaps his marriage was over when he approached me. I can certainly ask more questions if I speak with him. He was honest in telling me he was married, so I would imagine he would be just as honest now. I will say, it is neat that he was that impressed with me that he contacted me after all this time. It was a nice ego boost....
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 So you guys think I should give him a call back? You know what? He doesn't live closeby me at all, and it is just a phone call.... Why the hell not?!
yousaveme Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 CALL HIM.... LOL. No, he lives in Michigan. I live in Arizona. But he does fly out here from time to time in his job.... Perhaps I should give him the benefit of the doubt and realize that perhaps his marriage was over when he approached me. I can certainly ask more questions if I speak with him. He was honest in telling me he was married, so I would imagine he would be just as honest now. I will say, it is neat that he was that impressed with me that he contacted me after all this time. It was a nice ego boost....
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 I will.... Thanks. And I will update after I talk with him...
yousaveme Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Good....Remember to let us know what happens....Good Luck I will.... Thanks. And I will update after I talk with him...
My Fair Katie Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 LOL. No, he lives in Michigan. I live in Arizona. But he does fly out here from time to time in his job.... Haha, the term flight risk comes to mind. Yes, I posted just so I could share my horrible joke. I'd just take the ego boost and look for a closer guy myself, but that's just lil terrified of flying me. So yeah, go on with your hot self!
cbl Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 yap I would call back to find out the truth, if I am extremely interested, before I make speculations based on assumptions. After all I don't want to miss a real catch! Maybe you need to know more about his line of work though. I don't know how often he has to travel and how long he has to stay outside his homebase. My MM is a captain who's out 70% of the time. It's not easy for him to meet old friends due to frequent travels and he gets lonely when he's away from home. That makes me feel insecure. If he's flying regular route, things would have been easier.... but that could be just me
Author Freedom Now Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 When I call him, I will ask him about how his schedule works. I seem to remember him telling me that he flies three days then is off four....but it has been a long time...I don't really remember details.
cbl Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 When I call him, I will ask him about how his schedule works. I seem to remember him telling me that he flies three days then is off four....but it has been a long time...I don't really remember details. I am sure he can make some arrangement for you good luck and keep us posted
Romeo Must Die Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 FN, Did you ever truely question the validity of his statements that he is actually seperated/divorcing? Even if he is, do you really want to get involved in it? To me, that sounds like a MM line to me if I ever heard one. How many times do you think he has had an encounter like this one? In his profession, I'm sure it is pretty often. All I'm saying is please THINK before you fly head first into your next heartbreak FN. You're such a sweet kid. You should focus on SG's. No more games. No more lying. No more bullsh*it.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 RMD: You have a good point...But FN knows the signs now...I think that she would be able to tell right away... And: Single Guys are also famous for: games, lying and bullsh*t...maybe it's a male thing...
NoIDidn't Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 FN, Did you ever truely question the validity of his statements that he is actually seperated/divorcing? Even if he is, do you really want to get involved in it? To me, that sounds like a MM line to me if I ever heard one. How many times do you think he has had an encounter like this one? In his profession, I'm sure it is pretty often. All I'm saying is please THINK before you fly head first into your next heartbreak FN. You're such a sweet kid. You should focus on SG's. No more games. No more lying. No more bullsh*it. I totally agree with RMD. It sounds to me like he is not actually getting divorced at all and was checking to see if you might be interested. But I could be wrong, so don't quote me on that. If your gut isn't going off, mine is. Why did he call back so soon? Why does he claim that he filed 2 months ago? It all sounds like a bunch of MM lines to me. Just enough time to make you think that he is definitely moving on (like when they tell the W that the affair was only for 3 months and no sex). I think he's lying. He's a pilot. How you gonna find out the truth except through him? This doesn't sound good. You did good asking if he was M'd though. I don't think you are going to want to pursue anything with him. I don't think a guy that goes out to meet women while married is a very good catch. But that's just me.
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