Guest Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 hi, first-timer OW here: an internationally recognized mm and i met by chance, had no intentions of dating, let alone falling in love, but we are head over heels. he is much older than i, established with a family. we met a few months ago. the only person i told was my sister, who clearly doesn't approve, and my mom "overheard" us chatting on the phone so now she knows. we have gone from daily phone chats to monthly. they have both been cheated on and i haven't, ironically. i understand their disapproval, but i've been stripped of their friendship. they don't know who he is. i don't know what to do if the public found out. what if we God forbid got into a car accident together, or i fell down the stairs, or something where one needed to go to the hospital? Do all Mercedez have OnStar? Could it be proven that he regularly comes to my house? Thanks! Happy 07!
pureinheart Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Hey guest.... Well, if he is that high profile then it won't be long before a reporter spots him, follows him...or if W catches wind, privite investigator...just take care of yourself...k...these things can get priddy bad....((((((((hugs)))))))))
GreenEyedLady Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I agree with PIH...won't take long if he's high-profile enough...protect yourself...
whichwayisup Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Right now you have a choice to stay in this situation or get out. ARE you prepared to be dragged through the mud if the gossip mags find out about it? Seeing as he's married and more than likely NOT going to leave his wife for you, and his family for you - Are you content being the other woman in his life? Think long and hard about your future...
burning 4 revenge Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I don't think I'll be able to help you without knowing who it is.
NoIDidn't Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Does Monica Lewinsky ring a bell? If it does, then you already know what could happen to you should this get out. If he is indeed as high profile as you claim, someone else already knows and is just waiting to use that info against him. Trust me on that. Just make sure to have your makeup right and your hair done for your 15 minutes of fame....(sorry couldn't resist) Good luck, though.
oyster Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 i don't know what to do if the public found out. what if we God forbid got into a car accident together, or i fell down the stairs, or something where one needed to go to the hospital? Do all Mercedez have OnStar? Could it be proven that he regularly comes to my house? Thanks! Happy 07! Mercedes have an SOS button near the sunroof control. You have to pay to have a functional switch. Any ways, if this was in Europe, you would be fine as most high profile people have mistress and lover. I say, since we can't control what the world thinks, who cares if you are discovered. Live your experience to the fullest and don't look back. Oh smile at those papparazi
justagirliegirl Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Chances are this man is not new to affairs and his wife probably knows and looks the other way as long as she and her children aren't embarrassed in public by it. I would get all the money and gifts you can and bail.
frannie Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 Is it worth all the hassle for monthly phone conversations..? Only you can say that. I would think your mother and sister are mostly concerned for you being involved in this... I don't know about it being found out. We've recently had two high-profile men whose affairs have been in the news in the UK... one was going on for 10 years, the other for 7. It goes on far more than you think, and it's not always exposed by the press because it's just so common. I would say that it's really only if it's a political figure that it would become something that the press would be interested in, especially if they've been pushing 'family values'... because then they can be exposed as a hypocrite. Otherwise... who knows? Is he telling you he can only call once a month because he might be exposed..?
WhisperingWillow Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I had a actor that I met through his website, now mind you he's not a big "A" lister actor. He's a comedian and well let's just say I sent an email telling him how I enjoyed one of his movies, but the rest didn't do him justice. He did write back to my amazement and he flew me out to San Jose. Now mind you he told me he and his wife was seperated. I got to San Jose and right after his stand up comedy show at the Improv he sent for me, I went into the green room and was talking to him and his manager comes in and says his wife is there with their son. I was livid. She came outside to ask me if I was ok, because I literally went off on him for lying to me. I never said a word to her, only to go and ask her husband. Well that was two years ago but they are now divorced because he 'gets around' apparently. He just got married to that chick from series "Happily" something or another. I can't remember the full name. But I'd be careful if I were you. We actually had our picture taken together and it showed up on a gossip website. Not worth it.
Freedom Now Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 I have dated a high profile man and his ex is a famous actress. I still see him every few months as he flies here to see me and we have met in Vegas. He has asked me to visit him this winter in Manhattan. He is from Manhattan and very, very famous in the NYC circles.... Difference: he isn't married. And, yes, it is fun to be with someone famous. But, it wouldn't be fun if he got found out in your situation. Dating a married man is difficult enough without the whole papparazzi mess that goes with being found out. I don't think in your situation it is worth the hassle. Peace.
outofdarkness Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 ummm...yep...it can be proven any number of ways depending on what exactly you mean by "high profile". Is he a celebrity, or a polititian? There is a huge difference between the two and any number of ways to evesdrop on both groups...Don't count on the two of you being "alone" if you know what I mean...
HokeyReligions Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Hi profile or not, is this really the kind of relationship you want to be in? Have you read any of the other OW/MM threads? Force his hand or get out and find someone who is available and not afraid to be with you openly.
Guest Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Hi profile or not, is this really the kind of relationship you want to be in? Have you read any of the other OW/MM threads? Force his hand or get out and find someone who is available and not afraid to be with you openly. a great deal of thanks for everyone's feedback... this man is more on the exec/political side (vs. rockstar/actor) - makes headlines on CNN (vs. E!). as odd as it may sound, we have a committed relationship with each other. him and his wife haven't been intimate in 15 years, they are not in the marriage for love and sleep in separate bedrooms. we see each other everyday and this is his first time falling in love. i do not hope that he leaves his family, i would never want to disrupt his "other" life (i know that statement can be argued).
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 him and his wife haven't been intimate in 15 years, they are not in the marriage for love and sleep in separate bedrooms IF YOU actually believe that he hasn't had sex with his wife in 15 years, you're definately in trouble right now. i do not hope that he leaves his family, i would never want to disrupt his "other" life (i know that statement can be argued). You're happy being the OW in his life. You get all the good stuff... And I"m sure you don't ever want to be married to him because FACT IS he's been lying to his wife, he's cheating on her...So if he can do that to her, what's going to stop him from cheating on you in the future. Just some food for thought. I know you can't or won't see things from another angle because of your mindset, you can't be completely objective. Just hope that you open your eyes a tiny bit and don't believe ALL that he tells you.
herenow Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 I work with and I'm friends with many "high profile" men. One of the things that comes with that type of person is their need for power. Many of these men use women as conquests. I see it all the time. You see it all the time in movies and on TV. If they are in politics, their are as good as, if not better than actors at giving people what they want and telling them what they want to hear. Trust me, if he hasn't left is wife by now, he will not leave her for you. He obviously get something by continuing the marriage. As long as he goes home to his wife, you do not have a committed relationship. You may think what you have is love, but reality maybe that you are just another notch in his belt. Business men and politicians have affairs all the time, we see it all the time and most of the time the OW gets dragged through the mud. Why would you do that to yourself? Just my opinion, take it or leave it.
herenow Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Oh yes, and to answer your original question, I have dated high profile men. Before I was married, I worked in an industry where I was surrounded by them. I would get propositioned by MM all the time. They felt that any woman should want to be with them married or not. I was young and appalled by these MM who thought that they deserved anything they asked for. I would even find flowers and gifts on my desk at work as a way to get me to go out with them OK, I admit, I kept the gifts, but I never, ever dated a married man. In hind site, I should have thrown those gifts back in their face, but I wasn't as wise back then. I never took the married ones up on their offers, but I did date some single ones. Talk about full of themselves. I still think about their arrogance when I hear about some of these guys and how successful they are. Pieces of work for sure!
Freedom Now Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 The high profile man that I date is very kind and unassuming, but he is a rarity. But, yes, I agree with herenow....many of them are quite arrogant. My xMM is very, very successful. Need I say more?
herenow Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Hi profile or not, is this really the kind of relationship you want to be in? Have you read any of the other OW/MM threads? Force his hand or get out and find someone who is available and not afraid to be with you openly. I love the dog picture HokeyReligions!
outofdarkness Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 a great deal of thanks for everyone's feedback... this man is more on the exec/political side (vs. rockstar/actor) - makes headlines on CNN (vs. E!). as odd as it may sound, we have a committed relationship with each other. him and his wife haven't been intimate in 15 years, they are not in the marriage for love and sleep in separate bedrooms. we see each other everyday and this is his first time falling in love. i do not hope that he leaves his family, i would never want to disrupt his "other" life (i know that statement can be argued). here this sort of thing all the time from MM and on this forum. always; "W and I sleep in separate bdrms", or "just in the marriage for conveniance"...It's always the same old excuses...
GreenEyedLady Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 With all due respect, sometimes it IS true...when I was married I slept alone and he slept on the couch for two years...then I left...
Freedom Now Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Yes, the last year of my marriage, we slept in the same bed, but that is all. We SLEPT, nothing more. It CAN happen....
Buttaflyy Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 With all due respect, sometimes it IS true...when I was married I slept alone and he slept on the couch for two years...then I left... Very good for you for getting out! But If you don't mind me asking...would you sleep on the couch for 15 years?
Freedom Now Posted January 3, 2007 Posted January 3, 2007 Very good for you for getting out! But If you don't mind me asking...would you sleep on the couch for 15 years? No freaking way. Point taken.
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