bigbadsofty Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 i guys been reading your posts for a few weeks and i need some advice.I just got the news about a month ago my wife doesnt love me anymore.She said she has felt this way for about a year now.That explains the lack of sex.Anyway my marriage has been a bit rocky for about 2.5 years now.I experencied a very serious injury(back)and have had surgery but pain is still there.My mood changed when this happened and have been a very grumpy person sometimes for it is hard to deal with pain everyday of your life.Me and my wife are both in school in our thirties and have three kids.A month ago we agreed to get divorced after we finish school(in about a year and a half)but will try to be friends and still live together.I love my wife very much but came to terms with this agreement and was ready to move on.So over the next couple of weeks she threw in an(I LOVE YOU)3-4 times over differnent talks.So then I'm starting to think she wants to work this out but on her terms.So i am as nice as anybody could be and then over the last week she has spent almost everynight with her friends.So im like okay whats going on.So i wrote her a letter wondering whats going on.She said i thought we already talked about this and we are going to get a divorce.So i said why did you say you loved me a few times and she said she didnt remember saying it or she must of felt sorry for me.So i was back to trying to deal with it again.I spent the whole week pretty much by myself over the holidays and thought if she goes out with her friends on new years eve thats it!!!So sure enough we dont do anything for news years and she takes my older daughter to a movie and says she going to her friends house after the movie to ring in the new year and i said thats it im gone.I said just come home after the movie im moving out.Im not going to be her babysitter for a year and half while she parties.So we talked and agreed that we are both here just for our kids.But i said im getting my social life back as well and will be contacting old friends and we will have to pick different nights to go out.Well two hours after that talk she comes down stairs to talk to me and while she's talking she's flashing her belly and hips and lifting her shirt abit.I agnore her(it was hard).Then an hour later comes back down stairs again and say's she is coming home after the movie and will ring in the new year with me and that we should take your kids to a movie on new years day.I agree and thats where im at this point in time. P.S She said in one of our talks she finds I'm kind and sweet when she's not so nice to me and after our first talk a month ago she invites my up stairs to give here a rub down which turns into something else.I need some advice into what the hell is going on here because this chick has got me pretty confused right now.It seems when ever a stick up for myself she starts to care alittle.
Woggle Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 When you stick up for yourself she starts to respect you and women are attracted to men they respect. This is the best thing you can do if you want your marriage to work. If I were you I would move into another room, start living your life and treat her like a roomate. Let her see that you can have a life and be happy without her. Respect is the key and sticking for yourself makes her respect you.
Guest Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I agree with woggle. I am in the same position with my wife. I refused to be a babysitter while she parties. I explained that if she doesnt love me and wants to live single life then thats it. I think she respects me now that she knows I will leave if this continues. One good thing that could come out of this worst case is that it makes you a stronger person. Good luck.
Sup Posted January 2, 2007 Posted January 2, 2007 I think she's screwing around on ya, contact a lawyer and find out about YOUR rights, then dump her.
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