hrtbroken99 Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 my bf broke up with me a month ago,the distance was causing a BIG problem and we are just at two different stages right now (Career choices, college) that it was getting hard. anyways, I am very hurt by the breakup. He broke up with me over the phone and it was random. The thought that eh would be out of my life forever and not even being able to say goodbye in perosn haunts me. He has made no effort to contact me since the breakup and I have not contacted him. We never decided on NC or anything. He did say stuff like he'd call me in a month or so. So now xmas has past, so has new years, it made me really sad that he didnt even call or even send a cheap text on xmas. I feel like he never even loved me and all that stuff he ever said to me (children, marriage) meant nothing. I just dont understand how if you love someone how can you just call them randomly and kick them out of your life? How do you forget about someone? I am sure he knows that I still think about him and love him and he may be also wondering how in the world have I held myself together by not calling him and crying. Even if you are the person who breaks up with someone, if you clained to LOVE the person, wouldn't you still feel sad? I think if cheating/abuse was involved it changes the dyanamics but if it for other reasons long distance, life choices, I would think even the person who dumps another would have some feelings? I don't know I just needed to vent...I am just hurt
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 my bf broke up with me a month ago,the distance was causing a BIG problem and we are just at two different stages right now (Career choices, college) that it was getting hard. anyways, I am very hurt by the breakup. He broke up with me over the phone and it was random. The thought that eh would be out of my life forever and not even being able to say goodbye in perosn haunts me. He has made no effort to contact me since the breakup and I have not contacted him. We never decided on NC or anything. He did say stuff like he'd call me in a month or so. So now xmas has past, so has new years, it made me really sad that he didnt even call or even send a cheap text on xmas. I feel like he never even loved me and all that stuff he ever said to me (children, marriage) meant nothing. I just dont understand how if you love someone how can you just call them randomly and kick them out of your life? How do you forget about someone? I am sure he knows that I still think about him and love him and he may be also wondering how in the world have I held myself together by not calling him and crying. Even if you are the person who breaks up with someone, if you clained to LOVE the person, wouldn't you still feel sad? I think if cheating/abuse was involved it changes the dyanamics but if it for other reasons long distance, life choices, I would think even the person who dumps another would have some feelings? I don't know I just needed to vent...I am just hurt It will hurt. Just take each day a step at a time, don't contact him, go out with friends, see people, don't sit at home alone being sad and thinking about it, that will make you worse.
marc from MI Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 i think that its been a month, you should try and contact him once.
upsetnhurt Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 You definititely should not attempt to contact him! Heartbroken, I am sure he was thinking about you during these holidays. I give him some credit in that by sending you a cheap text it would have simply pushed you further into a depression by giving you false hope. Unless he had a reversal in thoughts and wants to find out where your mindset is now he should not be contacting you in any shape or form. Heartbroken, this is a grieving process and as much as you think that he was the best thing for you, in time you will realize that anyone who can simply beakup with you over the phone is not worth your time and investment. You need to spend this time regaining the confidence that you had prior to meeting him. You were a great person before meeting him I am sure and you will be an even greater person from this experience. Make this year the very best for you............
Author hrtbroken99 Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 yeah, I don't see myself calling him anytime soon In fact he does not even DESERVE a phone call from me Maybe 5-6months later if I am still depressed, I MIGHT send a text msg for his b-day otherwise I have no intentions of contact
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