kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 So I went to the gym to run my usual miles today... And in walks this guy who over the course of several months has been coming on to me and propositioning me. Yes he is a MM and NO I am not interested. He keeps joking with me and I know trying to bait me with kind words of affection (If you know what I mean!). I keep reminding him of his marital status and stand my ground! Believe me, not ever going there. This man is a cake eater. Anyway, he walks in WITH HIS WIFE!!! Not that I am being mean, but now i know why he is lookin for somethin, somethin on the side! ANd he is not getting it from me! (However, Kudos to her for going to the gym). Besides she looked mean and I don't want to be on her bad side if she ends up coming to classes that I teach!! SO I just kind of walk around, letting him know of my presence and the man does not EVEN look my way! So next time when he is a smooth talker, wanting a little somethin, and I know there will be a next time, I know exactly what to say! I think it will shut him up! It actually gave me a good laugh, because I know that this guy was very uncomfortable, and I bet he was just dying and hoping and begging I wouldn't do anything else to cause a commotion! My friend was with me and we jiust had a great laugh from it! Best to all!
lasan Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I am sure that is exactly what some of my ex's ow said about me back when I used to be fat. *Shrug* Now I am smaller than alot of them lol.
noforgiveness Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I am sure his wife noticed you and you made her very uncomfortable while you were making yourself noticed. I am very surprised that you as a trainer/employee would be so judgmental of someone attempting to work out and better themselves. What a horrible attitude. The kind of attitude that people notice and makes newbies at the gym quit when they really need it. I always hate jan 2 at the gym as it will be way overcrowded with people with good intentions. Come feb. 1st I will have my gym back and that always disappoints me a little. I always give a smile to the new people trying and hope a little encouragement with help them stick with it. Something I would hope a gym employee would feel. 1
pureinheart Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 OMG Kym..... Ya gotta love it....JERKS..... When the headcount at work was over a thousand in our area....those guys all hit on us....then when there would be a get together of some sort and their W's were there, they acted like they didn't know us.... Two faced as*es
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I am sure his wife noticed you and you made her very uncomfortable while you were making yourself noticed. I am very surprised that you as a trainer/employee would be so judgmental of someone attempting to work out and better themselves. What a horrible attitude. The kind of attitude that people notice and makes newbies at the gym quit when they really need it. I always hate jan 2 at the gym as it will be way overcrowded with people with good intentions. Come feb. 1st I will have my gym back and that always disappoints me a little. I always give a smile to the new people trying and hope a little encouragement with help them stick with it. Something I would hope a gym employee would feel. I didn't see where KA said that the wife needed to be at the gym. I'm assuming everyone is thinking she is overweight, but what if she was just butt ugly? She didn't do what she did to hurt the W, she did it to call the MM out. She did it to make HIM feel uncomfortable. KA, good for you. Let him know that you aren't going to play his little games and that you aren't going to fall for his crap!
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 I am sure his wife noticed you and you made her very uncomfortable I say good! I hope she did notice, because then her H has a lot of explaining to do then doesn't he! I hope she does go so she can keep tabs on him! So right pure! Jerks! Here's to moving on and moving up!
lasan Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I agree with noforgiveness for once, I would hope that when I go to the gym the people I am working with aren't thinking such nasty things no matter what the circumstance is. It's unprofessional to say the least.
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 I hate it when things are turned around! I had no intentions of hurting W. I wanted to call her H on the carpet for his behavior! I wasn't working in the capacity of trainer, I was there doing my own work out! Sheesh don' t you love it when you even get shot down for avoiding any further involvement with MM. Where's the support! ONce an OW always an OW?
lasan Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Sorry if I assumed things. A nasty comment is a nast comment no matter how you slice it. Would you have said it to that woman's face?
noforgiveness Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 oh please you are full of crap. He is NOT your MM. Just someone who may have been flirting with you who YOU said you have shot down. Where exactly is the issue besides feeling superior to the newbies in the gym? He didn't have sex with you. He flirted, you shot him down. WHAT are you trying to prove?? Oh wait I know you are the type of woman who all the MM hit on. You should be proud.
pureinheart Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Kymberann is into physical fitness and does it for a living, and when reading the post didn't see anything out of line, just thinking out loud concerning the line of work she is in. I tend to be extremely observant concerning the line of work I am in and do make comments....most of us do. Have seen some horrible things said to ex-OW and OW, but I guess that is ok
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Have seen some horrible things said to ex-OW and OW, but I guess that is ok Yeah, i've noticed that as well! I didn't see anything in her post either. She never said a word to the W. Funny how some "nonjudgemental" people are so quick to be judgemental!!!!
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 NF you obviously did not read my post! THis MM has been coming on to me for many months. I never said he was MY MM. That's the whole friggin point to my post! This post had nothing relevant about "newbies to the gym". Where you got that from I don't know. Obviously YOU can't follow the conversation. He flirted, you shot him down. EXACTLY. You of all people on this forum, knowing where you stand on this issue should have clearly seen my point. You are the one that is full of CRAP my dear! I bet you would have reamed my a$$ had I posted "OOppps I did it again, with another MM. Make up your mind woman! Oh wait I know you are the type of woman who all the MM hit on. You should be proud So stereotypical of a BS, to make a statement such as that. What does that say about your H? Why don't you go figure that one out instead of wasting your time on us OW who aren't even worthy of trying to go forward with their lives! Oh yeah.... NF have a great New Year...may YOU be blessed with a change of attitude!
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Although I'm glad that you weren't interested in the MM, it was a little off to make fun of the W. If he's a cake eater as referenced in the your original statements, this is reason enough which should have nothing to do with the looks of the W. Btw, not all the betrayed are unattractive, even though they are made to feel as such, due to the impact of being cheated on.
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 I don't think I said ANYTHING to make fun of the W. I called it as I saw it! I am not recanting anything. I made an observation as to understanding why this particular person wanted to sleep around. I did not make any statement saying I was any better than this person's W and never implied anything about this W's looks. Those are your issues NOT mine!
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Kymberann is into physical fitness and does it for a living, and when reading the post didn't see anything out of line, just thinking out loud concerning the line of work she is in. I tend to be extremely observant concerning the line of work I am in and do make comments....most of us do. Have seen some horrible things said to ex-OW and OW, but I guess that is ok I wont even start
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 This thread hits at the core of what the betrayed feel after they find out about an affair. They feel unattractive and unwanted. My comments were explanatory versus a real attack.
Author kymberann Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 That may be and point well taken. But this thread is also about removing oneself from the position of a previous OW. THis is a description of this forum: The Other Man / Woman The other side of the story: Support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner. Where else are we supposed to go if we can't say what is on our minds and discuss what we are going through as well? This is part of moving on, making changes and making sure I don't find myself in the position of being an OW once again. I find stength in the fact that I empowered myself to not go there again. If you can't see that then that is your perogative. I understand what you are saying, but there are two sides to the story, and perhaps many more. All should be heard and validated.
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 This is part of moving on, making changes and making sure I don't find myself in the position of being an OW once again. I find stength in the fact that I empowered myself to not go there again Handled yourself well in my opinion.
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Agreed. We all need to empower ourselves after something as damaging as affairs.
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I am very surprised that you as a trainer/employee would be so judgmental of someone attempting to work out and better themselves. What a horrible attitude. The kind of attitude that people notice and makes newbies at the gym quit when they really need it. Not that I am being mean, but now i know why he is lookin for somethin, somethin on the side! ANd he is not getting it from me! (However, Kudos to her for going to the gym). Besides she looked mean and I don't want to be on her bad side if she ends up coming to classes that I teach!! If this MM has been going to a gym, and his wife looks like she needs a gym, then there is a really good chance HE has a problem with her appearance. Most people who take pride in how they look want to be with those who do the same. It would explain why he was looking. Its a common theme. " We got married and s/he let themselves go and I dont like it. "
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Keep in mind that women bear the children and not men, although at my 10 year High School reunion, the women looked hot and the men did not, lol.
bonehead Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Keep in mind that women bear the children and not men, although at my 10 year High School reunion, the women looked hot and the men did not, lol. You can tell the difference between a woman who has given birth and a woman who has let herself go
Trialbyfire Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 You can tell the difference between a woman who has given birth and a woman who has let herself go Perhaps not in your case but in many women's case, they are the glue in a marriage, keeping things going for the man and the making certain that all the children's needs have been met. Some of these women also work. Supermom to the rescue. I think there should be some understanding and forgiveness for letting themselves go to an extent. If some of these men would put a little more time into helping out with all the domestic and other needs, their wives would have more time and leisure to keep themselves in good shape. Btw, I'm not in this situation. I work out almost daily and keep myself in decent, if not perfect shape. I still get carded quite often.
stillhere Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 You can tell the difference between a woman who has given birth and a woman who has let herself go I agree. I gave birth and i think i look da*n good!!
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