guin_girl Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Well my plans with my "in the process of getting divorced" man called and canceled our plans for the evening... for some reason he seems to think that calling me in the morning day of New Year's Eve is plenty of time to find other plans... I have mixed emotions about it... one I'm mad that he waited til today since we have spent the last two days together and have tickets to the Outback Bowl tomorrow, so we have spent a lot of time together and have had a great time... On the other hand, I feel for him because I know he's struggling with the impending divorce mediation in a couple of weeks... Stupid New Years... we need more "non-couple" holidays... way too much pressure... So my "date" will be my fuzzy kitty one more year... and thank goodness for football!!
Porn_Guy Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 sorry to hear it gg...i'm sure there will be poeople on LS so you're not alone.
Author guin_girl Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 Thanks, PG.. I'm ok... just perplexed... specially since he's called to make sure that I'm ok on my own...
Butterflying Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I'm in the same boat, except my date isn't married or divorcing. You are better off than me considering the fact that you've been spending a lot of time with your man. I haven't seen my man since the weekend before Christmas. And we've barely talked on the phone. My man did at least give me a 24 hour notice of cancelation. But that still wasn't enough time for me since all my friends went out of town for the holiday. I was invited, but I turned them down thinking that I would be with my man. They left without me yesturday morning. It just so happens, my man didn't contact me with the bad news until after they left. I think you have a better chance with your man than I do. A divorce is a reasonable reason for him to take time for himself. Even if it is a holiday. Sounds like he makes up for it on other days. I could advise you not to get involved with a man who is involved with someone else; but I won't since you don't seem to have re-occurring problems with him. Just hold on. Unless you are a party animal, New Year's Eve isn't all that much fun anyway. Things should get better after his divorce. If not, then you have a reason to worry.
Author guin_girl Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 It's not so much that I'm alone on New Years, cause I have been on my own for several years... even with the cheating man who used his son as an excuse to be with "her". It's the fact that we had plans and he canceled on the day of and my friends all had plans already like you. I've actually made great strides in packing up my Christmas decorations so one less thing to do in 2007
Rooster_DAR Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 It's not so much that I'm alone on New Years, cause I have been on my own for several years... even with the cheating man who used his son as an excuse to be with "her". It's the fact that we had plans and he canceled on the day of and my friends all had plans already like you. I've actually made great strides in packing up my Christmas decorations so one less thing to do in 2007 Well if you were in Houston I would say come to our party! Stalker!
so gutted Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I got a cancelation too, from my so called mates, except that they didnt cancel, just avoided. Its very annoying coz i just wanted to avoid thinking about how i am in a worse position then last year man wise. Its very difficult not to get BITTER when men treat you bad, and then your mates ( know the score and your recent trauma's) and STILL dump you.
Arianna72 Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I got cancelled on as well, the guy I have been seeing told me at 11:00 last night that he was going to go to a NYE party with his ex. I am so bummed right now. It is also our friends b-day and we had plans to all go out together. I know I could still stick with the plan but I am kinda worried I will be very poor company as all I will be able to think about was that he was supposed to be there with me and instead he is with the ex.
Author guin_girl Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 Well if you were in Houston I would say come to our party! Stalker! Hey Roost... thanks... have a brewskie for me!!
JLO22 Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Well my plans were cancelled to! Do anyone know what's pooping in DC tonight.... Looks like my current loooooooser BF is busy and my EX is busy to. So I gues I will sit in the house and watch my Loa & Order thon and MTV Countdown at 11!
Author guin_girl Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 I got a cancelation too, from my so called mates, except that they didnt cancel, just avoided. Its very annoying coz i just wanted to avoid thinking about how i am in a worse position then last year man wise. Its very difficult not to get BITTER when men treat you bad, and then your mates ( know the score and your recent trauma's) and STILL dump you. SG... I'm sorry you can't even count on your friends, that really sucks... although my one close friend has been "avoiding" me... new boyfriend, big holiday, you know the drill... but she's the one who introduced me to "mr wonderful"
Author guin_girl Posted January 1, 2007 Author Posted January 1, 2007 I got cancelled on as well, the guy I have been seeing told me at 11:00 last night that he was going to go to a NYE party with his ex. I am so bummed right now. It is also our friends b-day and we had plans to all go out together. I know I could still stick with the plan but I am kinda worried I will be very poor company as all I will be able to think about was that he was supposed to be there with me and instead he is with the ex. A... I'm sorry, I know how much that hurts.... but go, go, go... your friends will understand if you aren't your peppy self! I had a bunch of sympathy at my regular bar-buds earlier today, and it made me feel good to know that I did have friends who did care, even if they had other plans...
Arianna72 Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 I know it probably would make me feel better, but there is a piece of me still hoping he will change his mind and call me before I actually decide to go it without him. New Years always does seem to end up being a bit of a disappointment... I think I will just cancel it all together next year.
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