tinktronik Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I've been divorced several years ago now .My exH was an infamous cheater . He screwed around with many young women ; and eventually when I managed not to be pregnant anymore , I ran for the woods , so to speak. So many of the girls he fooled around with were rude , disrespectfull , and agressive towards me . It was horrible . Right after I gave birth to our youngest son i came home from the hospital to find a file on the computer with pics of my newborn that had been emailed to a girl living in Arizona . After I had her email addy I did a search on the computer and found pics of her that had been sent to my H , and many email correspondances between the two . He had made plans to fly her in while I was in the Hospital . So i emailed her letting her know I had found the emails and everything else , I also found out that she was 16 years old . Thats when I decided to leave . Apparently after I emailed her my H never heard from her again. So.... anyway after 5 years , I went to check my email a few days ago and there was an email from her . In it she said that she was so sorry , that she did not realize what she was doing at such a young age . She said that she got married earlier this year and now realized what her involvement must have done to me . There was more to the email , but I was blown away by it . All this time I have had trouble having relationships with women and being able to trust them and then this email. I feel like my anger towards all of the OW involved with my ex H is just gone . What a thing to do , I never blamed her , at the time she was just a baby really ; but still after all this time . I wanted to share this with you all . I hope this girl married a good one .
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 It's good of her to do that, and it just shows that she's grown up and realized how little she knew about some men and the lies they are capable telling. Did you write her back?
Author tinktronik Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 It's good of her to do that, and it just shows that she's grown up and realized how little she knew about some men and the lies they are capable telling. Did you write her back? I have not written her back , but Im going to . I just don't know quite what to say .
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Speak from your heart. Tell her it really means alot to you that she has taken the time to reach out and email you, and tell her you forgive her. It's possible that is what she needs to hear so she can move on? Wish her the best in life with her husband and leave it at that. (don't make it too long or too personal)
Author tinktronik Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 Speak from your heart. Tell her it really means alot to you that she has taken the time to reach out and email you, and tell her you forgive her. It's possible that is what she needs to hear so she can move on? Wish her the best in life with her husband and leave it at that. (don't make it too long or too personal) I hadn't even considered that she needed something from me . I will do just that. Thanks WWIU . She has though restored a bit of my faith in women.
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 You're welcome. Her writing you took alot of guts!
dropdeadlegs Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Wow, Tink, thanks for sharing that. We can always use a little sign of the goodness of people. I agree that it took guts for her to write you considering you could have written back and just blasted her. But she had probably prepared herself for that and still needed to apologize, even if she was not forgiven. If you can do it, and since you have forgiven her, I think it would be awesome to write her back and say what you said in your OP, without all the background info. Just that you appreciate her apologizing, you forgive her, and that you have moved on to far greener pastures. Wish her well in her marriage, and adios! I think she would start a new year in a better place and you would be responsible for that. Being a "big" person and taking the high road isn't always easy, but it does make us feel better. Sounds like a girl with a conscience could use a pat on the back.
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