pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 First of all you bs's consider us mm & ow. You give us those labels. There is no such thing as common law marriage in the state of PA. And yes, I feel I am married to peacelove. We live as a married couple would. I am not disrespecting anyone here. oh and the great debate is started... Good luck Parker..... I wish I could stay on here to support you in this but I have to go now, but I will be thinking of you and will try to pick up tomorrow...
peacelove Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Peacelove is back here if you have anything to say. Only one computer here at home so bear with us thank you.
puddleofmud Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Very cool P&L and Parker (welcome to the forum!)
peacelove Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Very cool P&L and Parker (welcome to the forum!) Thanks Puddleofmud!!:)From Parker & me.
GirlFromOz Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Hi Peacelove & Parker. I'm curious as to what trust issues you had when you first got together. I mean, there must have been some considering the way in which your relationship started. Having been together in a "proper" relationship for so long, and seemingly still happy, how did you overcome those issues? Also, PL, did you leave your marriage at the same time as Parker left his or at a different time? Did you both tell your respective spouses the truth about your affair or did you just say you weren't happy & were leaving? Lastly, I am keen to hear about your relationships with your ex-spouses (or stbx-spouses!) now. Friendly or bitter? Cheers!
GirlFromOz Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Oops! Forgot to mention in the last post that I am a BS (who, incidently, would NOT label you as OW & MM in your current situation. Maybe ex-OW & ex-MM instead.)
soo confused Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 PARKER my mm told me last time we were "together" that it that has to be the last time then later on in the night he said we should a month and I have to tell him No if he comes on to me b/c he said he has no self control when he see's me...Does he really want me to tell him no, he is confusing me so much.. to many mixed signals
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I just wonder (even though you're not with your wife anymore) why you refer to her as your wife. On paper she is, but emotionally she's not. Question for PL. Does it upset or bother you that he refers to her as his wife, still? Why not say my soon to be ex-wife, or just ex-wife?
lovernotafighter Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 How can either one of you after six years still choose to have those labels?????? you have a label and it doesn't stop you from posting here....how embarrassing
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 you have a label and it doesn't stop you from posting here....how embarrassing A label not by choice though.
lovernotafighter Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 A label not by choice though. sure it is....if the shoe fits..wear it right?
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I see your point now. Sorry, I thought you meant something else.
NoIDidn't Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Boy oh boy do I have questions, but its not what you think... 1. How do we even know that you are not just impersonating parker, peacelove? 2. I agree with NF, why the MM and OW labels? Even a BS would not consider the two of you that as you have been together for 6 years! 3. Parker, what was the point of coming here? You are a rarity, the man that leaves the M. You would not be proving anyone here right or wrong as each sitch will stand by its own merits. That, and no one here witnessed the progression of the A btwn you and peace to know of the ups and downs and how you treated her, so on and so forth. 4. Peace, I thought you were sending him back to his W? LOL!
pureinheart Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 PARKER my mm told me last time we were "together" that it that has to be the last time then later on in the night he said we should a month and I have to tell him No if he comes on to me b/c he said he has no self control when he see's me...Does he really want me to tell him no, he is confusing me so much.. to many mixed signals Hey SC....ex-cakeman did that to me too....the mixed signals and all....the only thing this guy wasn't confused about was the fact that he didn't want to loose his dessert. Sorry SC, I got that old anger back (which is good in my case) and am feeling very sarcastic tonight towards ex-MM. Man he contradicted himself in the same sentance usually....after being with him at times I was exhausted!!!!! Trying to figure that fool out....OMG. I think your MM is having attacks of conscience.....
GreenEyedLady Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I think your MM is having attacks of conscience..... Or fear of discovery...
frannie Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Well there is a lot of confusion about labels on this thread . I wouldn't describe peacelove as an OW either exactly but until her MM is D then that's really what she is (hope that isn't offending anyone!). I'd refer to Parker as a sMM, because he is a separated MM, and that's the usual designation on boards like this. But all these labels are really only for clarification rather than for accusation or categorising people (or shouldn't be, imho). Parker, if you're still married to someone else after so many years of separation, but consider yourself married to peacelove, then that's really not being fair to either woman imho. Of course it's up to them (not ME!) to decide if they're happy with that situation, and I'm sure peacelove can speak for herself on this matter. You say you're going to change the situation soon and I suppose that's what matters in the long-run. Best of luck to both of you and Happy New Year. And... is bonehead a MM who divorced..? Or am I mistaken that he wasn't involved (for very long) with his OW (MOW, now his stbdMW ) before becoming divorced..? He posts as an OM, so I'm not really sure.
peacelove Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Hi Peacelove & Parker. I'm curious as to what trust issues you had when you first got together. I mean, there must have been some considering the way in which your relationship started. Having been together in a "proper" relationship for so long, and seemingly still happy, how did you overcome those issues? Also, PL, did you leave your marriage at the same time as Parker left his or at a different time? Did you both tell your respective spouses the truth about your affair or did you just say you weren't happy & were leaving? Lastly, I am keen to hear about your relationships with your ex-spouses (or stbx-spouses!) now. Friendly or bitter? Cheers! There were some hard times in the beginning. As far as his family was concerned. He would do his family (holidays) thing & I would do mine. I had a hard time with that. He spends holidays with me now & visits his mom & kids. I only talk to my ex h when it comes to our son. Same with parker. He doesn't call her his w to me. He calls her by her name. He told her he wasn't in love with her anymore & told her he'd be leaving. I left my h 3 months after meeting parker. My xh had numerous issues including drug use & many women. I took my son & daughter & left. I told him I was leaving. I only got married for the sake of being married. Also to get away from my controlling mom. There you have it. Married for all the wrong reasons. Peace
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 And now the two of you have had a second chance with each other and it sounds like you love eachother very much... I know for the sake of argument that there is still that peice of paper... but there is nothing wrong with moving on to a relationship that builds love and commitment and by the sound of it you both are soft for eachother... NICE!!!
Author parker232 Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 Boy oh boy do I have questions, but its not what you think... 1. How do we even know that you are not just impersonating parker, peacelove? 2. I agree with NF, why the MM and OW labels? Even a BS would not consider the two of you that as you have been together for 6 years! 3. Parker, what was the point of coming here? You are a rarity, the man that leaves the M. You would not be proving anyone here right or wrong as each sitch will stand by its own merits. That, and no one here witnessed the progression of the A btwn you and peace to know of the ups and downs and how you treated her, so on and so forth. 4. Peace, I thought you were sending him back to his W? LOL! No one is impersonating anyone here. Do you live in the Delco area? If so we'd both be happy to meet with you. 2 wks ago there was a big blow up, I filed a pfa, we both went to court, I dropped the pfa after reading a letter parker wrote to me. He gave the letter to his atty & she passed it on to me. Right then & there I dropped the pfa without predudice. If only all of you here could see the relationship we have together. I have thought I was in love before. Many times. What I have with parker Blows all other's away. I/we don't need to be on this forum. That is true. I came here only because I was curious...
soo confused Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Pure Yes my mm has told me a dozen times how his guilt is really getting to him but when he see's me it goes away , I mean so does he really want me to turn him down when he comes on te me or he just saying that to make himsef feel better about what he doing????
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Pure Yes my mm has told me a dozen times how his guilt is really getting to him but when he see's me it goes away , I mean so does he really want me to turn him down when he comes on te me or he just saying that to make himsef feel better about what he doing???? Sound like he is putting all the responsibility on you
Freedom Now Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 No one is impersonating anyone here. Do you live in the Delco area? If so we'd both be happy to meet with you. 2 wks ago there was a big blow up, I filed a pfa, we both went to court, I dropped the pfa after reading a letter parker wrote to me. He gave the letter to his atty & she passed it on to me. Right then & there I dropped the pfa without predudice. If only all of you here could see the relationship we have together. I have thought I was in love before. Many times. What I have with parker Blows all other's away. I/we don't need to be on this forum. That is true. I came here only because I was curious... Okay, peacelove. You are the OW, right? How come in this post you wrote about a letter parker wrote to you? You, the poster are parker. And, "HE gave the letter to his attorney." This is written by a female. This post is written by the wrong person. This is being written by peacelove. What gives? The post is supposed to be written by your man but it isn't. The pronouns are wrong.
movinon05 Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I'm guessing peacelove didn't realize Parker was still signed in when she posted!
Lonestar Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 2 wks ago there was a big blow up, I filed a pfa, we both went to court, I dropped the pfa after reading a letter parker wrote to me. He gave the letter to his atty & she passed it on to me. Right then & there I dropped the pfa without predudice. If only all of you here could see the relationship we have together. I have thought I was in love before. Many times. What I have with parker Blows all other's away. So 2 weeks ago you filed a protection from abuse (pfa) against parker, then dropped it because of a letter, and now what you have with him blows all others away? Sounds so f'ing romantic. I want a yummy relationship like that.
Freedom Now Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 You think? Maybe, maybe not. NoIDidn't was directing her questions at the MM. Just seems weird to me. Oh well. Peace.
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