kymberann Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Don't really know why, it just goes up and down. Could be the holidays. Woke up missing xmm today. Plus I had to drive by his house today to get to where I was going. I guess I didn't have to, but I did. After that happened lots of good memories came flooding back. UGGGGH SH*T! No it's not a stalker thing, that's just the way it is. Anyway, that's just how i am feeling today. Still up and down. Most days are way much better than before. I know this is only temporary. It's just what I am feeling right now. Best to all!
lovernotafighter Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 i had so many of those Ive lost count..it's new years and next year let all have ups..and leave downs where they belong! try to have a better day :-)
puddleofmud Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I am having a bad one as well and am not sure what triggers this--reminders, wishful thinking or maybe even plain ol' sexual tension (e-gads)? There has yet to be a day when I don't think about it and I play every trick in the book on myself to control it but sometimes it's just a lost cause! It's all part of grieving, I know, but it would be nice if the dust would just settle and stay there!!! This is a bad time of year to be going through this kind of thing (I want to kill my TV because of all those dad gum jewelry commercials--where women are getting all these tokens of loooooove). Pbbbth! I just can't wait for Valentine's Day.... I guess sometimes it takes "re-visiting" to get over it. Emotionally one can only take so much so the smaller doses are all we can deal with. Hang in there, girl, you are a great lady w/ so much going for you!
BenThereDunThat Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Kym, I think you're doing awesome. The bad days are to be expected unfortunately. Hang in there babe. We're with ya. I'd write more...but I have a killer sore throat. Just now got out of bed. and probably heading right back to it in a minute. Just checking in on ya'll...
puddleofmud Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Sorry you aren't feeling well! I am sending you a big bowl of cyber chicken soup. Hugs!
pureinheart Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 i had so many of those Ive lost count..it's new years and next year let all have ups..and leave downs where they belong! try to have a better day :-) That sounds excellent LNAF.... Hey Kym, maybe you needed to drive by his house to heal....sure the holidays bring some of the hurt/missing feelings, although you have experienced 2 major loses....my prayers are with you.... I want to encourage you with the fact that the next two years will be good on an individual level....I'm sure the world will remain in utter kaos. Gods definition of the number 7 (2007) is completion/perfection....8 is new beginnings. 2006 was the year of man...man dealing with mans issues so to speak, exposures of all kinds in our personal lives. 2007 will be Gods year to perfect these exposures we have experienced, to put us on track (in your case Kym this is literal...lol). We will have a new hope and see with our own eyes the reasons we were in so much pain in 2006. All of the pain has not been in vain, as the "right" things will enter into our lives and we will be able to handle the good things. 2008 will be the results of 2007....all of the good things creating new beginnings. We have much to look forward to.
pureinheart Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I am having a bad one as well and am not sure what triggers this--reminders, wishful thinking or maybe even plain ol' sexual tension (e-gads)? There has yet to be a day when I don't think about it and I play every trick in the book on myself to control it but sometimes it's just a lost cause! It's all part of grieving, I know, but it would be nice if the dust would just settle and stay there!!! This is a bad time of year to be going through this kind of thing (I want to kill my TV because of all those dad gum jewelry commercials--where women are getting all these tokens of loooooove). Pbbbth! I just can't wait for Valentine's Day.... I guess sometimes it takes "re-visiting" to get over it. Emotionally one can only take so much so the smaller doses are all we can deal with. Hang in there, girl, you are a great lady w/ so much going for you! Puddle...many good things are headed your way.....
Guest Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 everyone has those kinda days. just think, its nice and sunny out and the weathers great. sunshine always makes you feel better. don't let one thing ruin yer day ok? plus, the day is only half over. now turn that frown upside down.
pureinheart Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Kym, I think you're doing awesome. The bad days are to be expected unfortunately. Hang in there babe. We're with ya. I'd write more...but I have a killer sore throat. Just now got out of bed. and probably heading right back to it in a minute. Just checking in on ya'll... Hey...I feel ya...lol...have had the most horrible cold for the past two weeks...spent all of Christmas break sick....oh well whatever right. Drink LOT'S of water and zinc/c help....OD on water...lol (((((((((hugs))))))))
puddleofmud Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Puddle...many good things are headed your way..... Thank you, darling! I hope that as long as I stay open to that it could happen but it will happen in its own time, as impatient as I may be! Hope you are feeling better soon! Hugs to you!
Meaplus3 Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Don't really know why, it just goes up and down. Could be the holidays. Woke up missing xmm today. Plus I had to drive by his house today to get to where I was going. I guess I didn't have to, but I did. After that happened lots of good memories came flooding back. UGGGGH SH*T! No it's not a stalker thing, that's just the way it is. Anyway, that's just how i am feeling today. Still up and down. Most days are way much better than before. I know this is only temporary. It's just what I am feeling right now. Best to all! Hey Kymberann, So sorry to hear you are down. I think it might be the hoilday's, I know for me they have been extra stressful this year. Up's and down's are normal! Think of all the good you have in your life and I am sure it will put a smile on your face. Hug's to you! AP:)
YoMomma Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Don't really know why, it just goes up and down. Could be the holidays. Woke up missing xmm today. Plus I had to drive by his house today to get to where I was going. I guess I didn't have to, but I did. After that happened lots of good memories came flooding back. UGGGGH SH*T! No it's not a stalker thing, that's just the way it is. quote] Boy... OH Boy! Must be in the stars today? I had to drive into the town where my XMM lives today too to pick up a family member. Talk about feeling like a stalker, YIKES! To add salt to the wound I had to go into a food store, because the family member wanted to "pick something up" - if I could have hid in the shopping cart I would have!
IngenueMisnomer Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 You're not alone kym I'm having a tough day as well and so it seems are many others. I was going to start a thread of my own about that but when I saw yours I decided to reply here instead. I don't know what it is. I got an email from him today, he seems kinda hurt because I didn't make an effort to talk to him during our last week. I just feel so weak right now, I'm trying so hard to keep myself from reaching out to him or changing my mind . I can't believe I'm already like this when NC doesn't even officially start until the 1st. How bad am I going to be after 1 or 2 weeks?! I'm so glad that I can come to this site for support and encouragment. It seems like I'll really be needing it .
Author kymberann Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 Heya gals, thanks for replying! Yep, still a tough day. Maybe most of us were meant to have a tough day of things today?? I had to do some running around. Of course some of the places I went were places I went with MM to as well. Uggghh. Reminders. I don't know why it is just hitting me harder today. I too am getting over a icky cold. Yesterday all I could do was lay around and sleep. I feel better but it's still dragging me down. My kids were sick through christmas, now i have it. ANd why did it seem like everywhere Iwent today, there were couples EVERYWHERE!! Not that I don't particularly mind, I just noticed it more today??? ANd get this, I was kind of seeing someone new, nice distraction, but he is too high maintenance, expects me to do most of the work. I'm over that, but it bugs me! I can't believe I'm already like this when NC doesn't even officially start until the 1st. How bad am I going to be after 1 or 2 weeks?! Ingeniue, maybe you are mentally preparing yourself for NC now?? Just hang in there! If you reach out now or try to change it, it will hurt in the long run! You've set a dead line, made your mind up now don't falter! Sorry YoMamma, nothin worse than stalker status, especially when you don't even mean anything by it! Thanks GUest! Can't wait till the sun is actually shining!!! Hey pure are you into numerology? I certainly hope this next year is filled with new beginnings! Funny you should mention being "put on track"! I am going to run a half marathon in two weeks! My first one of the year!It is in the southern part of Utah so the climate should be nice and warm for running! Thanks Pure for your confidence! Ok you all... Tomorrow is another day! Last day of the year! Thank God for that! Best
noforgiveness Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Interesting you find the new guy high maintenance. Maybe that's why you are attracted to mm. They can't be high maintenance. Too busy with other commitments. Sorry you are having a rough time.
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Interesting you find the new guy high maintenance. Maybe that's why you are attracted to mm. They can't be high maintenance. Too busy with other commitments. Sorry you are having a rough time. No forgiveness..If you think that for one moment that being a OW does not come with sorrows and maintenance then you are only thinking one way... Eveyone has different commitments, people get divorced and re-marry and they have previous commitments.... relationships do not end because of divorce, sometimes they are enhanced because of it... Life is a journey....
puddleofmud Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 She didn't say he was a reminder of the EX so why would you? She is having a bad day and trying to get OVER it--bejeebus, woman, just let it BE will ya? Should SHE chime in and say that it reminded her of her ex then we ALL can harp on it.. But NONE of us were so invited so when one has no invitation to a party one does not attend..it's just common decency.
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 She didn't say he was a reminder of the EX so why would you? She is having a bad day and trying to get OVER it--bejeebus, woman, just let it BE will ya? Should SHE chime in and say that it reminded her of her ex then we ALL can harp on it.. But NONE of us were so invited so when one has no invitation to a party one does not attend..it's just common decency. sometimes people see things only one way and once they have thier mind made up then they make things a reality.... Must be that Kymberman is afraid of comittment hence the need to be with a MM and if she meets a single man oh yep he is high matenence so back to the MM because OW is just so damm devious to want another womans man blah blah blah blah... That is what was implied here...
puddleofmud Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 sometimes people see things only one way and once they have thier mind made up then they make things a reality.... Must be that Kymberman is afraid of comittment hence the need to be with a MM and if she meets a single man oh yep he is high matenence so back to the MM because OW is just so damm devious to want another womans man blah blah blah blah... That is what was implied here... And of course we all know after having read Kymber's post that she is JUST THE TYPE OF WOMEN TO FALL PREY to feeling so badly about herself that she would just go right back "there". NOT!!! Frankly, I am trying to figure out what exactly is the issue with women moving forward with their lives as it doesn't seem to be so much about the OW but more about the woman who takes control of her LIFE...
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 And of course we all know after having read Kymber's post that she is JUST THE TYPE OF WOMEN TO FALL PREY to feeling so badly about herself that she would just go right back "there". NOT!!! Frankly, I am trying to figure out what exactly is the issue with women moving forward with their lives as it doesn't seem to be so much about the OW but more about the woman who takes control of her LIFE... Yep.... well said
JLO22 Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Yep me too....... I miss my EX so much! I will be spending new years with my single firends this female firends. Not that, that is a problem but I do want to be cuddle up with my man this year as all ways, these times of the year seems to be this way when you are single and used to be with someone!!! So I wish you all the best and LETS LEAVE ALL SADNESS IN 2006 and bring 2007 in right and make it a good one! Hope you are feeling better.
pricillia Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Yep me too....... I miss my EX so much! I will be spending new years with my single firends this female firends. Not that, that is a problem but I do want to be cuddle up with my man this year as all ways, these times of the year seems to be this way when you are single and used to be with someone!!! So I wish you all the best and LETS LEAVE ALL SADNESS IN 2006 and bring 2007 in right and make it a good one! Hope you are feeling better. Yes but sometimes from one year to the next.... ah it feels just like yesterday...
Author kymberann Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 Cripes sake!! It takes one person to just TWIST it around doesn't it! No, new guy does not remind me of MM, I am typically not attracted to Married Men in general. Wait a minute what the hell.. I don't NEED to give NF an explanation. Pricilia, I think you are right as to what is implied here. What's happened, happened. I can't change that.. and hell NO I am not going back there! I am moving forward and having these "tough days" is part of the process. One thing that being with MM has taught me is how I expect other single guys to treat me. This single guy may be high maintenance. I refuse to do all the work. I had to do a lot of the work with MM. Sitting waiting changing my schedule around just to be with MM. I am not doing that any more. Any one new in my life will have to adjust to my schedule. MM taught me that! Life is a journey.... Each and every one of us are in a different path along this journey. And rightly so of our own choosing. This place should be for support no matter where you are, not for people with a personal vendetta about their own personal lives to assume something that is not!
lovernotafighter Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 Interesting you find the new guy high maintenance. Maybe that's why you are attracted to mm. They can't be high maintenance. Too busy with other commitments. Sorry you are having a rough time. why is your husband fugly or something??
Author kymberann Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 They can't be high maintenance. Too busy with other commitments. Here is another thing, if your MM was too busy with other committments then he wouldn't have had time for an affair now would he?
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