i want to much Intimacy from my husband

[ohmy3]

i want to much Intimacy from my husband... like every night of the week (not all the time) like the bad week every month but i love him a lot even after 10 1/2 yrs. marriage and 2 kids that are growing and not so needy i have now in the last 1-2 yrs. been trying to be able to go back to focus more on us and i love sex w/ him-- he just said last night then tried to take it back after he seen it made me sad it's better when it isn't every night.......... like when we had engaged in sex a few nights before and skipped 1 night that he was more into it which is true i have the marks all over my neck (LOL....) but i just do not know what i am suppose to tell myself i have been a lo more needy for him over the past 6 months i mean like hug him more tell him i love him more do things i never ever thought i would do in the bedroom all my ideas but i guess i have thought they were things he wanted and just to shy to ask i just do not know what to do i am the 1 whom is the aggressor in the relationship and 99% of the time approach him for sex and he always appeases me but isn't to in to to often . i try everything i can poss. do to get him into it like i said things i never have let anyone do to me or doing to him and well i do not know maybe I am m being to needy and want sex and sex acts to much w/ him that i have bored him please help............ we have a good marriage................. but he has also told me i am trying to hard to do things for him more than i ever used to and that he loves me and doing more things for him won't make him love me anymore than he already dose? i keep telling him i love him so much and would do and let him do anything w/ me! and it seems like i am talkign another lanuage than he is.................. i am good in the looks dept. so i wondered if ia m jsut boaring now although when we talked about this issue he says no and he love everytime we have sex but we both seems to be more into it (me more than him most the time) when it is not so often and i feel like he jsut has sex w. me anymore out of gulit as he said so now your mad then he will make a move and that makes me feel bad to i jsut do not know what all yto think there is not a thing i haven't done sexaul well between us to please him....... what am i doing wrong,

[norajane]

Wow, most men would love to have your H's problem! So many posters here complain their wives hardly ever want sex.

 

First, it's possible that you are starting to hit your sexual peak - that makes some of us ladies desire sex way more often than before. So, I don't think there's anything wrong with you wanting to boink your H every day!!

 

However, it might be a good idea to listen to him and back off a little. By doing "everything" to please him in bed, you may be making him feel guilty for not doing enough for you. And if his sex drive isn't matching yours (such a curse as men peak younger than women!), then he is telling you the truth when he says it is better for him to skip a day or two in between rounds. Also, as he's getting older, his plumbing doesn't work the same way as when he was younger - he may not be able to get it up as often as you would like, or it's harder for him to do so, and he could be sensitive to that.

 

Basically, you are trying to do all kinds of things in an effort to please him - but he is telling you that you that to really please him, you need to back off a little. Maybe you could try every other day for while, and masturbate on the off-days?

[IpAncA]

I was thinking pretty much the same thing.

 

I would kick it down a couple of notches.